1. Intimate dialogue: how to express a claim with a lover
Intimate dialogue: how to express a claim with a lover
Getting rid of my problems: social skills.
The skills of communication with lovers (including partners, lovers, etc.) are not so hard to learn, but rather the mentalities that are needed to communicate.
At the moment, there are a lot of “the mind” about love that is popular on the Internet, but it’s not very healthy.
Many people have learned a lot of skills, but they don’t know how to use them with the right mindset, so if they find the feedback wrong, they lose their mind and even lose their temper.
The sense of being loved is more important than learning to be loved.
A girl accidentally touched her boyfriend’s bottom line: an impulse to break up.
Boys were very concerned about that and had a big fight with the woman, and although she had made up the couple thanks to her efforts, the boyfriend’s attitude was far too cold compared to that of the girl, who was very nervous and did not know how to get back together.
At the time, the girl was almost sifted by her own friends, many of whom said that she had asked for it, often to break up, and boys would no longer appreciate their feelings, and now the boy’s reaction must have been to look for a horse and wait to be dumped in minutes.
Even if she can’t split her hands, the girl has no right now. She deserves it.
Let’s change our perspective:
First of all, it’s not very healthy in itself to be in a position of being in a relationship, and it’s quite normal to be in a relationship with a lover.
Second, after the boy had been pushed through the bottom line, no matter how reluctant, he compromised the girl’s request for peace, which was in itself a sign of “the man still loves the woman”.
It’s a simple question to realize that the other is still in love with himself.
Quite a mistake. It’s normal to accept the fact that you’ve done something wrong in the first place, and that the other party’s emotions and anger are still there.
Since the other side had given up, it was so angry that it had compromised its peace demands. One step back, and one step back, see what the other needs, and the medication. However, they are not forced to respond, nor are they forced to listen to themselves.
It does not really need to be speculated as to whether the other side is riding a donkey or not, because the present compromise of the man is visible and his motives need to be justified in time. Therefore, there is no need to be so desperate or desperate to ask questions and to observe them.
Yes, a seemingly incomprehensible problem, the solution is that simple.
Even if they don’t speak, they don’t know the sweet words, they can do it in minutes.
Many things in emotional life are like that.
When I realized that I was in love, I was very willing to give it to myself.
Many people feel unhappy and loveless because they set too high a standard for being loved, so they simply don’t feel the other half in love with themselves, and they don’t want to give or compromise.
Many desire not love, but love.
Their true love is when they fall asleep, when they get a pillow, when they cry, when they say the perfect consolation, when they yearn for candy, when others give themselves a box of songs.
If others did not give him what he wanted, but woke him up when they fell asleep, were clumsy to advise him when they cried, and were eager for candy to tell him that your teeth are not suitable for sugar now, they would fall apart and feel that the world does not love them and that so-called love is a lie.
If the standards of love are so high, then most people in the world are indeed loveless.
The problem is that love is not as scarce in the world as it is, but it is very scarce in the way that you want it to express it perfectly and precisely.
Many bloggers say that only when you learn to love someone you can be loved. This consensus is in reality and should be reversed: only when one learns to be loved can one learn to love.
Learning to be loved is divided into two parts, one to distinguish between whether the goodwill of the other is true or deceiving, and the other to expand the reach of love and open the skylight to see the world.
Here you have to be careful: learn to be loved, not just to experience the love that lovers give you.
Love is like air, everywhere, like shadows, and apart from love itself, affection, friends, appreciations, support among colleagues, so little goodwill from strangers…
It’s actually love.
Big enough for your lover to give you what you like, and when you’re in line, they give you a seat.
Don’t rush to set standards for love, set a bottom line, those good intentions that are good for you, that are real for you, and don’t worry about the way to satisfy yourself, feel it, and then tell yourself that I’m loved, and I have to respond to each other.
It is only when you realize that you are loved that you understand each other ‘ s emotions and that you understand each other ‘ s emotions that you can make a more win-win approach that meets the common interests of both sides.
Perception of the goodwill and love of others is the basis for learning to be present.
Those who are very, very good at communication, and very good at talking, not just because they speak, but because there are a significant number of people with a strong sense of perception who, after being aware of the good will of the other, respond quickly, thus making the initiative feel: I’ve given something worth giving, and I’m willing to continue.
This is a necessary mindset for people who know how to love and are confident and self-reliant, and, as to how to do it, the articles that follow the column will be detailed.
Trying to grab a partner only makes it worse.
The Internet is widely used for a variety of techniques, such as “squealing a partner” and even subdivided into people of different ages, blood groups and constellations.
Are these experiences wrong?
No, many of the techniques do work, and I do research myself.
But I can tell you in a responsible way that if you’re obsessed with “squealing your partner” and you really squeeze your partner with some skills, then this man, unless he just wants to make a quick profit, is not far from a bad ending.
Don’t test human beings.
And it is also an extreme test of humanity.
If you really succeed, that means you can manipulate your relationship for a long time, your partner’s emotions, your partner’s thoughts, even the TA’s views on you, and you can do that by words.
Human nature is selfish. How many people in such an environment can be able to keep their own minds completely and really treat each other as an equal individual, rather than in the name of arbitrary injury control?
If you have made a mistake, then can you also make a mistake by using a trick to make the other one understand the other?
In spite of my experience and observation, those who are obsessed with emotional skills, and who really learn something, not only do they not appreciate it more, but rather, when they taste sweetness, they are increasingly unappreciated: it is a skill to be happy or unhappy with each other, so why really give it to each other in order to be serious?
The problem is that few people are really stupid in these days, and that’s all that’s going to happen.
By that time, will people really continue to feel the loss of love?
So if you want to be human, you can learn your skills, and they do improve the details of your life, but that’s all they mean.
Unless you are trying to get away directly and do a short-term deal, the most useful way to deal with it is to be honest.
Imagine, when we were little, maybe there was something we wanted, something we wanted to do, and sometimes the parents used to make us give it up with some soft-and-so talk, like, “It’s not worth it.”
At first there was little experience that might believe it, but a little thought would get the doorway. Were you then the ones who felt their parents’ skills, or did you think your intelligence was being insulted?
The best thing to move people’s minds is always the sincerity of the place.
(Key things over and over again)
And to add here, it is estimated that there will be a lot of people who say, “No, I look at the xx, or the xx, which I know on the Internet, and there will be lots of ways, and there will be no problems.
For such people, I suggest that you not just listen to them, but look carefully at what they do when you have the opportunity.
When you talk about it as if you’ve really touched this man, and when you’ve seen the interaction between them, you can see that most of them have no idea of what they’re talking about. On the contrary, the way they can maintain a long-term relationship is to be consistent, to be positive, to have a strong will to love and to be supportive of their families.
Their lovers are not all fools; in fact, they get so much love and support because they know very well that their partner is a very worthy one.
Some people, they’re just used to saying hi, or they’re just good things when they think about things. There is nothing wrong with being bragging about the calves, and we, as listeners, have nothing to do with anything else.
If you want each other to love you, don’t say it.
Many people, instead of being unloved, did good things and couldn’t keep their mouths shut.
It’s a happy, happy thing to say. You can’t remember what you’re doing.
The dialogue between lovers, “no revenge” is a necessary thought.
Take a real example.
There was a boy who found out that his girlfriend wanted a very expensive gift and wanted to save money for it.
Boys did not agree with the girl ‘ s view of the gift, but they did not like the way she saved money and bought it themselves. At the same time, however, boys would like to take this opportunity to discuss with girls the issue of consumption perceptions and how to save money for two people.
Everyone tells boys how hard it is to live with a girl, how to regulate future consumption, how to improvise her consumption perception, and even how to say, “This girl likes luxury, but she’s actually saved.”
But who can remember the good of a man and remain in a good mood to accept a man who has a normal sense of self-respect in the face of such a pile of sages?
It would have been nice not to return the gift directly. If he’s the girl, he throws the present at himself and buys it, and he’s wearing a vanity hat.
Is a boy mean?
Certainly not, the willingness to offer a gift to the girl is an indication of his love for the girl and his willingness to discuss with the girl the management of the money and his desire to stay with the girl.
But the problem is, when a girl just gets a happy gift, she gets a lot of vendettas and says how hard she is and how hard she is, and how hard it is, and it’s not clear how to put a girl under moral pressure and conveys it to her.” I didn’t volunteer. You fucked me. You’re a 1st-class Zai Jin girl. I was forced to burn money for you. Do boys really think that? No, but there’s been a misunderstanding.
Why would there be such a misunderstanding? It’s really simple.
In fact, something like this, you’ve been through it a little more or less: ask, if you have a gift that you really want, your parents give you. But just as you’re not happy, Mom and Dad are not happy with your face and your balabala, how hard can it be for poor parents to be grateful for you to learn to be serious about how much money you have to make and how hard you have to repay your family?
It’s the same in love.
We have done good for the other, and it is very normal to expect each other to remember their own good.
It’s because of this normal mind that we should be more careful not to make each other feel grateful, at least not vengeful, and not to tell you in a fight, “You didn’t buy it for me, did I? I’m sorry.
Now that money and energy have been spent, what makes sense is what matters most.
The question whether this gift is worth it or not is not at the core.
It’s easy to get away with it.
Go back to the example above.
Indeed, gifts are expensive and, if they remain so consumed, they are not an appropriate way of living.
But think calmly: is there a relationship between bookkeeping and the purchase of gifts?
It may seem, but not in the long run.
Because if you don’t want to buy this gift, if you want to make a good life, you have to learn to keep an account. In essence, the bookkeeping is one of the “survivals” that small couples have to learn.
And what is the meaning of the gift? It’s about making each other happy.
So if I’m this guy, and my girlfriend talks about this gift. I’d be happy to compliment the gift and to compliment it from a point of view that would be appropriate for the money, but not for the money itself.
For example:
“Baby, I think this xx is good, a lot of people say it can be used for a long time, and it’s so beautiful, you have a good look. We can continue to study if there’s something that’s good for you in the long run. I’m sorry.
As for financial management, wait a little longer.
At this point, even when a girlfriend talks about a gift, she can say:
“I want to have a better life with you, but a better life has to cost and save money. It’s an important ability for us, and I want to be with you for a long time and bring you a better life, so we can work together, save more money and buy you more beautiful gifts to make our children a better life. I’m sorry.
You don’t have to be on the other side to get your advice.
Again, communication is about working together to win.
It is not non-existent to make the other party happy and to be able to do the same.
Of course, if your lover is indeed a desperate, hopeless person, then my suggestion is two words: break up.
There is a need for mutual understanding between human beings. She does not understand you, and you certainly do not have to.
It is not a mockery, but a unified view of men and women, such as emotional zones, torn apart.
After all, it’s no use talking to people like that.
The above is a very useful, and direct, mental adjustment programme in communicating with lovers.
As to the more specific cases and methods of operation that follow, the articles continue to be updated and continued attention to the column is welcome.
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Getting rid of my problems: social skills.
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