2. Silent dialogue: sensory, sometimes more important than mouth
Silent dialogue: sensory, sometimes more important than mouth
Getting rid of my problems: social skills.
Sensory is something that is of little concern to everyone, but it is an important ability in itself.
It not only helps to increase the efficiency of communication, but also helps to become a self-confident, self-esteem, self-loved person, and improves the atmosphere to attract equally interesting people and make life better.
Sensory is not a mystery at all. It’s very simple.
After reading this article, you can fully understand.
In particular, the sense of love and love.
Sensory is essentially about feeling loved and being used to being surrounded by love and goodwill.
A person with a strong sense can make a difference:
One, not every thing gives him the love he needs.
Understanding and accepting differences between human beings,
3 At the same time, while being pleased, we know how to find a point of convergence between the two so that we can lead each other to a way that is acceptable and that is just what they want, and that leads to win-win.
When we understand “sensitization,” we’re thinking “how to improve.”
In fact, when your senses rise, you feel better than your feelings, and it’s easier to get into A’s mind, even in “negotiating.”
Change your modesty and say thank you.
It is a good habit to be modest, but modesty is strictly the essence of a man who knows and is good, who keeps him in the air and is not too confident.
But if you don’t know the senses, if you’re not very good, you can easily be caught in the wrong zone of self-confidence and self-loathing, and become less well communicated, less well communicated.
First of all, the inherent logic of humility is that I feel the good will of the world, but I treat it rationally and not fascinated.
But at the moment, many people understood modesty as “I’m uneasy in the face of the goodwill of the outside world and even think about how to push it off.”
When they have such modesty, they worry about whether they’re not worthy in all kinds of situations.
Lovers give themselves a gift, think about it, or try to give it back.
He likes you and wants to give it to you.
It’s not a bad thing in itself to give back the good to one another.
But we must be clear that helping you today does not mean you have to help back tomorrow.
In particular, friends, family members and lovers are inherently long-term relationships, so there is absolutely no need to say ” give back ” , just to stay with each other when they need them, and to give each other what they can give and what they need.
The one who doesn’t take gifts from friends and lovers at all, is the one who’s really educated?
Of course not, after taking it, I didn’t know it was wrong. I knew it was okay to be loved.
If that is not enough, then nothing will be done and nothing will be done.
The logic of “no gift at all” is that “you shouldn’t give me, so I’m going to give it back right away,” so what if someone with such an idea felt bad that you wouldn’t even accept the love of the closest person?
Second, this so-called modesty makes it easy to live in your own world.
Many people call themselves unloved, essentially unloved, who believe that love is the one who can quickly and accurately sense their needs and give perfect feedback in the way they want.
The question is, how many of these people do exist?
How can there be so many complaints from men and women in this world if everyone knows so much about communication and really loves others?
This is another issue that has long held the same mentality: it is easy to become, without looking at love and goodwill beyond those of its own concern.
Do they really care if others like themselves?
No, they’re very concerned, otherwise there wouldn’t be so much blame up there.
The problem is that if their vision is so small and they see only that high standard and demanding love, unless they are lucky enough to meet someone who has the ability to love and to give, and who is willing to spend the rest of his life with them instead of fooling around, they simply cannot be happy every day.
After all, in this world Romantik’s sweet love is a few things, and it’s the small ones who are fortunate that life is normal.
So the “sensitization” is being raised, and the first thing is to change the wrong “consumption.”
It’s a very simple way to change a little habit.
There is no need for a staffing set-up, which can be fully accessible to all.
When others show you good will, whether big or small, or when a colleague gives you a fruit, or when the leader says you take a break, don’t think if it causes trouble to the other, or if it’s not a running exercise, so long as it’s good and helpful for you.
It doesn’t have to be too much to stress. Just smile and say “thank you.”
Learn to accept that “everyone loves someone differently.” This fact, although not everyone can give you exactly what you want.
But it’s a warm and happy thing, isn’t it?
“Thank you.”
In the case of particularly close people, the formula for thanks could be changed to “thank you + reason”.
This reason is not for you to analyze what the other party is doing, but to guess why the other side is showing you good will.
For example, lovers want you to rest early and not always play with your phone.
You can say, “Thank you, baby. You’re worried about my eyes, right? I’m sorry.
The formula, on the one hand, allows you to understand each other’s ideas in a way that makes both sides happy, and, on the other hand, to train yourself to learn to understand the good of others in a way that allows you to get to know each other.
People are human beings, not worms, because everyone is born different.
Different looks, different personalities, different ways of doing things, and naturally different ways of loving people.
The fact that a stranger does not love you at first sight does not mean that the other person has no good will towards you, much less that you do not deserve to be treated properly.
But the way they showed you kindness at that time was to give you a seat and give you a tissue while you were crying.
It’s not the same thing that people don’t treat you the way you want.
Sometimes it’s just because they love you the way you expect.
Put down the modesty of “I’m not that good, I need to reflect” “No one else wants to be so good to you” and say thank you.
No matter how much of the good will, learn to find, thank, respond.
You’ll suddenly find that there are actually a lot of good people in the world and they’re good to you.
And you are not so alone because you can feel their kindness through their deeds, and with thanks you show their understanding and response.
And your kind thanks are also a positive feedback.
Let those who love you feel your understanding of the TA, and naturally the TA will be more motivated to continue to release your kindness.
Eventually, a positive cycle.
Accept the goodwill of the other, and no one will be the same as you, so there will be a time for dissent.
This is a time to learn from the diplomacy of the great Powers.
Properly “cool” and be careful when you open your mouth.
The cold treatment here is cold violence.
Cold violence consists of forcing the other to do what he thinks, through verbal humiliation and attitudinal neglect.
And the cold treatment is: deal with your own (and the other) negative emotions before dealing with the problem, and calm down and talk about it later.
In the history of the great powers, cold violence is akin to the Cold War.
The cold-treatment is “set aside the dispute and develop together”.
In fact, many problems do not need to be solved, nor can they be solved.
For the time being, both sides calm down, not to avoid problems, but to resolve them in a more mature and peaceful manner.
The same applies to communication.
Although we have always advocated learning to understand different expressions of love.
But we often experience a situation in which reason is acceptable, but it is not understandable. Even if it were to be understood, it would be difficult to express it in the right way in the first place.
This is the “inherent logic” of many conflicts between parents and children: I know that my parents love me, and I know that they’re for my own good, but I’m still tired of some things, whether I’m going to fight with them or not, or whether there’s no way to communicate quickly and effectively with words that satisfy everyone.
We must be clear on one thing: communication can be an end or a means.
We need to judge, on a case-by-case basis, whether the role of communication at this time is an end or a means.
As in the above situation, “communication with parents” is clearly an end, at least a stage.
So, the first thing we have to do is not “how to communicate with parents”, but “how to get an opportunity to communicate effectively with parents”.
It is clearly not the best time to communicate that arguments are being fought and that both sides are clearly emotional.
Therefore, if you feel that this is not the right time to communicate, then the best way is not to communicate, not to express.
How?
Silence, pissing, pretending to have a phone call…
The above method, chosen at will, is possible.
If it turns out that the conversation is not the right time, do not speak, do not enter the room deliberately with the face down or fall on purpose.
If you don’t talk, you don’t talk, or you just find an excuse to say that you’re working, that your teacher is looking for you, to answer the phone, to pretend you’re talking, to stop for about ten minutes.
As a general rule, the air was halved (except for particularly serious problems).
Don’t rush to communicate, do whatever you want, talk to each other as you like.
If the other party responds, it will be handled normally, and if the other party does not respond, then the other party will be left in peace, and the atmosphere will be normal and the matter will be discussed.
In this way, the problem can be resolved in a more peaceful manner, without loss.
Silence does not solve the problem, but proper silence can solve the mood and can also make you less verbally abused and less beaten.
As a person who used to be very close to his parents, I’m reluctant to conflict with his parents in that hard way.
After all, there’s a difference between parents and me. Even if they were willing to apologize to me and communicate with me afterwards, I was beaten and yelled at, and I couldn’t take it back, and I was in fact at a loss.
I’m a man who doesn’t want to lose, even when I’m scolded.
Of course, the above is limited to normal daily bickering, and if it is a matter of principle, it cannot be avoided, it is a matter of making up, it is a matter of making up, it is a matter of being hard.
But the premise is that it is really a matter of principle. If it was possible that the big things involved principles, it was not necessarily the other party that had a problem with it, but it was possible that it had done so.
If they love you, but the way is wrong, how can they feel it?
Learn to use a phrase like, “I do feel a little bad, but I guess you…”
As has already been said, the point of sense is to understand each other ‘ s goodwill towards themselves and to accept it.
After expressing thanks to each other, find what the parties can get in common.
And it may be said, “What can I say if I cannot bear the good will of the other, and it is of no use to me?” If it makes me uncomfortable, should I bear it?
Of course not, if that situation were to be tolerated, it would become a favored personality.
We should not accept all the ways that we feel sorry for ourselves, but we should also present them, but the methods that we propose can be skillful.
Here’s a very good one-size-fits-all formula, which basically fits into any situation:
“I do feel a little bad, but I guess you…”
For example, you’re in a bad mood, asking for consolation, you’re being advised, and you’re not feeling well, even though you know the other.
The other side saw it and asked if it upsets you.
You can say:
“I do feel a little pain, but I guess you’re saying that because of concern and chaos, and you’re not usually the same person, and you’re so anxious to see me. I’m sorry.
The underlying logic of this formula is:
Let’s be honest about our negative emotions, but not stress them. Rather, it is a turn to guess what the purpose of communicating with the other side is. Unless the other party is clearly malicious or humiliating, it can be considered from the perspective of past goodwill.
What’s that?
First of all, your methods do hurt me a little.
Secondly, but I will not lose sight of your goodwill because I am emotional, and on the contrary, I am not only on my own initiative, but I am also very pleased that you are so kind to me.
Through a pre- and post-preliminary approach, on the one hand, the understanding of the other is expressed and, on the other, the emotions are transmitted in a dignified manner.
In that way, the other side felt it understood and was very pleased and naturally willing to continue with your goodwill.
And you can also leave a pen to study, when both sides have time, how to achieve “the way that both are happy, but can express love and goodwill”, which is what we often say.
In my own experience, for example, I have experienced ways of being loved less than I can be satisfied.
I met a very bad man and thing, which had a very bad effect on me and for a long time plunged me into a negative mood.
Because I couldn’t help it, I discussed it with my friends on several occasions, who first comforted me, then analyzed it with me and found out that I was in a bad situation and asked if I wanted to talk to professionals. I couldn’t hear her because I was in a mood.
At that point, she said, “At that moment, the atmosphere between two people fell into the ice:
“You keep telling me this, but if I stay up all night talking to you, I feel like I can’t help you at all, and you keep telling me that I’m so upset, so anxious, so weak that I can’t have a good day. If one thing doesn’t go away, it will have a great impact on my mood. I’m sorry.
According to some online sources, it’s probably my friend who doesn’t care about me that much. She cares more about her feelings than about my emotions.
I was very unhappy when I was surrounded by negative emotions, and I thought that I was friends, so I didn’t have to fight, but the whole person was very negative and eventually displeased.
The next day, because of work needs, we speak as usual. I can feel her tension and anxiety, and she talks about her work while she looks carefully at my emotions.
And I felt at once that it was pointless for a man who was not worthy of it, to argue with his beloved. From her point of view, she did feel anxiety and anguish as her friends become worse, without change or improvement.
To think of it, I said to my friend:
“I did feel a little bad, but after I thought about you, I think I can understand why you’re upset. You want me to go as far as I can, but I’ve wasted my time, my energy and even my health because of this crap. You’re so upset about me. I’m sorry.
My friend was relieved and held me tight.
There had been some tension that had been broken by it, and she had clearly said more. After some time, we began to discuss how to avoid similar situations, and she took up a lot of practical options with me, and I learned a lot to feel better with her.
As for the garbage, it’s pretty quick to get rid of the mood.
“Communication is an art of understanding and win-winness.”
Understanding means doing things and not being taken away by emotions. The other side was good to itself, kept in mind and responded; the other side did not have a good way of doing so, and the proposal would have been made.
Win-win, which means that the purpose of communication is not to make others listen to themselves, but to find an acceptable solution that can be comfortable with each other. In this process, there must be things and practices that cannot be accepted on their own for the time being, understanding each other, understanding each other’s good, and guiding each other to be better for themselves, i.e., important lubricant in the grinding process.
These are some of the skills to improve your senses, and to make it easier for you to understand, they are written in more detail, but after reading them, I am sure you will find something.
Of course, it is not that everyone is required to be so-called a gentleman, and being a gentleman is exhausting. We have learned to capture the goodwill of the outside world for the sake of our own happiness, not to be grateful.
So, if some of the groups look to you as irrelevant, whatever they want, there’s no need to understand them, just do what they want, and it’s important to be polite, to live in a short time and to have fun in time.
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