4. To give up “sniffing” and to communicate.
Give up the “sniffing mind” and make it work.
Getting rid of my problems: social skills.
What are the biggest taboos of communication?
Now, whether it be a communication or a voice, one of the most vulnerable, damaging, and easily ignored, is the “bar thinking.”
The problem at the skill level is actually a good solution, but if problems arise at the level of thinking and do not adjust quickly, the consequences are endless.
What the hell is this?
It’s an addiction.
No matter what others say, first of all, challenge the thorns and object to them. I’m sorry.
And it’s about thinking and thinking and putting it into action.
They think back, not by finding problems, solving problems and finding consensus, but by venting emotions, obfuscating contradictions, having to win on their own and overexposing emotions.
This is a very bad mindset, with many bad chain reactions.
What are the concrete manifestations of this?
There are several main manifestations:
“How to make each other unhappy” is a focus that ignores the original purpose of communication.
There is a very bad mood on the Internet: when a lot of people have a conflict, the first thing to think about is not “how to solve it,” but “how to make it sound politically, or through harsh words,” so that it’s easy to argue between a woman-in-law and a couple.
Feels good?
But can this approach solve the problem, in addition to increasing dissatisfaction on both sides?
Can’t.
The intrinsic logic of this habit is not to help the two sides deal with the problem together, but to say, “I’m unhappy, I don’t care, I want you to be as unhappy as I am.”
It’s customary to say the word “danger.”
I wanted to communicate, but I didn’t want to talk to each other.
More than lovers, sons and daughters, they have a lot to say in their hearts, but they don’t say anything to each other. They’re wrong and they’re not happy.
Whatever happens, just go up.
This is a big trend that is now very popular on the Internet, and one thing to conclude is that if you don’t like it, you have to be positive:
Parents make themselves unhappy, Kong!
The outsiders are making themselves unhappy. Heads up!
The leader’s making himself unhappy.
People say things they don’t feel good about.
It’s not a problem in front of itself, but it doesn’t matter what happens. Too often, it’s just for a while, but the consequences of the follow-up are not for you, but for yourself.
Rotten.
Many people now do so and feel that they do well.
What’s the harm in a good-thinking conversation?
First, this in itself is a very unrealistic way of thinking, which inevitably leads to a great deal of displeasure.
Take the example of stylish.
Indeed, people who cannot communicate can break jars like each other and become unreasonable.
At the moment, it does seem easy and comfortable, and there is no need for tired good people. In the long term, however, the development of such intellectual habits can also affect the way people live with normal people.
A very brief example.
Knowing that there was a tens of thousands of wonderful answers, the author proudly stated that he had begun to rot and lie down. I was impressed by one of those words: “I met someone who couldn’t communicate, I opened the door and I copied it to my boss and people, and I was not used to it.”
Sounds great, doesn’t it?
But think about it: Do you really have so many bosses in real life who are ready to run their employees’ personal conflicts? On the contrary, in practice, most leaders do not care about these matters, and they prefer that the staff take care of them themselves, and that the leadership needs only the results of the work.
If there was really a contradiction in sending e-mails to their own employees, would they be helping to deal with the problems at hand, or would the impression of the employee get worse?
It’s not practical, it’s even a bad habit of dialogue, it’s affecting its reputation and subsequent development.
Second, to miss out on the best of times and even to cause themselves new problems.
Especially for people who like to bet, it’s probably a huge loss in this respect.
Take a realistic example.
Know the question: “Does it taste like a bit of sheep when my husband’s lamb is in a hot pot?”
In the title, the subject holder had repeatedly stressed that he could not stand the smell of sheep, and his husband had said so. But when he was having dinner with his relatives, his husband put lamb in the hot pot.
He thought his husband was doing it to embarrass himself, and he threw himself away.
Instead of being sorry, he complained about the big deal.
It’s a very typical case of “no, no, no, no.”
It’s really simple to tell your husband he can’t eat himself, change the pot, or make him order something else, eat it, and be angry.
It’s not too late to go home, either in brief or on the spot.
But how much did he lose because of his gambling?
It was a matter of self-control that became a “problem for both parties”. He must have been wrong to forget about the subject, but the way the subject had been handled wrong made the other man reason and became the one who made no sense.
I should have had a good meal, and I became hungry.
By way of this, he could have apologized for his husband’s loss of land, which gave him a chance to beat him.
In front of his relatives, his reputation was damaged. The problem clearly looks smaller than the problem of having to dump people on the spot and accidentally drop the wrong dish.
The question-maker did only what he wanted to do and expressed his feelings because he did not express it in the right way, not only because he did not get what he deserved, but because he lost a lot of good.
It is a very bad habit to gamble and talk, and its intrinsic logic is that “I must do this in a way that is not justified, you must let me”. If there is reason and good temper, perhaps others would be willing to step back. But if you meet someone with the same temperamental and unattractive atmosphere, this is equivalent to handing the other side one of its own. People don’t know what they’re doing wrong, but people know what you’re doing wrong.
Exultance is the devil, and he has been struck.
The best part is a mouth-talking, talking fast, seeing the other side with nothing to say and feeling particularly happy.
But in many cases, it’s over without saying you’re comfortable. On the contrary, those who speak unforgivablely often suffer from their own mouths.
If you don’t believe me, do you think that when you’re young, you fight with your parents, you fight with your angry parents, if you yell more, or if you talk to your parents and you don’t have anything to say?
Yes, many parents will apologize afterwards.
But even if it’s ugly, can you take it back? Obviously not.
The harm of thinking is enormous, both in communication and in real life.
In essence, it induces young people to act by their personality and to abandon control over their emotions. A man who loses control of his emotions tends to hurt himself and does not know how to deal with it.
Therefore, in order to avoid mined areas in communication, it is important, in addition to a small technical problem, to move away from thinking at the root. It is only when an adult is able to control his emotions that others are willing to listen to you.
How do you stop thinking?
In the past few years, it has been possible to build up the belief to protect themselves.
It’s not because people are afraid of them, it’s because “there’s nothing to do with them through the web.”
But if this habit is put into real life, it’s a completely different situation. It’s light to be hit back, and it’s likely to get hit again if it’s bad luck.
Especially for teenagers, I often say to children, “What good is it to you to be with your parents?” You have a natural disadvantage, both ethically and physically, even if your parents apologized to you afterwards. I’m sorry.
To do what you want and to express your views does not mean that you are “good at all times” and that you can’t afford to lose, let alone make us ordinary.
A simple example. There was a previous case on the Internet where a girl who went to college without telling her parents in advance saved a portion of her living expenses to buy an iPad. Parents are very angry when they know about it and feel that significant expenditure should not be left unsaid, which means disrespect for them.
Many people in the comment area encouraged young girls to argue with their parents, but I put forward the opposite view: it was not the time to fight. Let’s not say that it’s normal for a girl not to say in advance that her parents are emotional, but to say that when a grown-up is angry and has to fight on top of his head, he won’t be afraid of his parents getting angry and smashing his new tablet. In a similar situation, many children are believed to have experienced it.
It is important to learn to protect yourself when necessary.
In fact, it’s not that difficult to do it, so when everyone’s emotional situation is bad, we can look at the cold treatment of the chapter “Sension” and find an excuse and take a call, get out of the mood and calm down and think about what to do next.
It’s not just about “doing what you want,” but it’s about learning to avoid unnecessary harm.
You can calm down when you have to be positive and you don’t need to be positive.
Learn not to take things seriously.
In fact, most people can tell the difference between gambling and real anger. After all, it’s a bad word to know, but some are too damaging to ignore.
If you don’t want to fight, the best way to do it is to “don’t pick up” it, to do it properly, to do your own thing, not only to keep yourself from getting angry, but also to give each other room for calm.
It’s not too late to tell each other what your words actually upset me when everyone’s out of their temper.
Of course, counter-attacks are also counter-attacked when the other side is uncompromising.
Learn how to meet people on board.
This proposal does not require that people be treated differently from others, but rather that, in the face of different types of people, the tone of the speech be adjusted to avoid, to the extent possible, other problems that arise outside communication.
A very simple example is that of the elderly, especially the elders. The politics on the Internet is “not to be used to them,” but in real life, if it’s really like the Internet, it’s a very risky thing to go to people, especially to the unbridled “just” elders.
This is not because young people have to respect their love for their children and follow them, but because the older view is far less important for young people than their health. It is very good for the elderly to remain healthy and good.
Older people are much more vulnerable than young people, and young people are dying to pass out, let alone older people. Once there is one, two, three, two, one, one, one, one, two, one, one, one, one, two, one, one, two, three, three, three, three, three, one, one, one, three, three, three, three, one, one, one, one, three, one, one, one, one, one, two, three, three, three, three, one, one, one, one, three, one, one, one, one, one, three, one, one, one, two, three, one, one, one, three, three, one, one, one, one, one, one, one, one, three, three, one, three, three, one, one, three, three, one, one, one, one, one, one, two, three, three, three, one, one, one, one, one, two, one, one, two, two, two, one, one, two, one, one, one, two, two, one, one, two, one, one, two, two, two, two, two, two, two, one, one, two, one
At this time, Internet users are still in a large group of young people, and there may be a lack of sufficient awareness of the amount of time and money needed to care for the elderly.
I have seen a case in which a young daughter-in-law, faced with an unsatisfied mother-in-law, was able to “show her to talk”, and one day she achieved a full victory in her quarrel. In response, the mother-in-law was successfully brought to hospital, requiring long-term care. Since then, the husband has resigned and the family income has been reduced directly by half, not to mention the standard of living.
For specific groups and special situations, the balance of words is not simply a sign of weakness, or an unbridled habit, but rather for clearer objectives and longer-term interests.
Try a few times: focus on your goals
What exactly should we do? To put it simply, it is to think of what one wants to do, what one wants to achieve, and then try to communicate with others in order to achieve it.
First-time targets can be simpler, not too big, for example, if you want to buy something, or if you need help.
In this process, it is necessary to consider, for the time being, the difficulties it has suffered, to consider its own objectives and to try it repeatedly until it is achieved.
It would be sufficient to follow its own daily style, not to be too obfuscated about its own words, and even if it was wrong, not to give up or force itself to be treated in the same way as another.
There are only two things to note:
Always keep in mind their objectives, do not give up, do not get out of the way, and always remind themselves to stay out of the way.
Don’t be angry if you don’t.
The process is not simply about the exercise of the art of speaking, but about helping to develop a clear way of thinking, always remembering what it really wants, and at the same time making itself stronger and more receptive — in more general terms, to being more realistic and more business-oriented.
A man who does not like to be greedy and who has a clear purpose can achieve his or her goals more quickly and with greater probabilities than others is less likely to generate too much negative emotion in the process.
One of the important reasons why many people think well is that they find it difficult to accept the difficulties and rejections of the outside world. So the first thing that comes to mind is how to deal with it, but in the process we forget what we started out with, and are controlled by emotions.
But in fact, it’s one of the things that’s normal in life.
Learning not to be impatient and to focus on one’s goals is not only a process of exercise, but also a process of increasing acceptance of day-to-day inconvenientness, and of accepting daily incompatibilities in order to better understand other people’s feelings and, ultimately, to develop the most important qualities of communication: changing positions of thought.
Communication is a two-way process, and people themselves are making progress as communication advances.
Learning to control your emotions at the level of your mind, far from the false belief, and addressing specific problems on a case-by-case basis are important parts of our growth.
If you are aware of the above problems, try to adjust.
I’m sure after a while you’ll be able to feel the good changes.
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