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Four techniques to help you become a gentle and sincere quart.
Getting rid of my problems: social skills.
Let me ask you a question: If you have an interested person, and you’re not familiar with him, how can you get two people closer?
I’m sure there will be a lot of answers: Quote him!
I am afraid that very few people in this world can reject the approval of others.
Exaggerations represent respect for recognition, which is one of the indispensable needs of humanity.
We all want to be recognized, liked, to find a sense of belonging from a constant identity, so that our stressful hearts can be comforted.
But why is it that some are flattered, gentle and sincere, full of power, while others, while they are true, make the people around them feel false?
In fact, sometimes it is not a matter of good faith, but of simple skill.
Exaggeration is part of communication and requires technology, practice and a certain pattern.
People like to be complimented, but nobody likes to kiss ass.
How to praise each other, bring them closer to each other is a lesson that we must learn in communication.
Next, we’ll have four techniques, and the corresponding specific operational cases.
It’s a way to get to work right away, even White.
Method one: People want to be exaggerated more than objects.
To exaggerate a person’s goods is a way to bring people closer together.
Today, let’s think, why would one exaggerate with another?
For example, you chose a red sweater today, and it’s time to tell you that your dress looks good.
I’m sure you’re in a good mood.
The high probability is that the following are possible or all of them:
This sweater is beautiful.
This sweater suits you.
This sweater is very expensive.
This sweater is very good.
I don’t know.
Have you noticed? This information points to one point: you in a red sweater.
Either it’s a compliment of good clothes, it’s an emphasis on you spending money, or it’s a recognition of your good taste.
In any case, what seems to be an exaggeration of clothing is, in fact, a real pleasure and an endorsement.
It is in fact a common psychological characteristic of humanity: while no one can reject praise, it is he who wants to be boasted more than he is.
Having learned that, we can upgrade the art of praise.
From a simple item of praise to a more dispassionate, sincere approval that attracts communication with you.
A basic example:
It’s also nice to see someone else’s earrings.
A: Your earrings look great!
How would you respond if it were you?
Usually it’s either “thank you” or “I bought it at xx,” right?
But if he says so:
B: Your earrings look great. They match your xx clothes with your hair. Do you match yourself?
Isn’t it a little more fun in a moment? Feel like you can talk a lot?
For example, this is xx-style. I’m in xx. Yeah, I’m in xx.
The words were opened at once and the two could have much to discuss.
Why is this happening?
Because the former is a pure compliment of the object itself, the latter is a compliment not only of the object, but also of the taste of the person concerned.
Method two: No snakes.
In fact, many people don’t exaggerate, they don’t control their mouths.
A simple example:
If a man should tell you, “You are a good man!” You’ll probably be happy.
But if this man continues to say, “The liar loves to find someone like you, you’re being tricked.” I’m sorry.
It is true that the other side is not necessarily malicious.
But how many people are in a better mood?
We are always used to making some suggestions when we exaggerate, thus demonstrating our interest in each other.
But the suggestion is a bad hint. How can a man who hears a good man accept his good will when he says he’s a good man?
Sometimes, if there is uncertainty as to the acceptability of the other party, try not to make a false suggestion, which would add value to the painting.
It’ll work better than more.
When there is a little improvement, and a similar situation, you can say:
“Although there are many other people in this society who like to exploit the good of others, it’s hard for you to choose to stick with it. I’m sorry.
What does that mean?
First, to recognize the good will of the parties.
Secondly, the current state of society is not denied, as a reminder.
Thirdly, new topics can also be introduced — such as what happens when the other party insists on doing good, why it does so, etc.
Method three: a new perspective, a minute to discover the merits of others
The difference between sincere and intelligent people and us is also reflected in “observation.”
Smart people not only talk, know how to compliment each other, but are also good at exploiting each other ‘ s strengths and then praise them.
It’s a typical expression: it’s also a person with a lot of flaws.
We might say, “Hey, this guy’s got a lot of problems, so I can’t really say I can’t, I don’t know how to say it.
And the wise will say, “There are good things in this man. You turn them over, and it may not be bad from another angle.”
It’s too easy to be perfect and really pick on others’ shortcomings.
And ordinary people are the majority of the population.
What are the characteristics of ordinary people? Advantages may be less obvious and many less.
If we really follow the usual pattern, it will be difficult for us to really appreciate people around us.
It is also no wonder that many people are intoxicated in cinematography and novels. After all, it is hard to meet perfect people in life, who are often found only in works of art.
But if, in fact, we learn to exploit the strengths of others and look at the negative messages from a positive perspective, we can also, like those who are smart, identify a variety of advantages from a large set of shortcomings.
I’ve found everything. Is it hard to exaggerate?
For example:
♪ This guy’s better than Mom: How do you and your mom get along, how do you usually run a family and solve a generation of problems? You must be a very gentle person in life.
• The man is more ingenious: it’s a good habit for you to have an idea and to know how to stick to your ideas and not be influenced by people around you.
• The man is a bit more obstinate: you are a man who is better at containing his desires, and when someone sees something that he can’t help but buy, you can do so. A lot of people still don’t know what kind of money they’re looking at and feel like you’ve got a clear idea about money.
– This guy’s a little murky: You’ll find a lot of little details.
• This person is more self-centered: are you on duty at school? It feels like a leader.
You see, the same characteristics, the other way to describe them, become a compliment.
It’s good to hear it.
Of course, it is not a requirement that one must fully recognize the other.
Moreover, over time, who dares to say that a person who hates it now will never like it and will never have a stake in it?
Giving others a bit of goodwill also leaves some more opportunities for themselves.
No matter how much you don’t like each other now, it’s better and more self-confident than when the conflict is full and when there is a need to bow down.
And this habit of thinking from a relatively optimistic point of view affects you slowly.
It makes you more generous, with a broader vision and a better mood.
How can a man who is happy, well-informed and appreciates others be hated?
Method four: Exaggeration is as important as exaggerating in person.
Seeing here, maybe you’ll be confused that I know it’s important to exaggerate, but I’m afraid I’m not good at talking or being unsure that I’m good at it. Is there a way to keep me in a relaxed state and to exaggerate?
Indeed there is.
This is also a skill that many have not mentioned, but very important: exaggerating behind it.
I’m sure you all have some of the following experiences:
It’s good to be with someone, but at some point it turns out they’re saying a lot in private.
It was a moment of coldness and sadness, which could not be remedied with any kind of compensation.
My country advocates mediocrity, and very few argue in person.
Few people are willing to face hard, even if they are angry and neither side is coming down.
But if you don’t say anything, you feel uncomfortable.
So a lot of people get used to saying “good things in person, bad things in the back.”
Even the four-person dormitories, which appear to be intimate, may have five or six groups.
It is believed that a person ‘ s conception and attitude are more visible in private behaviour.
Thus, the arguments behind them are sometimes more likely to be perceived as “the truth” than in person.
Even if this person boasts about each other a million times, when he complains in private, he is considered to be “you see, he doesn’t really like a certain person” in a minute, and when he encounters a good thing, he conveys the word in a minute, and then bears the name “two-faced”.
This is a desperate habit that has developed in an Eastern setting.
In the face of the good words, we always feel hypocritical, obnoxious, meaningless, and not too serious.
He said bad things to his face, he was afraid to fight and he was not feeling well.
They can only complain behind their backs and fear being exposed.
Not to mention human nature, there are virtually no unventilated walls in the world, but there is a high probability that the person’s ears will be passed on to anyone who hears anything.
And speaking of this, you may ask, “What does this have to do with boasting?”
It’s a big deal.
Think about it:
Since we have customarily taken private statements as true, is it not necessary for us to say the good things of others behind our backs, without being flattered, but also to highlight our sincerity?
That’s what we’re talking about: exaggerating.
To exaggerate, and not to be deliberate, it can be done in such a way.
You don’t say how much you appreciate this man, but tell people in private, and let them know how much you appreciate TA through their mouths.
If you’re TA, wouldn’t you be happy to hear people give you such a high rating in private, and feel more sincere than you do in person?
The specific processes are as follows:
One, find a friend you all know. It’s not too tight.
And he talked to him, and he said, “Hey, speaking of xx, don’t tell anyone else what I told you below. It’s important. I’m embarrassed to say it. I’m sorry.
The other side must have said it was okay, and then told someone later.
And then we can talk about you and the people who want to compliment, and we can say, “X, despite all the shortcomings, but how well he is, how well he works, and we do sometimes have conflicts, but I’m happy to know him. I’m sorry.
This is a time to move forward or to be more sincere, but not to speak too much of each other’s shortcomings and say one or two of them are insignificant, otherwise the other side would feel that you are deliberately pressuring.
Remember, the point is to exaggerate, not mock.
4. Just wait.
No one hates being complimented, accepted.
However, no one wants to be surrounded by an inflammation of hospitality or hypocrisy.
It’s more likely to satisfy each other’s psychological demands, so that your approval is more easily remembered. Naturally, a solid foundation was laid for good communication thereafter.
As already said, there is no windless wall.
Therefore, there is no need to worry that the client will not hear your good words.
Besides, even if the other side didn’t hear it, you’d do the same.
Imagine, if you have a man around you who is never a bragging, but who is not a grumpy compliment, who is very good at exploiting the good of others, do you think he is stupid, or do you think he is a man of high character and low profile?
Let’s leave a little homework.
You have a bad relationship with a leader.
This leadership is responsible and well-meaning, but of a very real character and often conflicts with colleagues over work issues.
If you want to exaggerate to the leader, what will you say in private?
Think about it.
That’s the way to be honest and to help you to exaggerate others in a gentle and sweet manner, without lack of sincerity.
These techniques do not require you to spend a lot of time practicing, to use debris time to see more, to practice with your relatives and friends, and to learn soon. In this process, it is also possible to observe more of the friends who are human beings and who speak, and see how they discover the strengths of others, and how they can do so.
No one hates to be recognized, but to exaggerate, like any skill, requires careful learning to complete. Therefore, it is important not to be lazy in thinking, to think, to think about how to fit with the way you speak.
Slowly, you’ll find that there’s no conflict between self-preservation and the acceptance of others, and that there’s no need to give up the truth in order to make others happy, and that we can make people really like themselves.
Let’s say two last words:
Instead of looking at hundreds of similar answers, it would be better to study the paper and apply it in practice. For example, when you compliment your parents and friends, those who love you must be very happy with your approval.
To say the same thing is to say the same thing in good faith. I am encouraged by your support, and I will work harder, and I will give you more good content back.
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