From a medical point of view alone, a sibling refers to the restoration of the puerperium, which is usually about six weeks.
The first week, and especially the 24 hours after delivery, is more important, with regard to haemorrhage, temperature, pulse, blood pressure, etc.
Special care is also required in areas such as diet, urination, bedding, cleaning and breastfeeding.
How can a modern woman sit in the right place?
When it comes to the moon, it really hurts a lot of people, and even a lot of family conflicts, from the beginning of the month. So, for many Chinese families, Tsukiko is far from being a woman ‘ s health problem, but a political issue that affects a family ‘ s stability and unity. Every new father should pay due attention to this issue.
In the same vein, before you tell me how to deal with Tsukiko, you can tell me exactly what she is.
At present, there are two incontrovertible arguments in society about Sitting Moon: Sitting Moon and Sitting Moon.
To emphasize that the son of the moon is a great event for women throughout their lives and that the customs of all kinds are strange: to keep the room out of the air during the time of the moon and even to cover the thick blankets; to wash the mother ‘ s head and not brush her teeth; to keep the food taboos and cold seafood away, saying that it is a “failure” and bad for the wound; and to keep the mother as far as possible away from the outside. If the mother fails to comply, she will be warned to leave behind the “sun’s disease”. Simply put, a woman’s whole life is like a monster, and she has to be firmly controlled.
It’s an anti-traditional group that emphasizes not the moon. In their view, this is a classic traditional practice that needs to be completely abandoned. It seems to them that a woman should have had her baby right before she got pregnant. Moreover, there is a saying that only Chinese people in the world are going to sit on the moon, while women in the technologically advanced Western countries don’t sit on the moon after giving birth, go home that day and go to work the next day. To put it simply, these people think that a woman who sits on the moon is a sign of ignorance!
In fact, both these arguments are too extreme to be true.
Let’s find out what’s going on.
At the beginning, Tsukiko was in fact a few ceremonial restrictions imposed by ancient Chinese on women. In ancient China, where men were inferior to women, even women were required to have children. So the first thing you know about the moon is that it’s written in the Diary, not in a medical book. There, it even provided for the birth of children at different levels, with different manners. That is to say, you have no right to sit on the moon like the husband of the Minister of Justice.
Subsequently, with the development of Chinese medicine, some of the provisions relating to breeding have been extended on the basis of these provisions, and now the so-called Sitting Moon has evolved.
As stated earlier, Tsukiko is a ceremonial constraint, and there are many local practices in the development process, such as Sichuan, Guangdong, Shandong and Zhejiang. So now, the demands of the moon-kids are very varied — in some cases, there is no salt in the moon, in others there is much salt in the moon, in others it is thought to be much more salty; in some cases it is said that there are more red sugar dates in the moon, and in others it is said that there is no red sugar in the moon; in others it is said that there is wine and milk in the moon; in others, the mother is not allowed to go out, or even in bed. Many of the so-called customs are simply passed on from the older generation. So, more of a cultural practice than medicine.
What about the modern Westerners?
Since the traditional sit-in is a cultural practice, Westerners certainly do not sit on the moon if it is to be seen in the light of the ceremonial restrictions of China. But if, from a medical point of view alone, Westerners are actually “sitting on the moon”, this is the recovery of the puerperium.
As already mentioned, throughout the pregnancy, women ‘ s body changes are much more simple than their tummy, but they are very different from the whole system. The pregnancy process is relatively long, but the delivery process is relatively short. It will then take a relatively long time after the delivery of the child to restore the whole system to its pre-pregnancy state, which is known as the puerperium, which is generally considered to be about six weeks.
As a result, all women, including Western women, need to recover from childbirth and need a six-week post-natal visit to observe the recovery; follow-up should be strengthened, especially for women with obstetric complications.
Think about it. Let a woman go to work the day after she has the baby. Such human rights violations could not be done. Moreover, even in the case of a normal birth, a minimum of 48 hours is observed in the post-natal period; in the case of an cervix, 96 hours are spent in the post-operative period, which is about one day less than in the country, and the difference is not significant.
So, from a medical point of view, what should modern women’s puerperium be concerned about and how should they sit on the moon?
It is clear that modern moons do not have many taboos, but there is some attention in life.
First, the first week of the post-natal period is important, especially within 24 hours of the post-natal period, for the haemorrhage to be observed, as well as for changes in body temperature, pulses, blood pressure and other vital signs — and of course, for doctors. In addition to this, the most frequent explanations and instructions are given to post-natal patients during their daily check-ups, including:
There’s no taboo to eating in vaginal childbirth. New fruit, vegetables, good-quality protein diets such as meat, fish shrimp are recommended. It is recommended that more soup be used for milk.
Peeing, because the delivery process stimulates the bladder, and some mothers become numb after having a baby. They don’t feel like pee, they don’t even defecate. It was therefore recommended that the defecation should take place on a regular basis after delivery, for example, once in one or two hours, rather than waiting for the excrement to take place.
A lot of mothers are sweating when they have babies. Actually, it’s not “weak” but “sweet”. Because at the time of pregnancy, the blood capacity of the pregnant woman is increasing; now that the baby is out, what about the additional blood capacity? A lot of it comes out of sweat. So it’s normal to sweat after the baby.
Cleaning is not forbidden to wash your hair, wash your bath, and don’t make yourself dirty. Moreover, for reasons of exposure, there is a particular reminder of the need to keep the vagina clean or otherwise be susceptible to puerperal infection. So you have to wash your pussy every day and keep it dry. Modern medicine believes that water in a basin does not pollute the vagina even if it sits in a tub.
Breastfeeding is encouraged for the healthy growth of the baby; for a smooth post-natal recovery, breast feeding is encouraged; for the prevention of breast cancer, breastfeeding is encouraged; for the promotion of emotional relations between mothers and children, breastfeeding is encouraged; for the sake of subsequent life, breastfeeding is encouraged; even in order to save some money for milk, breastfeeding is encouraged! For the vast majority of mothers, breast milk is fully sufficient to provide the daily food needs of the baby and is likely to be used more and more. So if there’s any leftovers after the baby smokes, don’t keep them, keep them empty in a timely manner, keep them dry, and be careful not to build them.
As already stated, maternal coagulation is enhanced, and if blood flows are reduced, it can easily form a clot, which can then be embolised. In developed countries in Europe and the United States, post-partum haemorrhage is responsible for the top three maternal deaths. There are also frequent reports in domestic newspapers that the mother died from embolism as a result of her son sitting at home. Therefore, it is important not to stay in bed until the child is born, but to breastfeed and sleep, to move out of the bed as much as possible, to promote blood circulation and to reduce the risk of leaching.
In addition to this, of course, care must be taken during the puerperium to ensure as much sleep as possible. It was hard for mothers to breastfeed their children every day, so in many cases they were able to sleep without time.
There’s no such thing.
Having said what should be done right, you will find that it is not difficult to do so, that the requirements and the concerns are clear and that what is to be done and not done is clear. Since the taboos of the traditional Tsukiko have no medical basis, why don’t you just sit on the moon in a symmetrical manner? Why are those traditional taboos still so big?
What’s important is that there’s a magic thing in the world, called “The Moon’s Disease.”
Relatives and friends often say that they don’t like the taboos, but when their families move out of the “sun’s disease”, they do what they have to do — it’s not easy to fight tradition and cause problems.
However, it is not possible to find the term “mounculiasis” in the official medical materials and research literature.
According to some mouth-to-mouth accounts, the idea is that if you don’t sit by the traditional method, you will be infected with certain diseases in the moon, which will be very stubborn and, in any case, incurable, and will remain with you for the rest of your life. The only effective cure is to have another child and then sit on the moon as required.
In my view, it is more like a threat, a curse — a possibility of disease at all times, of course, in the moon. But they have to say that the disease of the moon is not cureable, that it’s for life.
But if a man dares to deny the existence of the “sun’s disease”, it will surely lead to a wave of attacks — a man who knows what, a man who did not listen to him, is now sick!
In response to this phenomenon, I think it is necessary to give you an idea of the causes of the common “moki disease.”
It hurts.
The pain in the waist is probably the most common “sun’s disease”.
It has been alleged that the moon must not move or be exhausted, or that it will cause pain in the waist and leg in the event of rain.
In practice, graft pain is a common symptom of pregnancy and childbirth, especially in the later stages of pregnancy and the puerperium due to:
• A back pain: the increase in uterus, the pre-heavy shift and the change in hormonal hormonal conditions during pregnancy and childbirth will increase the activity of joint hips, hips and cheekbones, so many of them will suffer from back-to-back discomfort.
• Leg pains: During childbirth, the head drops within the pelvic cavity, and the larvae’s neurological cord is pressured to the single or both legs, with more visible neurological or convulsive pain. This pain in the waist will continue until the post-partum period, and some muscle paralysis.
If this explanation is not clear to you, and it doesn’t matter, all you need to know is that it is a normal change in the system of movement during pregnancy and childbirth, which is not a disease.
Many women may find a pain in their backs after the puerperium. In fact, it has nothing to do with the observance of the Sun-son taboo. New mothers tend to take care of their children, which is much larger than during pregnancy, and if they do not pay attention to their postures, they can easily damage their waists, which is the same if they often do heavy work.
This situation can be alleviated if the position is observed during pregnancy and after childbirth. For example:
Get down and pick something up instead of bending over to pick it up.
Take a pillow mattress on the waist while you sit long;
Prepare a higher diaper table and avoid always bending over and changing diapers.
The arm’s not right.
There is also a common “sun-kid disease” called “cold-water handwashing causes pain in the arm, numbness or weakness”.
In fact, this is due to the increased uterus during pregnancy, which boosts the precipice of the spinal cord, stretches the front of the neck, drops down the shouldernail, and is caused by the neurological and neurological pull.
It doesn’t matter to understand why. You just have to know, like pain in your waist, it’s a normal biological change during pregnancy and childbirth, and it has nothing to do with cold water washing hands.
When the puerperium is over and the major systems, such as motion, bones, endocrines, nerves, etc., are back to normal, this discomfort will naturally disappear and leave no legacy.
Your eyes aren’t right.
There are also claims that mobile phones and computers are not available during the month; some say that television is not available, or else they will fall ill. I can assure you that such taboos will not be left behind by the ancestors because they do not know what the phone or the computer is.
Whether you’re in the moon or not, staring at bright screens for a long time, there’s an eye discomfort, which has nothing to do with Tsukiko.
If you give the above explanation to the “sun’s disease,” then someone might “show a big trick” — you’re not doing any good here for half a day, and I just haven’t been resting, cold water, and I’ve got the roots, and it’s been years since it’s been raining every day.
In fact, it’s probably just a common intuitive error. In other words, you only remember what you want to remember, and then judge according to how easy it is to extract it. It’s probably not every day when it rains, but you’re comfortable when it doesn’t hurt, and you don’t want to remember it, and it’s easier to impress you when it rains. When it comes to this, it is easier for the memory to emerge, and it strengthens your judgment on this matter.
There are many such intuitive errors. For example, many of us have this feeling that when a bus leaves, it’s usually “Whoever you wait for and which never comes.” It’s also an illusion, because “the bus you’re waiting for will be here soon.” It’s just too cozy to remember.
By the same token, through your intuitive error, you have a son-to-child disease. So, of course, it’s not easy to cure a son’s disease, because it’s a heart disease.
As for the rest, there’s no point in not sitting properly with the moon, getting old with arthritis, or getting old with bad eyes.
After the birth of a child and decades of life, there will always be all kinds of discomfort. Whether it’s a woman or not, with or without children, or with or without children, people are sick. You can’t put everything that’s uncomfortable on “Sit the Moon” because you have kids.
So, the “moki disease” has no medical basis at all and does not have to add a psychological shackles to his claim. You have to believe that medicine will not curse you, but will help you.
Who has the right to speak?
Of course, it is not enough to simply understand the rationale and accept scientific ideas. In many cases, the family conflict was caused not by the shambles but by the insistence of all parties on their own.
So, the issue of Tsukiko, and from the medical point of view, is one of interpersonal communication.
Yes, the family also needs to communicate. In fact, the more important you are, the more you should communicate. Many times, we think that the boss or the client is the important person and instead ignore the family. Moreover, one thing we often ignore is that communication requires skills, as does communication with families.
Communication does not mean “convincing” or “convincing”. The purpose of communication is to achieve a common goal that benefits both sides of the communication, rather than to finally decide a “win or lose”. So, when there is a need to communicate with family about something, the first thing to be clear is what kind of goal to achieve.
“Sit the moon.”
As a husband, if you agree with the above-mentioned professional advice that is of benefit to the mother, but you are under strong pressure from within the family about the ban on the child, you will have to make a full communication. The purpose of this communication is not to convince families to ask them to change their thinking or to prove that they are “professional” “right” , but rather to make it easier and easier for the mother to stay in her bed.
When this goal is made clear, the next step is to choose different strategies based on different constituencies.
Maternity
It is the mother herself who sits on the moon, which naturally is the subject of communication. However, it is not difficult to communicate with her, because at this time the mother needs someone else to take care of her, and she is sometimes forced to take advantage of herself, even if she is not willing to do so. Nevertheless, it is important to have the understanding and support of the mother.
In fact, the mother is not demanding for the son of the moon, and she does not have any bars, but wants to be comfortable and to be able to recover better. Many of the mothers were subjected to various and unbelievably `moun-son taboos’, more because of fear of `moun-son disease’, so they “better trust it than trust it.” At this point, the best way to communicate is to tell the mother the truth about her son’s disease, so that they know that there will be no serious consequences if they do not endure the taboos. They can wash and brush their teeth, spend the summer comfortably in the air-conditioning room, and eat what they like. In other words, they will not pay for their comfort in the month, and it is their right to pass the puerperium.
There are also a number of mothers who emphasize the various creeds of the month, and who are subconscious in order to show the outside world their special characteristics so that they can receive better care from their families. In other words, she had to comply with strange rules to show the special circumstances in which she was in a situation, so that there were grounds for special care. Of course, they may not be aware of these thoughts.
At this point, as a husband, you need to make it clear to your wife that you know very well that a woman is in need of special care during the period of her puerperium, and that she does not have to pay the price to restrain herself in return for the attention she receives. The special nature of the period of puerperium recovery should be reflected in how science sits on the moon, rather than in unfounded bars. The reason you let your wife give up those strange rules is not to deny her speciality or to take less care of her, but to make her more comfortable. It is easier for you to agree when she realizes that even if she is not so “unusual” she can be cared for by her family and can be more comfortable.
Mother of the mother.
Indeed, what really has an important impact on the children of the Moon is that the elderly in both families — older women, the mothers of both spouses — are the most crucial.
Your mother-in-law.
She forced her daughter to abide by all kinds of abusive son-in-law because she loved her daughter: too worried that she would later suffer because she did not sit well, she forced her daughter to endure the pain of her son.
It’s really understandable, because in my mother-in-law’s eyes, my daughter will always be the little girl who hasn’t grown up: They were cold enough to put clothes on, and it was only when they had a cold fever that they knew what they were doing; they missed their meals because they were having fun, and it was only when they were hungry that they found that they could not buy food. As a mother, the naughty nature of a daughter is such that it is not easy to tell the child not to forget to put on clothes and to eat because of the pain of a daughter who does not want them to be cold and hungry.
Now, even though the daughter had her own children, she was still a child in the eyes of the mother and a naughty child who needed her advice and discipline. In particular, a generation of rumours of non-lunar children have led mothers-in-law to believe that if they do not sit properly, it is not a matter of cold or hungry, but rather of great concern for the health of the rest of their lives. In this case, there is absolutely no room for this little girl.
So, the mother-in-law forced her daughter-in-law to sit on the moon, solely out of deep maternal love.
In such cases, the focus of communication is not so much to convince the mother-in-law that she is ill, but, in fact, it is difficult for you to convince her; the focus of communication should be to inform the mother-in-law of the harm done to the traditional children.
For example, if she insists that she can’t ventilate during the month, you can tell her about the death of her son during the summer of her maternity; if she insists that she can’t get out of bed during the month, you can tell her about the death of her puerperium embolism. In addition to these serious situations, many traditional monsoon practices have other negative effects. For example, the presence of alcohol in breast-feeding diets can have a negative impact on newborns; the absence of tooth brushing during the month increases the risk of tooth decay and even oral infections; and the prolonged absence from bathing, combined with a large number of bedding sweats, may block the hairs of the Khan ‘ s gland, increasing the risk of puerperal infection and breast inflammation.
In any case, she needs to understand that the wrong son-in-law is directly responsible, compared to the “sun-sun-sun” disease, which essentially relaxes the notion of traditional son-in-law. At this point, when you say that Tsukiko’s disease is non-existent, your mother-in-law is easier to accept.
The main purpose of these adverse effects is to convince mother-in-law that the mother-in-law is more comfortable during the month and that it is a legitimate requirement, which is different from the need to wear fewer clothes for the sake of beauty in the winter; it is not self-indulgent to do so in accordance with the traditional taboos of the Moon. Mother-in-law should know that even if she did not sit with her traditional son-in-law, she would not pay for it, and she would be better off. When such a common denominator is found, the success rate of communication will increase significantly.
Mother’s mother-in-law.
It’s really hard to communicate as a husband and as a mother. Because it’s not just about her, it’s about her.
In family relations, it is absolutely necessary to give high priority to in-laws, which play a crucial role if the family atmosphere is harmonious. In such a general context, the question of how to sit on the moon is simply a manifestation of the relationship between the mother-in-law.
There are too many articles that analyse the relationship between the daughter-in-law, and this is more the subject of joy in television shows. It is important to emphasize here that the key to this relationship is that of the person who has both a son and a husband.
But it is most important to note that one side should not be favoured. It would be more trouble if the situation seemed like you were fighting the other side together. The key to your grasp is that they love you, whether your mother or your wife, so, from that point of view, they have something in common, that is, wish you well. Seizing that point would make it possible to bring the views of both sides into agreement.
In the case of Tsukiko, the mother-in-law usually exerts pressure to express her authority. At this point, if you want to object to your mother’s demands, it is easy to create a situation of “unlawful wife and mother” and the mother may think that you’re trying to please your wife, make her comfortable and not listen to your mother. However, there can be no objection to the fact that the reasons are simply directed towards the newly born child. Grandma must have been worried about her grandchildren, and you can tell your mother that if you follow the ban, it will affect normal breastfeeding, so her grandchildren will suffer. In other words, you oppose the taboos, not to challenge her old man’s authority, not just to be comfortable with her wife, but to have enough breast milk. In this way, both sides have steps down.
These are the three people who have the most say about how to sit on the moon. Of course, some families may have other status participants. But whoever communicates how to sit on the moon must not turn into a dispute over who is wrong, but must always keep in mind the ultimate goal that he wants to achieve and work towards it, not to win the dispute. So, what is most important is to find a common point of convergence with the target, to think about how to build a common goal, and then to direct it towards the scientific moon. That way, your persuasion will come to an end.
How to survive postpartum depression
I’m going to end up talking about postpartum depression.
There are many taboos and demands about the traditional sympathosis, but one of the major problems that is really widespread during the month has never been valued by our “traditional” or even mentioned, which is post-partum depression.
Everyone thought it was a great pleasure to have a child, and after the baby was born, everyone was happy to take a picture and send a message to their relatives and friends. But from this moment on, the moods of the mothers were not so synchronized with the families.
According to statistics, about half of women experience post-natal depression after childbirth, which may vary from study to study, with the highest figure of 86 per cent. This is a very alarming rate, which means that your wife is likely to go through an unhappy process after giving birth.
Most of the “depression” here is an emotional change, not necessarily a “depression.” For example, in addition to the “unhappiness” experiences of depression and anxiety, many people are experiencing emotional instability, insomnia, irritation, and difficulty in focusing their attention; people cry for a while because of a very small shock, and they’ll be ready to cry the next day. These negative emotional changes are collectively referred to as post-partum depression.
Often from the first day of the puerperium, this negative sentiment increases and peaks by about one week after delivery, followed by a gradual recovery during two weeks after delivery. But there are also 15% of the population that can last until six months after delivery.
There is no generally accepted and reliable explanation of the causes of this phenomenon, but it is generally considered to be related to changes in hormonal levels in the post-partum period. However, it is not important how the reasons are, but what needs to be done, especially as a husband, during a period of sorrow for the wife.
First, there should be sufficient awareness of the phenomenon. In other words, as a husband, it should be recognized that your wife, after having given birth, may not be as excited and excited as you are. In addition to the fatigue and suffering she experienced during childbirth, she is now experiencing psychological discomfort. So when you discover that your wife is suffering from post-natal depression, you should understand that she is crying not for the purpose of drawing attention to you, or for the purpose of debauchery; she is not angry, nor because she feels that she has given birth to a child, to protest against you; nor because she is indifferent to your words, nor because she does not care about you. These are, in fact, a manifestation of post-natal depression, the situation that most women experience after childbirth, and the emotional reaction of their physical changes. Actually, she didn’t want to. She just couldn’t control it.
Only with a full understanding of this phenomenon can there be understanding; only with an understanding of these manifestations of the wife can there be a discussion of how to help her through this special period.
When you fully understand postpartum depression, you can do something together. For example, when a wife is experiencing emotional fluctuations or exaggerating emotional reactions as a result of small things, do not think about how to explain them or how to change the wife ‘ s current emotional state, but adapt to her changes and help her recover as soon as possible.
We know that many of the so-called family conflicts, or couple conflicts, are minor matters. There’s an argument between the two of them, and they’re all on their own. Remember, however, that family is not a place of reason, and that it is the closest family that speaks to it, which should be emotional. Therefore, for the husband, especially his wife, who is going through this special period of post-natal leave, please refrain from using the logic and reason of the debate to reason with the wife.
Most of the mothers during this period were overwhelmed by a sad mood, and they were unable to control themselves rationally and had to be held hostage by emotions, as if they had changed. So, as a husband, don’t worry about the little things that trigger a wife’s emotions. In fact, those things happen, and even without them, there are other things that cause her emotions to fluctuate. At this point, therefore, it is sufficient for the husband to consolate and channel his wife ‘ s emotions, without any concern as to what is caused.
When it comes to consolation, many may have done so, but in the end they did not comfort the person to whom they should be comforted, but themselves.
For example, a husband who sees his wife weeping sadly and is not feeling well in his heart, comforts one or two words. For example, “Come on, don’t worry about it. It’s a small thing. Or say, “No, don’t cry. Can I be mistaken?” Such consolation may not actually be consolation, but it is consolation, and subconsciously it is telling itself: “Well, you see, she’s so sad now, I’ve comforted her, and she continues to be so, and I can’t help it.
In other words, when you see the negative emotions of your wife, the husband’s heart produces the idea of what I have to do, which gives the husband a sense of anxiety. So he will say “comfort” so that he will feel within himself what he has done. So, there are many times when consolation is just self-consolation, just to ease the anxiety inside.
Therefore, when consoling the wife, it must be clear that the purpose of consoling itself is to alleviate the wife ‘ s negative emotions. So the comfort method should be tailored to the characteristics of different negative emotions. You should show more of an understanding of her current situation and find a solution with her. Even, sometimes a wife just wants to let go, and then you listen patiently, even if you don’t say a word, it may be a comfort.
Your expectation is that, through your consolation and guidance, the wife will feel your love for her, your emotional support for her and your presence.
Of course, consolation does not always work, especially for those who have not received professional training, and in many cases it does not work as well. Moreover, in some cases, the situation of the wife may be more serious and may no longer be just a depression, but may develop into depression. At this point, it is advisable to turn to professionals, such as psychologists or psychiatrists, for more professional guidance and even for medication.
In general, women experience a great deal of physical and mental fluctuations after childbirth and therefore need a period of recovery and reconciliation, as well as the support and assistance of their husbands. However, the recovery of the puerperium should not be based on unfounded traditional “mutual taboos” but on professional guidance that is truly beneficial to the body and health; the family’s “serve to the moon” is not the limits and constraints of “failure to bathe”, but the full physical and psychological support and support. The aim is to make women as healthy, comfortable and as happy as possible through this special period. Record number: YX11bqrlg8n
I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
