Remember: You’re not lazy, you’re not undisciplined, you just want to go up, but you don’t find the right way to tame the brain with reason.
And our brains are like little ones, and the harder you say to them, “I forbid you to lie down and eat your chickens, and you will learn to exercise and discipline yourself.” And the more he rebelled. And Daisy’s way of keeping your brain on the line and willing to take advantage of it is hard to think about.
I would like to ask you to stand up and be patient, and I assure you that this answer will solve the long-standing dilemma of being a giant in action that you have advanced. Believe me, a proper solution would make you less deviant!
I. TRANSITIONS 3
Dostoyevsky said that a man’s life was made up of habits, but his habits were formed during the first half. Before we talk about a solution, let’s analyze it from the source, and it’ll make us appear.” In my head, I’m a young man and I’m an active loser.
Ignorant “false hope syndrome.”
The “false hope syndrome” is a concept introduced in “self-control” that means that we are determined to change in order to alleviate the bad state of affairs, but have not made any real effort or given up the plan to decide once again on a virtuous cycle of change. As shown in the figure below:
The vicious circle will hold the way forward.
You’ll do all sorts of “psychological comforts”:
When you see the Lord’s recommended books, you’ll have to order them, and then you’ll have them in the corner.
When I saw my little sister with a good body, I lost weight with a health card and used it as an annual bath card…
I decided to get up early, join the box, open up the king at night and scream and kill him, and fight until dawn…
Why is it that many people start out with a lot of big ideas, and end up with a lot of banging?
Because of the short-term pleasure!
Hypocrisy gives us a sense of timely satisfaction, excites the brain in an instant, with hope, as if we have seen ourselves in thinner, rich and knowledgeable ways, and gives the brain a good illusion of “changed success.”
In practice, however, there has been no change.
“Resolve” is the easiest part of the change process and the hardest part to hold on to.
It scares the habit by shouting a slogan, which is the first trick of the brain, which is easy for many.
Results-oriented fixed thinking
When you start to want to change, let’s see if your plan is like this:
I’ll lose 20 pounds before summer comes.
I’m gonna finish four books this month.
In three months, I’m going to have one w of words…
It’s all result-oriented. It’s true. It’s in full conformity with the smart principle. We should find a way to get ourselves moving, and Superman’s plan will give you too much attention to the gap between results and the status quo, and it will create constant resistance to the brain.
Think about it, think about it: 18 pounds to the target; back word: 9k words… …for a long time, under pressure, every day, you’re going to be in great pain, you’re going to lose your fight, and you’re going to end up near zero.
Forced self-regulation would not be free, and would not be possible at once, and it would be less desirable for three days of fishing and two days of sunning.
A truly sustainable long-term plan is to break the big goals into a smaller, more achievable goal, to make the brain comfortable, to get good feedback from successful completion, to feel satisfaction and achievement, and thus to have a constant flow of action.
The pursuit of perfect delay.
Many people must have experienced this or a similar experience: the 30-page book that they planned to read every day was not easy to keep for a while, having been interrupted for several days by a variety of uncontrollable factors, such as overtime or ill health, they began to feel that the integrity of the plan had been compromised and eventually opted to give up.
It’s a psychological “all-or-nothing” (full or zero) phenomenon, very similar to the “window breaker effect”: one act a day and a day, one destruction will be lost and all will be lost.
It is not right to look at things in a non-black or white way — to succeed or to fail.
The greater the quest for perfection, the easier it will be for you to choose to give up and to underestimate your abilities by avoiding problems.
Don’t break the jar, think about it in a different way: even if it’s only five days a month, it’s progress because it’s better than not. Sustained and stable efforts are desirable, and even smaller efforts, multiplied by 365 days, are a huge gain.
That’s the three most easy-to-reach areas we’re trying to change ourselves.
In fact, most people have feelings of discomfort about the status quo, and then they want to change their minds, from outside to outside: the story of the Great Reveal, the love of a well-equipped self-regulating man, late night thoughts, etc.
When you see the difference between yourself and someone else, you suddenly hate your own mediocrity, and then you blindly want to be a quick outcome (tactical), forgetting to learn the true core of the success of others (strategy): do everything in the long term and with determination.
Fortunately, we already know our own bad habits, but just how to improve them. I’m going to come up with a concrete solution, and I’m going to see how great it is to be here.
The key to addressing the root causes of the problem
What is the nature of the three faults? – Brain nature shortsighted, increasing movement resistance.
Our daily actions are the result of a “power-resistance” game, where the power exceeds the power to do so, and where the power exceeds the power to avoid giving up. And the brain is lazy, likes the security of the old environment, resists the change of the new world, and once you change, it feels dangerous, and immediately joins hands to increase resistance, and keeps telling you, “Don’t change, business as usual is the best comfort!”
So we can’t make too much noise, let the brain discover our intentions, learn to fool the brain with low-cost “microactions” that have to be too small, so you can do it without effort.
So what do we do?
It’s very simple. Set a little trigger switch, and you can find a pulse.
And every way that I’m talking about is to make the brain fall in love with the mechanism of a switch for progress, to use little resistance to improve your mobility, to move forward in a sense of achievement, not in a sense of frustration. You have to watch it or you’ll miss the right way.
III. The right way to move forward
Focus on individual habits
Never be greedy! That’s the most important thing. Don’t turn the plan into KPI.
Think about the daily plans for a dozen missions: reading, learning, writing, backing words, sports, etc., and ending up with the idea of “finishing it and coming again tomorrow.” It’s not self-discipline, it’s self-abuse.
The Power of Customary said that success does not require doing everything right.
So our aim is to do something important, not to do it everywhere, and not to fill it up every hour and turn it into a day-to-day robot. Overloading efficiency cannot last long, and it cannot stand the test of its will.
Just like Daisy spends a certain amount of time every day reading, but never feeling pain, because the habit of reading has become a way for my brain to relax, not to task and torture.
Remember to start with the simplest and most interested habits, to repeat the steps as I say below, until internalization becomes a daily practice, which is no longer controlled, and then to superimpose a custom.
Minimal action
When they begin to develop their habits, they develop the number of times they do it every day and then pursue the quality and intensity of doing it.
Three principles of methodology:
(1) At least one per day and only one.
(2) Not long at each time
(3) Setting up a start-up that can be easily initiated
For example, it is easy to understand: it’s painful to read 30 pages a day, and you need to be determined to start. But if one page of the book is read every day, it’s easier and easier to read.
The essence of this “one page of reading” and “minimal action” is that you do not have to force yourself to achieve the goal, but rather to act with the simplest and simplest actions, so that you can do your job without any effort.
Like the solution to delay: five minutes before, five minutes after the brain enters, the brain will ask you to continue.
Create behavior trigger
Richard Seller said that most of our plans are often broken down by insignificant little habits.
Many habits do not go on, not because we are lazy, but because we forget or have no push.
Share a way to create behavior triggers with the sentence “Just One”… to remind the brain that it’s time to finish the new habits.
I’m the beneficiary of this method, and I’ve managed to develop many habits, such as body milk after a bath.
It’s not like a girl needs a smoother skin after she’s been in the shower for six months because she’s busy reading books, responding to news, talking, etc.
There’s a lot of habits in life that you can use, and you brush your teeth together (that’s not bullshit. Parents used to say, “You’re going to brush your teeth when you’re in a bed, you’re going to brush your teeth, you’re going to be the strongest thing that ever happened to you.
This approach can begin with life, slowly correcting the bad habits of life, then transitioning to more difficult habits such as learning, work, and so forth, cycling and constant exercise to enhance the resilience of the brain.
Ps: We can also enhance our memory through environmental tips in refrigerators, desks, etc., with help tools such as handmarks and notes. Let the environment be a force for action.
If you want to read a book, you can put a book on the sofa, the bedroom, the dining table, etc., and make sure that it is available to everyone, and that resistance is reduced to a minimum, which helps to create muscle memory and is very effective at firsthand.
Maintaining good feelings
When it feels good, stop and stop.
This may come as a surprise to you, but it’s used to a message to the brain: “This is an interesting habit, and I’m willing to go on with it,” so it really likes it.
It’s simple, it’s the “marginality” rule.
A bun tastes good, 10 are painful, and the marginal effects rise to their peaks and fall rapidly.
And most people, when they fall, are forced to do it on their own, believing that it will be able to exercise their will and consolidate their habits, but not that it will make the brain feel tired, irritated, bored, bored, and eventually kill interest at its root.
For example, at the beginning of the book reading, the interest was in the “upgraded” and, at the beginning of the study, the brain was in the “stable” when learning; the brain was tired and bored, and the interest was decreasing to the “downside” for a long time; and once you reached the lowest, you were forcing the brain to finish the dozens of pages, and it began to resist and enter the “negative impact zone.”
Be smart and stop at the intersection between the “stable zone” and the “down zone” and do something else.
I have been able to discipline myself for years, and I am not forcing myself to abuse myself, because truly long-lasting self-discipline is happy and healthy.
Remember to say to yourself, at the best of times, as in the case of novels, “We’ll meet next time.” This is the best experience.
IV. Long-term contribution of a good mind
By strengthening the system practice of the four methods above, you can start to move and improve the situation slowly. Of course, the process is marked by bottlenecks, extraordinary events, stagnation, physical and psychological setbacks and depression.
This is all normal, because real change, and the changes that can be sustained, are three steps forward and two steps back. I share here three good mentalities that help you to ease your emotions, to recognize your progress correctly and to improve the effects of developing habits.
Accept your own normal
We’re all ordinary people, we’re fed up, we’re fat, we’re hungry, we’re skinny. If you do not look at your own contributions with a good mind, it is easy to upset the pace of the mission and make you wonder if your insistence is useful.
To get up early, not to get used to sleeping at 2 and wake you up at 14 and get up tomorrow at 6. It’s a one-point sleep from 12 o’clock to 0 o’clock. To allow failure, to allow all kinds of negative emotions, to allow irrational mistakes, to accept the present and to perfect the present.
I’ll share the principle of 6789, which will help ease your negative emotions:
Standard work 60 points: day-to-day exercise, housework
It’s urgent. 70 minutes: as the boss suddenly gave you a job.
It’s important, it’s about growing up, it’s about doing 80 points: promotion to work, pay off to clients.
It’s particularly important, it’s about fate, it’s trying to reach 90 points: for example, to choose a job, to develop skills, etc.
When you do that, you do it better, because you don’t want to pass.
Incentives for keeping track
Research shows that the negative consequences of delay are not the result of delay per se, but of self-negative “I’m really bad and I’m delaying” and that the use of harshness and criticism can lead to suspicion and frustration.
In the long struggle against weakness and desire, what determines to lose and lose is our attitude to suffering, in addition to the difficulty of being difficult.
Learn to be self-absorbed, and tell yourself when you fail: “It’s okay, I’m ordinary, at least better than before. Come on! You have a chance. Come on. Let’s think about where the problem is. We’ll avoid it next time and do it better. I’m sorry.
It does not take too long to relax, to relax one day a week, to eat what you want, to buy what you want, to watch what you want to see, to be an incentive. Every week there are hopes to enjoy the process.
Remember this: anything worth doing is worth doing.
Change the angle of thinking
What do you do when you can’t control yourself or choose to be comfortable?
It would be better to change the angle and think in peace: in fact, every thing in life is a choice between pain and suffering.
To give one example: one is a temporary healthy diet, with less to eat and more to withstand the pain of the appetite; the other is a compromise to desire and the pain of standing on the weight after drinking.
We cannot escape pain, but choose one of two. The difference between two types of suffering is that brief pleasures keep us in pain and that temporary suffering gives us respite.
Thinking about it might sober you up a little bit more than controlling the brain to make better choices.
Also, Daisy needs to be reminded that there are things that you will not do now, and that you will never do, and that success will not come from the future, but from the moment you decide to do it.
Those who are getting better in life, not because they are smart and hardworking, but because they insist on sleeping every night, are a little smarter and more confident and more fighting and implementing.
You just have to act now, and you can beat 80 percent of the people, because many people still don’t, and you’re slowly catching up to them. Come on, because small and wise choices + stick + time = absolutely different.
Finally, I’d like to share a few words with you:
I firmly believe that people should have the power to pull their hair and pull themselves out of the mud.
Every thought of trying to work now has the potential to be the future of you, asking for your help now.
It is two remarkable abilities to do what you like and to do anything to find fun. We have been pursuing the first path, and there is only the latter path, which could really be achieved.
It took two days to answer the question, and if you think it’ll be useful, then I’ll have the incentive to write more of the work that will help you.
Daisy wants you to stay on your feet and end up with a mind map:
Record number: YX1108NYPM9
I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
