Red, shaking hands, spitting water, urinating, these are the manifestations of my social fear patient for over a decade.
In almost a year and a half, I managed to come out and start a life of love and love.
It’s a rather big subject, and to get out of the way, you need to practice and adapt yourself in some ways.
I have summed up some points in the healing process for myself and nearly a hundred social phobia friends, and if you understand and do what you do, believe that your social phobia is half better.
This is a systematic methodological and operational manual.
List of contents:
Symptoms and causes of social phobia
The core features of social phobia
Core solutions to social phobia
We look at each other.
Symptoms and causes of social phobia
1.1 Definition and symptoms of social phobia
Social phobia (social phobia), also known as social anxiety disorder (social anxiety disorder, SAD), mostly occurring between the ages of 17 and 30 years, has almost the same incidence for men and women; often there is no apparent incentive for sudden onset of disease, central symptoms revolve around fear of being examined in small groups, and when people are found to be unnatural, afraid to look, even to look at themselves, afraid to speak to themselves in public, afraid to sit in front, avoiding socialization and leading to social isolation in extreme situations. The common target of fear is heterosexual, harsh superiors and fiancée (wife) parents or acquaintances. It can be accompanied by low self-evaluation and fear of criticism, with symptoms such as red, hand shaking, nausea or urination, which can develop to the point of shock. Clinical performance can be limited in isolation to, for example, eating in public, speaking in public, or encountering heterosexuality, or can be generalized to almost all situations involving the family. Some patients may often be accompanied by prominent plaza fear and depression disorders; some may end up in material dependence, especially alcohol, through substance abuse.
A summary of the symptoms of social fear is:
I can’t face people.
I dare not speak in public.
I can’t sit in front.
Fear of dating and avoiding socialization.
Anxiety, depression, fear, coercion, suspicion.
Red, shaking hands, spitting, pissing.
Some suffer from milder symptoms, while others are worse. Most of the time, we’re “normal, but actually horrified.” I’m sorry.
Have you ever done anything against your will in order to fit in and become outward?
I’m really a very anxious and nervous person, afraid to speak in front of everyone, but I still make myself do it. In college, they were awarded the second-class English-language speech competition, the third-class speech on the new theme, and even one time they thought, “I’m an outward-looking person.” I’m sorry.
But I’m the only one who knows, the anxiety and the pain. So when you know that the Finnish People’s Association is afraid, you call yourself “The wrong place to be born.” I’m sorry.
But I’m in a lovely country where people are everywhere. The worst thing that ever happened was the station, with dozens of eyes looking at it.
What peaks do you experience as a member of society?
I’m trying to explain the symptoms of social fear through two daily manifestations.
Performance 1: The display of favored personality at all times and everywhere.
To show that I am a normal and welcome person, I have tried so hard to show my openness, friendship and initiative. It’s always the first thing to say to break the silence for fear of embarrassment.
I’d feel, like, a bunch of people, not talking, so embarrassing. In fact, he was the one who was most afraid, but he would still do the unnecessary “cool” to “don’t get too heavy.”
Performance 2: Overreading the objective facts and always believing that they are not good enough, that they have a very serious perfectionism, that they attack themselves in the most vicious language.
Where does that come from?
A fan message told me about a proposal he made when he graduated from work because he was a little stuttered because he was nervous. For a moment, the body was stiff and it was felt that the person sitting was laughing at him, either with his smile or with his whispers. The brain is like a dead machine, and it’s like a shadow in front of it, and it’s only a minute before it’s over.
And when I got home, I couldn’t help but think, “Xx, look at my eyes and look down, does he hate me? Will the boss think I didn’t want to fire me for a minute while I was in the middle of it? Will everyone talk about today tomorrow? I’m sorry.
The fear of society is the reason it haunts us from time to time.
It’s just, you look like you’re not sick or hurt, but you’re mentally tortured. And it is none else who is responsible for this, and it is you who is the one who is the one who cannot escape from it and forget it, and the more you struggle, the deeper you are.
As if you were a man who will not die but who is in a state of great pain, and who endures the chastisement every day.
1.2 Causes of social phobia
With my knowledge and research on social fear, people with social phobia are mostly characterized by the following.
1 Suspected medical condition.
One explanation is that you always feel sick.
I used to read some science-prosthetic articles, and I thought, “Well, it’s like I said, I’m going to become a fairy.” Do you have that experience?
People with such characteristics are more likely to think about their emotions, feelings, etc. It was a normal phenomenon, but it was a problem because it was a problem.
2 Genetic.
The personality characteristics of parents are more easily inherited if they are inferior, introverted or suspicious of the quality of the disease. If it’s genetic, hold yourself in pain.
3 Days Later.
Growing up with greater stimulation, family changes, unhappy childhood and so on, causes for fear.
For example, when young children are ridiculed and isolated by their classmates, this feeling of badness, if not addressed in a timely manner, remains constant and is highly susceptible to social fear.
I was afraid because I was fat in primary school, and I was ridiculed by my classmates, and then I was ashamed of talking to people.
Mom was afraid I’d grow up, so she went to the old Chinese doctor to fix my stomach. I’ve fallen into a great low self-esteem, and I’m afraid to associate with people.
So, how does social phobia come about?
Social phobia often takes place not suddenly, but over time, at different times.
Patients tend to have social problems from an early age, which are not resolved naturally with age, but are constantly repeating old problems, causing them great suffering.
The conclusion is that long-term insulation, unwittingly formed by constant stimulation and attention, does not break out immediately.
The core features of social phobia
Understanding these three features helps you break social fear. If you know what’s going on, you can do something about it.
One can’t help but think about it.
When we begin to experience symptoms, there will be feelings of tension, fear, anxiety, which will further exacerbate your symptoms and make you more overwhelmed.
You can’t help but think about what you’re doing, what’s not right, and if you find out what you’re doing OK, it’s okay, but if you find out what’s wrong, it’s more anxious to try to solve it.
In fact, you’ll learn from it and change it the next time, but this constant attention and reflection will only exacerbate social fear.
2 is always pessimistic.
Socially horrifying people think, “I’m a low-value person and I’m too self-sufficient.” # I’m not going anywhere #
Low-value sense: Thinking that you’re always not good enough, too stupid, that you haven’t worked well in years of graduation, that you are single and poor.
Excessive self-suspension: When dealing with others, you overthink your own behaviour, thinking that you have influenced others and that you have made others uncomfortable. Actually, you don’t have so many people?
It’s always a comparison of its vulnerability to others’ strengths.
The best thing for social homophobic people is to dig their own shorts and compare them with others. Never thought of himself as good and valuable and could not accept his imperfections.
For example, the girl with 32 places of full-body plastic surgery;
For example, you always think I’d be confident if I was taller;
For example, you always think your eyes are too small and one-eyed, not attractive, and you’re always humbled.
This is all due to the lack of core self-confidence. Socially fearful self-confidence is obtained by comparison, so it is always unstable and personal. It’s possible that yesterday, when the river was raging, today, it’s like an eggplant.
Did your parents always compare you to someone else’s children when they were kids?
“You see Little Sister Hung, math is 100, how stupid you are. “I’ve given you a lot of remedial classes, but I’m sorry. And so on.
Even if you had good grades,
The parents would say, “There’s nothing to be proud of, it’s not every time, but maybe next time we’ll fail.” I’m sorry.
See? The love we have received is conditional and based on our good performance, understanding and good conduct, so our confidence is untenable.
Our parents seemed never satisfied, always more critical than encouraging.
If you grow up in such an environment, and you’re a child, and you’re a child, you’re not afraid of anyone?
Sometimes it really envies the little sister of the neighbor, who has never been a quiet and good Lord since he was a little girl, and who can smile the next day, even if his parents beat him to death today.
Let’s keep looking down.
Core solutions to social fear
I will only say two of the most critical points, and if you do, you’ll get better in a month or two.
Write emotional journals.
But those who know how to find solutions want to overcome social fear by themselves. Then the diary is the best way not to carry the risk that others might leak, and in the small heavens and earth you are free. You need:
One writes his emotions every day and writes them all happy and unhappy.
It’s best to record it as soon as the mood swings, not more than 24 hours at the latest, or it could lose its authenticity.
2 Documenting achievements, often looking back and building confidence.
Some say that real self-confidence depends on 5,000 positives, and then, no matter how small, you deserve to be sure of yourself.
For example:
Another 1,000 words of diary completed;
Keep running for 30 days;
Early night sleep and early rise;
The diet 7 is full and healthy.
These are trivial “mind things” but few can really hold on for a long time. So, if you did, why are they not worthy of your recognition of your little achievement?
3. Express yourself in a true way, and do not discourage.
Many of us have been over-pronounced by the media as “freakless” and feel that anger and grief are bad and need to be suppressed. You’ve suppressed this time, but next time? Emotions are like running floods and can only be channeled and not suppressed, otherwise there will always be a breakaway day.
At that time, you were afraid of not just giving bad impressions, but could be a subversive collapse.
Learn to see what you think, to examine yourself and write down the analysis according to the records of the diary.
This will give you a good sense of your emotions and feelings, and you will be able to do more and more by responding to the experiences of social terror. You’ll know what conditions make you uncomfortable, so what kind of response you should make.
A simple format, how to keep a diary, how to analyze it, can see the answer below, and will not be repeated here.
5. Suggest improvements and monitor their implementation.
All changes are made from a small point of view, without putting too much pressure on yourself, a little bit of improvement every day, for a few months, and you’ll find that things are much better.
If you are not used to greet your colleagues, start with a smile;
If you can’t smile, you start with nodes and, in short, with a little bit of what you can accept and don’t feel pressure.
Learn to accept yourself completely.
It’s better to admit that you’re not perfect.
What you need to do about being admitted:
1 Full acceptance of its shortcomings
When symptoms appear, accept all your emotions and symptoms, leave them alone, don’t fight, don’t solve them.
Three, starting with small things.
Four, keep doing what you have to do.
Focus: This 4th point is the key to getting me out of social fear and helping my fellow students out of social fear. Remember and implement it!
When social fear comes to the fore, most people devote themselves to solving the problem and doing what just happened.
No, you have to get used to doing things with this uncomfortable feeling.
It explains the causes and characteristics of social fear, so we have to fight a long war to break it.
Because:
Social phobia is a long-standing phenomenon, and it is not something you can resolve with time and energy.
It’s a fear that you can calm down because you’re overthinking and entanglement.
I know it is hard to go to work with such anxiety and fear, but you need the courage to live with it in peace. Even if it is difficult, it is possible.
The process of Nash overcoming mental illness through willpower in the film ” Beautiful Spirit ” is an example worth learning.
After several painful struggles, he said goodbye to three of his fantasies and told himself that he would never speak to them again, that he would never listen to them again, even if they were still there, but he allowed them to exist and continue to do what he had to do.
So, people with social phobia don’t be afraid, and you can get used to them and live well in real life. If that is not acceptable, then take them as one of the companions, one from another, and take their place.
I was also touched by Nash’s statement on the occasion of the final Nobel Prize for Economics.
He is moved by his wife ‘ s indiscretion, love and tolerance;
It was also moved by the fact that Nash continued his academic work and eventually won the Nobel Prize for Economics, despite the division.
I know more than anyone about that sense of emotional pull and the sense of division in my heart, and it is as if the soul had been cut to pieces by five horses, and the pain was abnormal. It is great and admirable to be able to carry on with such symptoms and to continue to study.
It is hard to imagine how many times Nash has suffered, but he has not only done it but has done it better than normal people. This proves that even with symptoms, it is possible to continue to do the right thing.
It is recommended that everyone take a close look at the film ” Beautiful Spirit ” , which will yield much.
Finally, we need to learn how to deal with and move on with what we have to do to conclude that sometimes life is like this, without having to wonder why we have to experience such torture. You’ll always find the most comfortable yourself, early or late, but believe it always comes, waiting for you to find it and find it.
I hope that all social horrifying people will be able to get out of fear soon, and I’d like to welcome my comments in the comment area, and I’ll do my best to help you get out of it.
No matter how painful you are now, after seeing this answer, I would like you to think seriously about the way you live and socialize. Do it the way I wrote it. You’ll have a hard time, but you’ll be stronger when you win.
Walk on the road, no longer afraid of the face to come;
In front of colleagues, you can be restless.
Human relationships will get better and better.
Good luck. Come on! Case number: YX11XjQmAz
I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
