What kind of person has the worst learning effect?
No matter how talented you are, people with these four habits of thinking are 100% mediocre all their lives: Red Light Thinking, Dark Effect, Blind Sociability, Low Level of Diligence 01 Red Light Thinking First of all, what is Red Light Thinking?
I don’t know if there is a person around you who likes to refute others when they disagree with him.
For example, when someone is told that he has made money at a young age, someone will say, “How can it be possible? It’s not true.” Or, “It’s because of his family.
This phenomenon of habitually denying different viewpoints as soon as one hears them is called red-light thinking.
If it is not easy to understand, let me say a word that everyone must understand: contrarian. People
with red-light thinking are always self-confident and always feel that they are right, so they refuse to accept new ideas and knowledge.
Their brains are like red lights, and they stop moving.
Once others disagree with him, they will refute without thinking.
We know that whether reading, learning or communicating with others, we are sharing experiences and exchanging views, which are inseparable from the exchange of ideas. You can learn what you
don’t know and ask what you don’t understand, but these are all based on the exchange of ideas.
If you shut down your brain and refuse to accept new ideas, how can you learn and progress?
Therefore, this kind of person is always in their own world, progress is very slow, it is difficult to adapt to the present society, it is easy to be eliminated. When
colleagues encounter difficulties in their work and put forward suggestions for improvement, he always raises objections, saying that this is not good and that is not good. A very deep
impression, I published a film review article in the headline, according to reason, film review articles, subjectivity is strong, different people will feel different.
But someone left a message below: Your pattern is like this, I think it should be.. Moreover, it is difficult for them to seize the opportunities in life and watch them slip away from them in vain. Such people will always be at the bottom of society.
Red light thinking is a psychological phenomenon called habitual defense.
When our views and dignity are challenged, in order to avoid exposing our shortcomings, the first reaction is not to think about whether it is reasonable for the other party to say so, but to refute it directly.
The Fifth Discipline also says that the root of habitual defense is the fear of exposing the thinking behind our thoughts. The
fear of exposing our own shortcomings, and thus the unwillingness to accept inconsistent views, will deprive us of the opportunity to become excellent.
For example, when a colleague says, “Your PPT sucks.”.
I think your first reaction is to think that your colleagues say you are not a good person, and then trigger your habitual defense, and immediately retort back. It is not terrible to
have red-light thinking, but I am afraid that I do not know that I have red-light thinking.
At this time, no matter how talented you are and how hard you work, your progress will be very slow.
So, how to change this kind of thinking?
“Good Study” points out that we should establish green light thinking, that is, learn to accept some different views, which is just the opposite of red light thinking.
Specifically, there are two steps.
The first step is not to rush to refute that you can’t understand everything. Think more about why the other person said that. It’s very likely that you haven’t realized it yet, or you have misunderstood it.
But many people are subconsciously negative, how to solve it?
There is a way to express your views every 3-5 seconds after others have finished speaking.
Although it’s only a few seconds, a lot of things can be thought out during this time.
The second step is to distinguish between “I” and “opinion”. “I” refers to ourselves, and “opinion” refers to our ideas and opinions.
Most of the time, what others refute is only our point of view, but we understand it as the negation of others.
As Jobs put it, “I especially like working with smart people because the best thing about it is that I don’t have to think about their dignity.”.
Smart people are not without dignity, but they can distinguish between “I” and “point of view”, and can accept other people’s point of view, so that they can make rapid progress.
And the colleague said, “Your PPT is very bad.”.
In fact, colleagues just say that your PPT is not good, not that you are not a good person.
If we do not distinguish between “I” and “opinion”, it is very easy to trigger habitual defense and refuse to accept other people’s advice.
Understand these, can calmly accept other people’s point of view, can really learn well. The Man Who
“Knows Everything” There is an idea in the book a Brief History of Mankind that impressed me deeply.
The author argues such a question: Why did modern China decline and become a backward country, while European countries rose strongly?
The key factor was that Europeans at that time had a mentality of admitting their ignorance.
They often look at the map and say, “I don’t know what’s there,” and they feel they have to go out and find something new.
Looking back at modern China, I felt that I knew everything, knew everything, and everything was under control, so I gradually lost the courage to explore. Europeans,
on the other hand, have always maintained this attitude of awe.
They are constantly seeking knowledge, exploring and becoming strong step by step. The
author’s point of view makes me feel deeply, not only between countries, but also as individuals. Around
us, this situation is also very common.
Some great people always keep an empty cup mentality, learn modestly and keep a low profile.
But some people are just the opposite, obviously they have little knowledge, but they are so confident that they show off everywhere and always feel that they are awesome.
This is a psychological phenomenon called the Duck Effect.
It tells us that the less capable people are, the more they overestimate themselves, while those who are really powerful underestimate their abilities.
It seems that red-light thinking is very similar to people who “know everything,” but in fact there is quite a big difference. People
with red-light thinking can easily trigger habitual defense because they are afraid of exposing the defects behind their thinking.
Some people may realize that they are wrong, but they are stubborn and want to argue with you to the end. People who
“know everything” are really ignorant and mistake ignorance for self-confidence. Such cases can be seen everywhere in
life: you see, some people think they are very powerful, in fact, they simply do not understand what is powerful.
To tell you the truth, this kind of person is very sad.
Because they can’t evaluate themselves correctly, they have a self-confident mentality and become more and more inflated. Enjoy yourself
in the state of “everyone is drunk and I wake up alone”! Russell said: “To break the status quo and become an excellent person, we must continue to read a lot, constantly enrich our brain, improve our cognitive level and improve our vision.”. Only
in this way can you see where you are and where you are different from the top people. When
watching the live broadcast of King of Glory, many people’s rank is gold, but they think the operation of King of Glory is very bad; many people only have 5 points, but they think only the opposite sex with more than 8 points can be worthy of themselves; what impressed me deeply was that once I saw an article about knowledge payment written by a big V in Zhihu, which was clear and fascinating.
But someone left a message at the bottom: I can write 10 articles a day about this type of article.
“The trouble with this world is that fools are full of confidence, and wise men are full of worry.”. I didn’t play games when I was just divided into dormitories in
college, but several roommates often couldn’t find anyone when they were in the dark, so they would pull me in.
And I also think that this way can be integrated into it more quickly.
Slowly, I spent more and more time on games. As soon as
people come into the group, their IQ is seriously reduced. In order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong and exchange their IQ for a sense of belonging that makes people feel more secure. There are not a few
such cases: this kind of blind gregariousness makes you lose the time to be alone and the energy to improve yourself.
As a result, when you graduate, you find that some people have arranged their way at home, some have entered big companies, some have gone to graduate school, but you have not yet landed.
You are a firewood cutter, he is a sheep herder, you chat with him for a day, but his sheep are full, where is your firewood?
Don’t give up excellence because of loneliness, and don’t drift with the tide because of company.
When you see your classmates skip classes, you also skip classes. Many people chat in the group, and you put down your study to join them. People often sing karaoke and have a barbecue in the evening, and you also enjoy it.
Percent of the people are muddling along, only 20% of the people, not influenced by others, a person moving towards the road of excellence.
If you are always busy all day and seldom stop to rest, but you have not achieved any obvious results.
Then think about whether you are working at a low level.
Such examples are common.
Some people seem to be very motivated and have signed up for various training classes, such as writing, short videos, financial management, English, photography and so on, and they are studying hard in their spare time.
But the problem is that we have spent so much time, but we have not seen any obvious changes.
Are they stupid?
Apparently not.
Because they don’t know what’s important.
Like a robot, he is busy all day long, but he doesn’t think about why he does these things.
Just mechanical execution, after reciting English words, I began to learn financial management.
People’s energy is very limited, except for eating and sleeping, there are only a few hours a day.
You are busy with so many things every day, and you spend very little time on everything. The book
“The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” divides everything into four categories according to priorities. They are: Because you don’t know what is important to you and what is not important to you, you do it all at once, but your energy is limited, so you can only deal with those “very urgent” things first.
The things that are really important to you, because you don’t spend much time on them, gradually “escalate” into urgent matters.
So, you are dealing with the crisis every day, which thing is the most urgent to do first, busy mess.
Just like firemen, they go where the fire is serious.
And really should take time to do things, but can not take time.
Important and urgent; important but not urgent; not important but urgent; not important and not urgent.
Therefore, this kind of effort is very inefficient. It seems to work hard every day, but in fact it is busy.
How to jump out of the low level of effort?
The most important thing is to be clear about your goals.
You don’t work hard for the sake of working hard, but you need to know why you work hard, so that you can focus your energy and not waste too much energy on things. When
I first joined a new media company, it took a long time to write an article, about 2-3 days to produce one.
And the colleagues around me are basically one article a day.
At that time, I was very anxious and afraid of being dismissed.
So I came to the company early every day, started writing as soon as I put down my things, and was the last one to leave in the evening.
Even so, I still can’t write one article a day.
Later, I realized that the efficiency and quality of writing is actually related to accumulation, and has little to do with working hours.
If you have less knowledge and more time, you may not be able to write well. Knowing
this, I get up every morning to read and learn how to write excellent articles every night, which ensures my continuous output now.
When you’ve been working hard and you can’t see the results, you might as well stop and think about what’s important.
Only by jumping out of the trap of low-level efforts can your life be in an upward state.
05 Finally, to sum up.
What kind of thinking habits will make a person become mediocre.
First, red-light thinking will make you rest on your laurels; second, “knowing everything” will make you lose sight of where you are, and you will enjoy yourself in a state of “everyone is drunk and I am awake alone”; third, being blindly gregarious will give you a chance to go out alone and become excellent; fourth, low-level diligence will only waste a lot of time and energy.
Hope you don’t step on these red lines ~. Pay attention and don’t get lost ~
