How do we judge the three sides of the coin?
First, the most fundamental question is: what is the three? What is the relationship between them? How do you know yourself three ways?
I want to start with a simple story.
When I was in high school, there was a skinny boy in the class, and they called him Blackie. He likes me very much. He burns my face red and has a heart, and I like him as long as he’s around.
If the general school relationship pattern were followed, since two people liked each other, it would be very soon. However, as an extremely rational person, I think a little further. I need to get to know him better before I make a decision.
So I pulled him, talked about life, talked about ideals. Of course he’s patient enough to tell me all the experiences that have taken place since he was born. From the past to the future, Black said his dream was to be a chemistry teacher and to graduate and then go back to our high school to teach.
When I hear all kinds of answers, I ask instinctively why. Because, in my view, the conclusions are not important, it is why it is important for him to make such conclusions, which relate to the perception and perception of life in his mind. We continue to talk about life, about ideals, like we do with a magnifying glass, and finally, I have made his sense and vision clear.
The old black family lived in a small industrial town 100 miles away, built on the mountains, and only one State-owned enterprise that exploits natural resources in the town left its home town and went to school in the city until it was admitted to the city. After more than a decade of observation and conclusion, the black man feels that there are about four categories of work in society: workers, businessmen, civil servants and teachers.
Black said that when a worker is hard, like a worker from his home, he goes off the mines all day; when a businessman, mostly a street vendor, sleeps early and late in a small shop; and when a civil servant, he is not smart enough. If you want to go, only the teacher is the best profession, respected, educated and successful. His favorite subject was chemistry, so he simply chose to be a chemistry teacher.
When all of this is clear, I realize that our world is far from the same. Even if you like it a thousand times, you can’t give up.
Later, Black Cadastre entered the chemistry department of a teacher training college and, after graduation, returned to the primary school and became a chemistry teacher. I hear it’s very popular with students.
Why did you choose the black example to start?
Because it is a three-dimensional view of secondary school students, which is simple and clear enough to provide a simple illustration of the relationship between them. The three visions are world views, life views and values.
What do you think this world is? How does it work? How does it evolve?
The old black view of the world is simple — society as a whole, made up of government, industry, business, science and human rights support. Persons in society are also divided into civil servants, workers, businessmen, employees (teachers, doctors, etc.) according to their field. It’s simple and clear, right?
Life stance, in short, is “what kind of person do you want to be?”
But life stances are not born out of vanity; they must be based on life choices based on knowledge of the world. In the case of Black, for example, because his knowledge of society is divided into four categories, his understanding and planning of life, based on personal preferences, is to become a high school chemistry teacher. He aspired to the double standards of professional dignity and a sense of professional achievement, but could not accept too much physical labour, with adequate leisure time. From this example, we can clearly sense the relationship between the world view and that of life, that is, that it determines life.
Values are for people and things other than themselves, making A and B who better value judgements.
Values are also inseparable from judgement of the world. In the case of the black man, for example, though he did not say so, he has revealed some things, such as: the fact that money is not the most important (the low salaries of teachers in the year), the importance of professional dignity, the fact that intellectual work is better than manual labour, and the fact that he does not like the environment in which he meets his superiors.
Black is a very good man in my eyes.
We’re all like each other, and we’re always happy with each other. I am sure that if we were really together, every day life would be filled with innumerable small fortunes, he would be a more perfect husband. However, is it true that a perfect husband has a happy marriage? Not necessarily. It is a pity, fortunately, that life does not go by its own will and that it will never be eliminated.
So, is it time to make sure that Sankoto is in love before or after?
(Note: The following shall be applicable to both men and women, and he shall replace all places where TA is written, but not specifically to men)
I find that many people have completely reversed the order of confirmation and the order of the relationship. A lot of people would choose to establish a relationship first and then learn three things.
So what if it doesn’t fit?
How many times have you broken up? You don’t want to hurt yourself.
First home run, then a long trip?
The notion of national sexuality is not so open. Why don’t we get to know each other better and make sure we get together?
After the wedding registration, buy a house to remodel the engagement dinner to confirm and make a difference?
That’s why there were so many people who broke up before they got married, didn’t even take a wedding fee, broke up.
Why is there such a diametrically opposed perception, mainly the way we know three ways, too little or too little?
I thought I’d go on a long trip to get to know them, thinking I’d get to know them by getting married and buying a house, but if you get to this stage, even if you don’t, you’re probably already in it.
In fact, that should be the order.
Know him.
Be his friend or make him like you.
– …and then get to know his three ways.
Make sure they match each other’s emotional needs and supplies.
Confirm yourself like him.
Can be lovers.
When a relationship is established, it can begin to develop feelings. Channels of emotional development include travel together.
(Note: Travel together is definitely not a means of understanding but a means of nurturing the emotional base.
\8. The emotional base is deep enough for the wedding to buy a house.
In particular, I would like to say that I have seen a lot of people fighting and even breaking up because they bought a house and their names, how much money they paid, what they did to make it up. Many people have defined this as a three-dimensional discrepancy, but it’s not.
We are too used to different choices as a three-way street. Especially on the house. Disagreements are often not due to three differences, but rather to a lack of emotional basis, a lack of sense of security, the fact that the other side is as wary of you as an outsider, the fact that the other side is thinking about how to save yourself when you break up.
We thought it was possible to look at the relationship once and for all, but we thought that it was the same, and that it was the same, and that it was the same.
But actually, it’s just the beginning. Life is not a fairytale, and it will not be as if two people, once together, would live happily ever after.
Once a relationship has been established, much remains to be done with the aim of deepening it step by step.
Before my boyfriend and I decided on the relationship, I had been very sure that we were the same, that we were the same, that we were the same, that we were the same, that we were the same, that we were the same. This does not mean, however, that everything is safe.
Our feelings, from first love to love, to building a full sense of trust and security, take years. As a result, we all believe that the other side is far more than parents, the most important person in their own lives. If he gets sick, I’ll give him a kidney and half a liver, too if I get sick. I’m sure if I had an accident, he’d take care of my parents for me and, conversely, if he had an accident, I would have.
When a sense of trust, security and will can reach that level, neither the car nor the house is really a problem. We’re not rich or rich, and now we’ve got a little money from scratch, but a half a million cars, my name, the house.
I’ve written eight orders in general.
Every step of the way, it can be opened and turned into a long talk.
Including how to meet strangers? How to be his friend, or make him like himself?
How do you know his three ways? How do you know you like him? How to develop feelings?
But the order must be important. Make sure you have to make sure you’re in love!
The point I’ve been advocating is, if you’re not a very renegade person, you’re not thinking 100% complete Western, if you don’t want to talk 30 to 50 relationships before you get married, then be careful before you make love!
Otherwise, on the basis of an average of three times in love before marriage, if you fall in love easily, it is difficult to “accidentally” marry the person you are destined to marry, with a balance between supply and demand, and the soul mate of your soul. You’ll probably end up living together.
So how do we confirm that? There are, of course, some skills.
First of all, you have to be very clear about yourself. If you can’t figure out your three visions in depth, you’re not sensitive to them. In this insensitive situation, you have no possibility of drawing from the behaviour and experience of others three things. All the following is a mirror moon for you. It’s impossible for you to do it.
Second, the other side can’t tell you the answer through him. Whether it’s a blind date or a friend who’s known for some time, it’s a ridiculous thing to talk about. Because, as above, it is a project to know one’s own three-dimensional book, and the other may not have done such a self-analysis. He doesn’t know how to tell you when he doesn’t know the answer. Or even if he knew the answer, he might not be willing to tell the truth.
Thirdly, in order to ascertain his three visions, it was not possible to discuss them in a simulated setting, because it was useless. Like when you talk to a guy, do you want to hang out with your wife? Would you like to buy her a bag of lipstick? Even if the boy had to take it in his mouth, he did not know what he really wanted to do when he did not actually take his wallet. We’ll be easy to talk about. You know, when you’re in love, you’re the best man/woman in the world, you’re gentle, you’re kind, you’re understanding, you’re in a fight, you’re sure there’s no contradiction…
Fourthly, the best way to figure out his three perspectives is to understand his history. What history? It is important to know what major choices he has made in the past and then to explore the values behind the choices.
This involves an implicit condition. Why would he want to talk to you about his history? No one wants to reveal themselves to strangers.
So, I wrote in the order before, specifically, that it takes time to become his friend or to make him like you. Both boys and girls are willing to talk to another person as long as they have feelings for him. Only this premise will give you the opportunity to learn a great deal about what he’s been through in his life.
So, at the first date, or at the first meeting, you can’t think of knowing him immediately, but you can make yourself an interesting person, interested in talking to you.
And when you are free to talk about your childhood and your childhood, you will come to know his three visions.
For example, a lot of people are worried about whether a boy’s a mom, or a boy’s?
How? Ask him history:
Are you in science?
Oh, how’s your physics?
Well, then why did you choose this profession?
Oh, do you like this profession yourself?
Oh, didn’t you read it at home?
– The point is this last question, and it’s all paved up. We can still ask him if you regret it. What do you want to read if you can re-elect?
It’s just a college selection, and you can hear many of his points of view.
A mother-son, his family would be very involved in all of his major matters, so don’t try to ask him how to balance the issue of “want to live with his parents” because it didn’t happen, and you can’t guarantee that he will do what he says. But what has happened reflects his vision and attitude.
Fifthly, beyond asking history, history can be created. But it’s not about you making love with him or traveling with him, but about two people doing things together.
If you don’t know each other, you can have some common hobby activities.
If you already have some information, you can work together on some matters and solve problems.
I hope you can find your other half in the world.
□ Jen Dao
How do we judge the three sides of the coin? – The answer to the salt selection.
I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
