How did
you become self-disciplined?
Instead of cooking chicken soup, say something real and useful.
Several friends said that I was self-disciplined and too cruel to myself! In fact, I used to be a serious procrastinator, procrastinating and inefficient.
Attention is also difficult to concentrate, originally looking for some information on the Internet, unconsciously brushed up the micro-blog, WeChat.
Now, my day is busy and full. Get up early
in the morning consciously, read for an hour, and then enter a tense and busy working state.
Fragmented time to brush Zhihu, free to go to the gym in the evening, 3-4 times a week.
When I get home, I will study for a while, and at 11 o’clock in the evening, I will sum up the gains and losses of the day.
This state has lasted for more than two years, and my life has changed completely, from a decadent youth at the bottom to a self-Media editor, then to a product manager of the company, then to a freelancer, and now to the founder of a company.
Excellence begins with self-discipline, and I deeply agree with and practice this sentence.
If you are addicted to mobile phones all day, stay up late without restraint, and are greedy for delicious food, such a life is like a “tofu dregs project,” which can easily collapse.
Just like this reader: a life of constant self-discipline, like an index, is constantly on the rise.
So, if you want to be self-disciplined, you must read this article patiently.
First, several misunderstandings of self-discipline. First of all, let’s talk about the misunderstandings of self-discipline. These misunderstandings will make you enter the dead end of self-discipline and consume a lot of time and energy.
1. Self-discipline is not perfectionism. Many people think that self-discipline should be the ultimate, such as going to bed early and getting up early every day, insisting on reading, not watching TV series, not playing games, not eating high-calorie food, and not making any mistakes in the middle.
Otherwise, there is no self-discipline.
I can only say that it’s good to be able to do it, but most people can’t do it, especially at the beginning, when you want to change from a “free range” state to extreme self-discipline. I dare say that almost no one can make
such a big change. The
problem is that many people begin to deny themselves because of procrastination and laziness once or twice, and feel that they are too bad to hold up the wall.
When this negative emotion accumulates, it will put pressure on the brain and eventually develop into a broken pot.
Always calm down to read-forget it; so, when you are lazy and play and delay the business, do not go to deny, criticize yourself, thus giving up self-discipline.
The best way is to make good use of the remaining time and do as much as you can.
2. To fall into the self-discipline of moral licensing effect, we need to be alert to another misunderstanding.
Some people, after studying for an hour, feel that they have done an honorable thing and should be compensated.
So reward yourself to play Tik Tok for half an hour and play a few games.
I was just playing for half an hour, but I couldn’t get out of it.
There are also people who go to the gym for two days and have a great sense of accomplishment. At this time, there is no psychological burden to eat a barbecue. As mentioned
in Self-Control, this is the effect of moral permission.
Psychologists have surveyed people who indulge themselves, who believe that they have been self-controlled, guilt-free, and that they deserve to be rewarded, and that it is this mentality of compensation that makes people degenerate! Go to the library to study because of the delay of binge-watching-anyway, it’s delayed, continue to brush it; play King of Kings until the early morning, and be forced offline-it’s already so late, read the novel again.
Ah, ah, ah, it’s so real.
I used to be like this, reading for an hour, full of sense of achievement.
Seeing myself working so hard, I told myself that it was a matter of course to play King of Kings at this time. As a result, I spent the whole day playing games. Similarly, when we make some achievements, the brain tells you, “This period of time is hard, you should have a good rest.”.
This break is a loss of momentum. You see, the moral permission effect is all around us.
When you are trying to change, another voice keeps saying to you in your ear, “You have worked very hard, stop and rest for a while, brush Tik Tok and watch TV.”.
Once you fall into the moral permission effect, you will indulge yourself more and more. How
to avoid it?
The answer is, don’t do things that are contrary to your goals. After
studying, you can reward yourself with a drumstick, but don’t indulge in Tik Tok. After working out, you can drink a cup of fruit tea with low sugar, but don’t eat barbecue with high calories.
In short, you can give yourself rewards, but don’t do things that hinder the achievement of your goals.
2. Have a clear goal. Most of our procrastination, confusion and anxiety are caused by the lack of a goal.
Because you have no goal, no sense of direction, lack of concentration, it is easy to be attracted by other things, such as clearly ready to study, but has been chatting to brush the drama.
Some people may think that this is chicken soup, but in fact, it can be explained by the knowledge of psychology. When you want to accomplish something, your subconscious will have a strong desire to drive you to achieve it.
In the movie The Pursuit of Happyness, Chris is kicked out of the house because he has been in arrears with his rent for a long time. He takes his son to wander around and sleep in public toilets at night. Chris, who
is in trouble, is eager to change, so when he learns about the profession of stockbroker from a man who drives a super car, he decides to apply for an internship in a stock company, even if he is not paid.
He sold equipment again and again, and worked as a stock intern.
Finally, after going through hardships, he finally became a full member and succeeded in changing his destiny. Why
am I talking about this movie?
When you have a clear goal, there will be great motivation to help you overcome all difficulties.
So if you want to become disciplined, the most important thing is to find your own purpose. It’s not hard
to find a goal. Look at what you want to change most.
For example, you want to be admitted to a graduate school, you want to pass CET-4, you want to improve your income, you want to lose excess fat and so on. The more willing
you are to change, the more motivated you will be. The main reason for
my successful career change was that my current income was too low, and I was eager to improve my income. The motivation to
change the status quo is very strong, which makes me get up early every day to read from a person who hates reading and has a headache when he sees books.
Without a clear goal, none of this will happen.
Because change is very painful, if your motivation is not strong enough, it is likely that you will give up after trying.
Third, to form a standardized life, those excellent people are not because they have different willpower from ordinary people.
Psychologists have given a set of data that only 5% of a person’s day is under his control, and the other 95% is uncontrollable.
So, those chicken soup articles you read are just a shot of chicken blood, which temporarily improves your willpower.
When the willpower is exhausted, you can do whatever you want, which is why chicken soup is useless.
Excellent people are excellent because they have developed one good habit after another. These habits are integrated into their daily life. At a fixed time, habits will push them to do this without relying on willpower at all. When you
think about the college entrance examination, you will know that the daily study is so hard, but you can still stick to it, because the life at that time was standardized and orderly.
Every day when to get up, when to go to class, when to eat, when to do what, all arranged for you.
Almost every day is like this, so standardized and orderly life, the most conducive to the formation of habits.
Therefore, high school, especially senior three, should be the most self-disciplined period for most of us.
Once you get to college, it’s hard to stick to one thing.
In the final analysis, it is necessary to form one habit after another.
But you can only change one habit at a time.
Many people set a lot of goals for themselves at one time, but they still fail in the end. Why?
Because willpower is limited, change means consuming willpower, changing several habits at a time, willpower has long been exhausted.
Be patient and don’t rush for quick success and instant benefit.
We can first cultivate a core habit, which can play a role of four or two sets of kilograms, cause a chain reaction, and promote the formation of other habits.
For example, I developed the core habit of reading, and later, in order to read, I had to get up early, so I developed the habit of getting up early.
In order to maintain my energy, I have developed the habit of fitness again.
In fact, fitness is also a core habit.
When you develop all kinds of habits, like a snowball, your whole life is highly habituated, and your life will start from then on.
4. Some energy management skills 1. Ways to enhance willpower Exercise: Exercise can greatly enhance people’s willpower, because exercise requires constant challenges, which can improve the limits of our willpower. Go to bed
early and get up early: keep enough sleep, people’s energy is exuberant, thinking is active.
Lack of sleep, people will feel slow, the brain is not bright.
2. Meditation: Meditation has many benefits. It can not only improve the quality of sleep, but also improve negative emotions, improve the quality of attention and activate thinking. Studies have shown that as long as more than ten hours of meditation, people’s attention has been significantly improved. Many people with depression use meditation to achieve remarkable results. The way
to meditate is to lie on your back, take deep breaths, and focus on your breathing. You can follow the rhythm of your breathing and silently recite “exhale” and “inhale” in your heart. If your attention is distracted, start over. Five minutes of meditation every day will benefit you endlessly.
The Pomodoro Technique: Focus on what you’re doing for 25 minutes and get rid of everything that’s not relevant to the moment. This can be a huge boost to concentration.
3. Eliminate interference and cut off interference signals: In our mobile phones, we will receive messages from various apps from time to time, and most of us will habitually look at them and then fall into endless procrastination.
quarantine the distraction of this information and you can become more disciplined.
If you really can’t control the impulse to play with your mobile phone, here is an app called “Don’t be a mobile phone controller”.
(Not an advertisement) This app can help you block harassment push.
Moreover, as long as you set the study time, it will be mandatory to lock the phone, during this period, your mobile phone is a brick.
No matter you restart or uninstall, it is useless.
So, you just have to study.
Note: “No phone control” is only suitable for Android phones. Apple users can use “Tomato todo”, and Android users can use both.
Keep the environment clean and tidy: The environment has a great influence on people. Clean room, keep the environment clean and tidy, and create a good learning atmosphere.
OK, the above is the process of my self-discipline.
The method is actually quite simple, but I want to emphasize that self-discipline needs a process and should not be rushed. Only one habit can be changed
at a time, and after one habit is formed, the next habit can be formed.
5. At the end, Wang Xiaobo said that all human suffering is essentially anger at one’s own incompetence.
Self-discipline is the way to make a person better and better.
Therefore, if a person is always a loner, has no recreational activities, and spends his spare time doing such “boring” things as reading, studying, and working out, don’t underestimate him. There is only one purpose behind
his series of self-abuse: he has a strong desire to pursue what he wants.
This kind of person, sooner or later, is an awesome person.
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