How do you catch a boy?
6 words: high value, high temptation.
Women need to be proactive as much as they do in life.
It’s a good thing to be liked by someone, to be able to reach out and not to hide your feelings.
But it should not be forced to upgrade relationships, but rather to bring value and experience to the other.
A lot of people like “confide” and want their consent to a relationship. But if you do not have a basis for relationships, premature requests for escalation can easily undermine relationships.
Human nature likes to do the “cooking rice.”
The following principles can be used to pursue boys with the art of sale:
One word long word warning.
The sale is an act that is intended to influence others, and is intended to alter their perception, emotions and behaviour.
In the original sense of the sale, a customer did not intend to buy it, and your actions gave him the intention to buy it; or your actions made him pay for it. It’s all about changing people.
In marriage, typical sales scenes such as:
In fact, sales are ubiquitous and are often required by everyone in society:
Sales are the basic work that everyone should have, but very little can be done. Most tend to fall into two common types of inefficient marketing thinking.
Both boys and girls tend to fall into two patterns of pursuit when they meet their own kind and then lack interest in themselves.
The first one is the Rogue model.
The central feature of the hyena model is “powerful marketing”.
A lot of girls should have felt what a “sex wolf” is. The typical characteristic of a pervert is a clear desire to achieve an end regardless of the other’s feelings.
Those of you who have received a marketing call should be familiar with the sex wolf pattern. They don’t give a shit what you want, they just sell their products.
It is not just in the original sense that a man is driven by his own desire to go to the subject with no regard for the intentions of others, and he manifests his thoughts and behaviour. This desire must not necessarily be sex, but may also be, for example, a desire to be closer to the other.
Although, overall, there are more male-stalking behaviour, it is equally likely that girls, when pursuing boys, display direct and less sensitive pursuits, such as frequent confessions and entanglements.
The second is the good man model.
The core feature of the good people’s model is “satisfaction.”
Good people try to build relationships by “good for each other.” Frequent warmth, submissiveness, ways to satisfy each other ‘ s demands, and the other to give the stars and the moon.
The third is a pervert + good people mix.
As far as I’m concerned, most people are actually of this type in a state of pursuit.
I’ve known some sales before, and I’ve always been very responsive to customers and warm. By the time the point of performance is reached, the hordes are exposed, and all kinds of soft and hard bubbles want a deal.
That’s how many people fall in love. Often, there is a high degree of obedience to each other, but there are key points, such as the strong involvement of rivals, their excessive investment of time to get anxious, and they tend to start to expose themselves and start to sell. Even moral kidnappings like “I’m so good to you, why don’t you love me”?
A person ‘ s environment often determines his mind.
Where does that come from? In fact, it comes from the idea of selling “roads” that are often happening every day. For example, by selling telephones, for example, the way people around them pursue others.
It’s just hard for most people to realize that these are actually a way to sell low-end products. Marketing into high-end products is very different, even at the opposite end.
Looking at top brands such as apples, Porsche, their marketing techniques and what most firms do, there are fundamental differences in thinking. The end line, whether it’s a “sex wolf” or a “good man”, is to “hunt” and the top brand is to create a strong attraction for clients to choose them.
I was asked to answer the question: “Do you want or attract in love?”
I think there is a logical problem with combining pursuit and attraction.
We know the fundamentals and the technicals.
If there is no attraction to the other, then there is no basis for the whole relationship, and in this case the technical aspects of how to operate may be limited.
In turn, basic aspects are even first-class, and it is at this point that technical operations are more likely to be effective. Maybe you’re not even interested in technology.
In sales, pursuit is a means and attraction is an end.
But once a person is in a state of pursuit, it is easy to pursue it, blindly trying to act close to the other, ignoring this central element of attraction. Even when the pursuit is destructive to the relationship (e.g., a card chat), it continues.
So how do you sell like a top brand?
First of all, you need to grasp the core differences in the pursuit of thinking and in the pursuit of thinking.
Core concept: pursuit vs attraction
Self-value positioning: low value vs high value
Interest: Expressing your interest in each other, vs. stimulating each other’s interest in you.
Psychiatry price playing: low price vs high price
Core sales: Convincing vs experience
Basic building: neglecting basics vs building first-class products and services
People are troubled in their quest:
They’ve been thinking for a long time, and they haven’t found a good way. However, it was not realized that, in many cases, the very idea of “seeking” was the cause of the problem.
And once a deal is made, the customer’s experience is different, and even the salesman who contacted you may have disappeared. Under this model, pre-sale and post-sale experiences are disconnected, and the purpose of the sale is to make a deal.
For example, there are many Internet services now, such as the one I was looking for online, inter-team communication systems. Many companies offer free versions, which are available at no cost and which already solve some of the key problems.
In addition, they will have a fee-paying version that includes advanced functionality or additional resources such as storage space. Overall, however, it is based on the extension of the free version, so that there is considerable consistency in the user experience.
In this model, clients tend to make purchase decisions from a water-to-task basis, which is a more natural choice in the use of free products.
This is a time when products have been fully experienced, where both strengths and weaknesses are better understood, and where there is a greater understanding of their needs and low risk through the use process.
In turn, traditional modes of sale expose customers to very high risks and concerns when purchasing. Because no matter how much the sales blow, we don’t have a lot of numbers. At the same time, the customer is well aware that it is good for himself at this point in time, often motivated by a deal. As for the future, it is not known whether the other side is willing to continue to treat itself in this way.
There is a clear process of pursuit in traditional distribution models.
On the one hand, there will be frequent gestures, statements and a desire for a contract (a promise to establish a relationship with you). This is the pattern in most people’s minds, but its problems are really big.
And those who are in pursuit of a pattern, whose behaviour and daily coexistence are so different that they are so different that they can’t have a clear and concrete experience of what their future relationship is, that they have great concerns.
In this case, no matter how hard you’re looking for, it’s always like, “I’m on rice or on my own.”
This problem cannot be solved in a sales model.
It is difficult even for the pursuers themselves to tell whether or not there is unconditional love or desire. Of course, desire is normal in a relationship, but “how much you love” is more critical when one considers a long relationship.
Because of such encouragement, in a sales model, the sought party tends to find a way to test how much you love me. I have a student who says that she dropped her phone and consciously said to someone to test them for me.
The other side did not answer, and then they argued. She said this, and the other side said, “Look at the message I sent you, you just returned one. I don’t think you love me enough. I’m sorry.
And then their relationship, so often, is testing each other how much you love me. I said to the fellows, “I don’t know what you think, but I’m tired of hearing.” I’m sorry.
Because of this concern, those who are sought will also wear masks that make it difficult to see themselves. And this kind of behavior increases each other’s disguise. This makes it even more difficult for both sides to figure out what the future is going to be like.
Moreover, testing good faith does not solve the underlying problem.
Because like a sale, if the other side needs you (not love), it may still be willing to pay the price (e.g. a gift, even a plan). But in a relationship driven by desire, one does these things in return. It is simply delaying the harvest time.
So there’s one type of bad marriage where the woman thinks that the man (and, of course, the other way around) is in love with herself, but when she goes to bed/marry, she’s completely different. Laziness and all kinds of vices, and neglect of partners and families. He paid for it. Now it’s done, and it’s done.
Actually, it’s normal. Get out and pay back. You’re too good to be greedy.
The more you sell, the lower your sense of value. It’s like a lot of sales calls you every day, and you’re probably bored to death, thinking this guy’s too cheap to want it, or, “Well, since you’re in such a hurry, I’ll wait and see what’s better, or what’s better for you.”
Many have sought a male or a goddess, and they have pursued it in a humble manner. In fact, there was no God in the world because you put yourself in a low position and pushed each other to a higher position, and that’s why there was God.
What’s the first thing that makes a deal?
It’s the clients who want it.
It’s the same with love. The other wants to be with you.
But when a man is in a quest, the heart of his mind is “I want.” And that, even if you don’t have experience of love being pursued, there’s always experience of being sold for. Does it always make you feel like you’re trying to make me pay?
Because their minds have been dominated by “deals” and they have ignored what really matters.
The concept of retracing relationships was first developed from a study of Porsche and Apple.
The two companies have many similarities, and in fact the Porsche itself is one of the markers of Jobs’ studies. They are in the market for consumer goods, but they create high-end brands and create strong attractions.
The analysis of their strategy has two essential elements:
1) First-class products and services
Porsche and apple products tend to look sexy and practical. It’s the best value to see and use.
I’ve studied these two companies, and my deepest feeling is that the most basic factor that makes them attractive to clients is their top product power.
The Porsche 911 series, for decades, has kept both classic and constant adjustments. Apples, iPods, iPhone, iPads, are also a continuous first-class product.
2) Experienced marketing
The best lessons of Porsche is Porsche.
The best Porsche sale is the Porsche.
And in Apple’s specialty, the core of the design is to allow users to experience it. There’s no salesman to make you buy it.
It is clear that the two articles are mutually reinforcing, as the first-class product, which gives full experience to the user, naturally leads to the purchase. Otherwise you take out something that’s ordinary or trash, and then the other side doesn’t have any desire to buy, or maybe even to stay away.
You can do both in love, in business and in search of work. That’s a very strong attraction.
It’s easy, it’s hard. Almost everyone knows that “building first-class products and services” is the most basic. But very few will be willing to continue their efforts.
So the focus is on “How to build first-class products and services as human beings and lovers.” For example, how to be more entertaining, how to share communication effectively, how to love others, how to deal with conflicts, how to be committed, how to grow together…
Because that’s what really makes you a first-class product. With these foundations, you can create high experience of high value in communication with people, so naturally it is easy to attract.
We talked about the “free product” model, an experiential marketing strategy.
You don’t even have to make your boyfriend’s girlfriend your boyfriend’s girlfriend, come up here and give her a free product, of course.
If you can give each other a very good experience, for example, 10 minutes to meet for the first time, communication is very interesting and resonating, creating an emotional experience that exceeds expectations, and allowing each other to give you more time next time.
Each time, beyond the experience of the user, it is usually the speed at which a relationship is pushed forward, much more than the speed at which it is sold. It’s actually like the Apple Porsche, and it makes you feel the value of the product, you buy it if you want, you don’t sell it.
In this model, sales in the traditional sense are virtually non-existent. Although there are specific links to sales work. Your focus is to create first-class products that create an extraordinary user experience and value.
I think the standard that you should be doing is that the free version of your experience, in some key respects, should go beyond the paid version that the other party usually has.
In a relationship, for example, even male and female friends, most of them may not appreciate finding each other’s strengths to compliment each other for making each other happy. You come up in 30 seconds and make each other float.
Or most people don’t know what their dreams are worried about, and you know it clearly from the first three conversations. Or, most people’s day-to-day communication is boring, boring, and you’re very good at driving each other’s emotions and being positive.
With such a basis, it would be easier to get to the canal if the other side wanted more and did not deliberately pursue results.
Because if your users experience free value, they want to upgrade the product. And because they already have enough experience, the risk is much less of a concern.
It is also very important that I have recently found human connections to be a major problem for all.
How did you get high-quality connections? Actually, it’s your free product. It’s nice to be in touch with you. It’s nice to be with you. And then they’d like to introduce to the people around them, “Who is that funny, smart, passionate, bralblabla… and I recommend you to meet,” and the slogan came out.
The key question here is that you’re only getting higher and higher when people feel that you’re a free product so that they think you’re a very high-quality person who matches their human veins and is willing to introduce your best resources to you.
If people think you’re normal, either you don’t spread, or you tend to watch people cook, and they recommend you to the average or worse person in their circle. Then it’s over.
Many people say they can’t find the right person for a blind date. Leaving aside the quality of the link itself, the last time I saw an answer to the question of the relationship, you knew what level it was in the presentation. Look at the person you’ve been introduced to.
Here, the key question is to return to the product, to create a high degree of user experience and value, and to create a strong appeal. So we talked about Porsche and Apple, which are also top-notch companies, so that’s the kind of confidence that gives you the chance to choose.
This is also the core difference between high-end and low-end product sales. The sale of road goods and various forms of voodoo marketing are common practices. But if you’re a high-end product for sale, and you look at the top-end brands in the world, they’ll avoid marketing this way, and it’s very damaging to the brand, and it’s not necessarily working.
Most people are accustomed to low-end marketing patterns, which they do not consciously know about their behaviour. And that’s the pattern, too small for you to try, for example, to give warmth to the goddess every day.
It’s an apple Porsche in a relationship, not a market. The ability to bring unforgettable experiences and create strong temptations and reputations is fundamental to attracting high-quality candidates.
It is a very basic ability to review the situation in a relationship. You need to know what is the right time to do the right thing.
The relationship between people has a hierarchy, as follows:
Once again, the model is not a realistic and accurate response; it is used to help you grasp the core pattern, so please don’t use a hard-on.
The law of escalation, like playing games, you have to pass it all the time, usually you can’t jump.
At the level of your relationship, you do what you want to do and move on to the next level. Don’t do the sixth.
I’ve been breaking up with my girlfriend for months and still want to get back together.
Then one day, I was told that my ex-girlfriend was upset with him and that he was not going to say anything. I asked him what happened.
I sent a red bag on the 1st, and then the 2nd I wanted to go out for dinner, but she said it was too busy. The thing is, I bought fruit and cooked her food today. She said not again. Specifically today, before I left, did I call her and ask her if she was home? She’s not here. Ask me why. I said I’d get you something.
In fact, the relationship between the two parties now is more or less at the friend level. And “without permission to bring food directly to the other party’s home”, which is at least for close friends, is an act of excess.
There were girls who added their own virtuosos to their tweets, and two people occasionally spoke. And then, basically, every circle of friends for boys, girls comment, and they also express concern about things such as “at work this late”. “I love you so much that you want to be with you every day.”
It is only at the level of people who know or know each other, and doing such a thing tends to make the other feel too big to accept.
For example, at the level of acquaintances, you have to accept your lover relationship, which usually makes you more colder for serious people. On the other hand, if your own relationship is already at the level of close friends, then push it forward, it will normally not hurt your relationship even if the other side refuses.
It should also be noted that female students can also increase sexual contact with men. Many men are less resistant to the sex of the door. But if you simply attract boys by sleeping together, while the other side may laugh, it doesn’t mean that there will be a big change in your relationship. For example, if they were known, they wouldn’t be lovers. There is still a need to promote relationships in other areas.
Girls are often reluctant to reach out to boys, which can be considered cheap.
Cheapness is usually generated in several cases:
1. Severe excess of supply over demand
For example, a person often takes the initiative to trust each other and engages in card communication. It’s not worth anything, but it’s taking time. It’s like walking around with a little ad, but you don’t need it.
2) Lack of value in saliva
“Good people” is a common problem. They want the stars, they want the moon, they want the moon, they want the 24×7 service. Even if it’s what they need, it’s hard for them to have a sense of value.
Our human assessment of the value of things is not entirely rational, but depends to a great extent on the difficulties we have acquired. The more investment the more difficult it is to get, the more valuable it is to itself.
The Dragon said in The Two Glorys:
Most men’s problems, even a sow, if two men wanted her at the same time, every place would be beautiful, but if one of them suddenly abstained, the other man immediately realized: “She was a sow, she was just a sow. I’m sorry.
3 thinks you lack self-esteem.
If a person does not respect himself, others often find him cheap.
I have a student who says that her ex-boyfriend broke up, that she begged and was very quiet. The ex-boyfriend said, “I’m a little ashamed of you.”
If you put the other side in a higher position than yourself, lack your own principles to please others or achieve your goals, and lack respect for yourself, then it is difficult for others to respect you.
In the first three cases, communication tends to be characterized by a person ‘ s frequent low-price behaviour and its low relative psychological price.
In retrospect, in the chapter “Entertainment and the Challenge”, we talk about common low-price behaviours:
The frequent behaviour described above can easily be perceived as cheap.
Understand what comes out of cheapness. Is it true that girls have a sense of cheapness when they come into contact with boys?
We are still analysing these three situations.
1. The situation of supply in excess of demand
Most often, there is a persistent lack of positive response to your indifference and you have frequently initiated communication to express your needs.
The solution to this problem is first and foremost to avoid the imposition of feelings of presence in the context of the continued indifference of the other party.
This is a very good feedback if the other side is with you, with a high level of emotion (positive, passionate, pleasant, etc.), a close relationship (reference seven layers of intimacy), a constant initiative to communicate with you, to communicate with you or to be responsive to proposals.
If, in turn, the other side is indistinguishable from you, distant from each other’s words, not reaching out to you, and is less responsive to the communication you initiate, then the basis of your relationship is problematic. It’s usually faster to attack.
Another situation is that more is given so much that the other side is not feeling. A strategy here is to control your supply.
Sometimes there is a feeling, the same taste, if it’s a small one, that it’s not eating well. If it’s enough, it might end up feeling like it’s too much to eat.
And to understand that, you also need to think about weight in the relationship, not as much as you want. Many times it’s like a trial dress, and at first the bottle is free. If you want it, you have to pay an extra price. For example, you need someone to contact you.
Of course, all of the above is fundamental to enhance your ability to create a high degree of value and experience in communicating with each other and to receive a positive response.
2) Lack of a sense of value for saliva
In love, of course, you give value to each other, but you can’t follow each other.
The key to this is to change thinking, not “give if you want, but only if you want.”
It is also important to learn to make people pay for what they give and what they get.
A woman friend asked me out for dinner once.
We are far away, so I propose to choose the intermediate location. She said to me, “I’m late from work. I can’t get out. Come to my office. I’m sorry.
That’s what she said last time. I was there.
So this time I said to her, “Sir, I’m busy too. Why don’t you tell me a joke and I’ll come over. I’m sorry.
She said, “I don’t make jokes.”
We said, “Then sing me a song. I’m sorry.
She said, “It’s not a good office right now. I’m sorry.
I said, “Well, when we meet, you tell me or you sing to me.” She said, “Okay.”
I went to the restaurant first, and when she sat down, I knocked on the table with my fingers like a piano, and I laughed at her and said, “Come on, let’s have one.”
And then she really sang me a little bit.
A good relationship is the will of two people: you are willing to do something for me, and I am willing to do something for you, not a one-way payment.
When you give, you probably have no idea how important what you do to each other.
In turn, the fact that I let my friends sing attests to a thing, at least because she values this meeting and is willing to pay a price. If her attitude is, “You either come here unconditionally or you don’t have to get together,” I’m afraid she doesn’t care about this meeting at all. Then you need to review, and I’m afraid you have no value to each other.
“The other side is willing to pay the price” is proof that what you do has a positive impact and that you care about your relationship. So, please don’t sing the one-stop show.
Of course, if you first create value for the other.
3) For the feeling of lack of self-esteem
This is the fact that in a relationship or any other relationship, there is respect for one ‘ s self, its own principles, and no end in itself.
We spoke earlier of two different types of sales: high-value marketing, and cheap marketing. These two types of marketing thinking can be said to be quite different in many cases.
The marketing of cheap goods for the general public is usually characterized by:
This is the way that good people do, to a large extent, pursue others. This in itself is the bottom line of lack of self-esteem and principles.
In turn, the marketing of high-value products is an alternative. For example, there are high-end luxury items that you can buy if you can’t pay for. And even if it comes down, you might have to wait a year and a half.
This thinking has a central point: “We offer high-value products and services, and we demand from our clients. You got to pay for it.”
Clients are treated equally in the marketing of high-end brands, and while they serve them well, they do not lower their profile.
In the chapter on how to deal with conflict, we talk about name and substance.
In the pursuit phase, the common mistake is to focus too much on merit and ignore substantive relationships.
In retrospect,
I don’t want you to take me for credit right now. It’s just for your own good, for your company, for your experience. In the process, the relationship was deepened and finally recognized.
So let’s say it’s not a problem if it’s just an expression of what you like. If there is a desire for a forced escalation when the basis of the relationship is not established, the relationship is often undermined.
How do you catch a boy? – Yes.
I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
