I have analysed the six demons of loss, timidness, timidness, impatience, fragility, stagnation — the six psychological barriers to our in-depth knowledge, from what, why, how and how — and have provided you with a way of first-hand experience of what works in the process of putting myself into practice and overcoming difficulties.
What’s deep cognitive?
In my view, it is a perception that goes beyond appearances, straight-up and more realistic.
Deeper and more implementable.
Implementation would be more effective because of its depth, and because it would be more effective and reflect its depth.
A few years ago I asked myself the question: why do I have a good education and a lot of studies, but my opinions on a lot of issues are clearly shallower than some of my classmates, some of whom are socially experienced, and who are “Lao never read?” They don’t seem to have that much knowledge, but they do have a lot of blood, a pointer to the essence, and even on the basis of that knowledge, and they have done a good job, and they are clearly better able to solve real problems than I was then.
It makes no sense simply to put it in the form of “pupils who are stupid and useless” and that there is a lot of people who can do things and do things.
The question is “Why.”
Soon I found an answer that would convince me: the depth of practice, the support of deep practice to deeper understanding.
If only thinking based on the knowledge of books, the lack of first-hand, first-hand feelings and feedback from practice, and the right and efficient analysis of our thinking, with more in-depth information from the practice, will sustain our deeper awareness, which will then promote practice and help move it deeper — This is the “spinning up” of cognition and practice, and that’s what “know one” means.
This is certainly close to the truth, but then I realized a deeper question:
Many times, we are not unaware of the need for in-depth practice, and many times we are stopped not by “not know” but by “not practice.”
Not that I don’t know, but that I can’t.
Why not?
It’s not “psychotic” for me.
Many knowledgeable and highly educated people are less able to practice their mentalities.
Whenever you want to go to deep practice, there will always be emotions and hypes to stop — risk, cost, face, pressure, time, conditions, etc. — what happens when you fail, shame, right? Is it really worth it? Do I have that power?
In short, there’s always a reason for success to stop us — and it seems reasonable (if it doesn’t make any sense, it can’t stop us).
Even if we have temporarily blocked the hymn with a moment of passion and impulsion, we have begun to practice, and when we are really faced with difficulties and challenges, those thoughts quickly emerge, causing you anxiety, hesitation, strife, frustration, disappointment and then quickly abandon.
It is difficult to start, and it is easy to give up, and naturally it is difficult to stick to practice, and thus reach a deeper perception.
Gradually, I began to realize that there is a “heart” between the two, a “know-the-heart-line” structure, and that if we do not solve our psychological problems, that is to say, overcome our “heart demons”, we will not be able to reach a deep sense.
Hearts must be defeated.
I. What are the demons?
If we come in peace, we’re going to rip cocoon, we’re going to rip out a little bit of the seemingly tumultuous hysteria, and we’re going to sort it out.
Lack of direction, doubts about the existing direction, lack of commitment and enthusiasm to do things, lack of initiative.
Cowardness: lack of confidence in their abilities, greater fear of difficulties and conflicts, avoidance of contradictions and a strong tendency to escape.
Arguments: Too often in a state of disarray, easily overturning decisions and choices made, undecided, and depleting energy and energy in the struggle.
Desperate: eager to achieve results, to see results quickly, to solve all problems in one way and to pursue once and for all and shortcuts.
Vulnerabilities: Fear of failure, fear of loss of self-image after failure, lack of determination and courage to triumph in the face of difficulties.
Stagnation: difficult to start, poor mobility, care-giving, anxiety, a lot of thought but not translated into action, poor capacity to solve problems and push ahead.
Because of our confusion, we do not know what to do. Naturally, we cannot hold on to it for long in one direction and lack the enthusiasm and will to do things.
We’re running away from what we have to do because we’re afraid.
We know that we should do it, but fear grabs our hearts and lets pretend to be blind and deaf.
We hesitated among the different options because of our indecisiveness.
Time, energy and opportunity are running out of such hesitations, and when we return, we get nothing but remorse.
We are always looking for shortcuts and playing success because of impatience.
We always hope to see results as soon as we work, and we have a long-term plan, but then we abandon implementation because we are so anxious to succeed.
Because of our vulnerability, we want to give up once we have problems and difficulties.
Our lack of courage and determination, our difficulties and obstacles have caused us great pain, and our anxiety and suffering have made it a natural decision to give up.
Because of stagnation, we lack the capacity to address real problems and make progress.
It is a vicious circle in which we are further deprived of the opportunity to do things by being considered incapable by the external environment.
We are lost, timid, inconvenient, impatient, fragile and stagnating, with six demons, and we are working on six roadblocks and six psychological barriers to in-depth knowledge.
What are the root causes of the demons?
We look deeper, and we find that there are six demons that can be divided into four categories.
Frustration is one type, one of directional and weak power.
Cowardness and fragility are a category of weak mental energy.
Interference and stagnation are one category and weak operational capacity.
Desperateness is a category that belongs to weak internal power.
And as we analyze it, there’s a layer of incremental logic.
Why is there no direction, no motivation and no passion?
Because, under the current examination system and the pressure for advancement, our teenagers were in the “student model” of “single environment, strong target, weak interference” before college.
The university went through a transition and quickly entered the society into a “social model” of “pluriple environment, weak target, and intense interference.”
In the “students model”, because the environment is pure, well-targeted, and because external interference is weak, students, especially good students, do not need to think at all about direction, motivation and enthusiasm. People do not need to think, judge and choose every day. They simply have to try hard to get higher scores, as required, to enter the desired university.
But this is not the social model at all, it’s not the “versions” and “mechanical changes,” it’s a game. In the social model, the environment is highly diverse and no longer a simple school, it is extremely rich in elements, money, resources, opportunities, platforms, images, abilities, influence… The complexity of the game has risen at several levels.
Worse still, it is a weak target, and there is no fixed objective such as “appearance” before, and there is no evaluation criterion such as “score” and you have to find your own goal, either because of interest or love.
This is still happening in an environment of intense interference — a real world that is sufficiently complex, where countless things happen every day, and where you find yourself surrounded by countless information every day, often contradictory information that makes your judgment more difficult and magnifies your anxiety.
As a result, many students have lost their minds, especially those who have adapted to their original “student model”.
They find themselves unaware of this complex society, they become real white, they look like a lot of roads but they don’t know which path they should go, and they don’t seem to have a strong interest in reading and reading other than studying? Maybe, but it doesn’t seem to be able to feed itself, and it’s difficult to make it happen quickly.
The outside sounds are very noisy, everyone is expressing themselves, and they don’t know who’s right or who’s wrong. Parents have to take a civil servant test and get married and have kids, but they don’t seem to be in love.
At the end of the day, the perception of a complex society is blank, because without ever seeing it, much less loving and loving, walking along the path arranged by the parents, and feeling at all times wrong, wondering why I didn’t have the enthusiasm and motivation to go back to school and think about going back to school when I was at least not so lost…
2. Why is timid and fragile, and the psychological power weak?
Inadequate experience, exercise and capacity.
Capability is not natural and requires scenery, experience and exercise.
It says, “Money is a hero’s courage” and “power” is the power of mind. Lack of capacity, natural lack of courage, and natural desire to escape and give up. Once in society, awareness and experience are sorely lacking that they naturally lack the capacity to deal with problems and solve them.
To take care of one’s own details in life, to deal with others and to choose the path to life without experience, without experience, without thought, without certainty…
Remember when I first graduated from society, I went to the political hall to do the paperwork because I called a young woman, Aunty, and she was so disparaged (my fault), that I didn’t know that it was better to call me sister when I was 40 or 50…
It’s always a setback. It’s hard to feel frustrated, no one likes to be frustrated, so just lock themselves up, reduce contact with the outside world, and stay in their little mental space, which is called self-contained.
At this point, if parents or other experienced people are able to take into account the pain of these young people, to be more understanding, not sarcasm, to be patient, to get them to exercise slowly, they will be able to help the young people through this “difficult” dark time.
Unfortunately, most people don’t have that kind of luck, and they’re often faced with the assessment and sarcasm of what you can and can’t do. Such negative assessments and ridicule can seriously undermine one ‘ s self-confidence, and many people become more vulnerable and self-doubt at this time.
3. Why struggle and stagnation? Why weak operational capacity?
The problem is that there is a lack of exercise and a lack of capacity, so that it can be constantly improved and that it can be overcome slowly.
However, many of them are facing serious difficulties in getting out of the process of exercise and empowerment instead of getting into a struggle and stagnation to decide and act.
Why?
It is difficult for many people to survive the painful phase of “low feedback” because humanity is abominable of pain.
Moreover, the more successful of the student age, often with high self-esteem and a certain amount of image burden, are increasingly unable to accept the images and feelings of “lost” in the short term.
In other words, it is difficult to get positive feedback when human nature is immune to pain, when capacity is weak, where there is a tendency to escape difficulties, and where positive feedback is more received in adolescence, the tolerance for negative feedback is worse.
This is why so-called “bad students” who have been poorly educated for many years often make some progress in society.
Instead of being burdened with so-called success stories, they are very resilient to negative feedback, and they have improved their problem-solving capacity through continuous exercise and practice.
From this point of view, we are already more aware that this is a vicious circle of logic:
“a society that is less aware, less experienced, less exercise — weak capacity to solve real problems — high negative feedback and heavy burden — a tendency to escape, weak capacity to act — social insight and experience cannot be enhanced — inability to improve ”
The long-term persistence of this negative cycle creates a stable personality of a person — a human being who is weak and weak.
4. Why impatience is a sign of weak internal power?
Angry people, always looking for quick success, hoping for shortcuts.
It is also a symptom of the extreme self-confidence of this man, his weak internal strength, his lack of self-identification and his failure to build a strong self.
Behind it is a desire for external identity.
For the reasons analysed above, together with the prevalent in family and school education — the tendency and behaviour to attack the self-confidence of the child, to deny the child’s hobbies and to make decisions for his or her children — our children are generally lacking in self-confidence, many of them have become adult family members, but their hearts are still fragile and fragile and do not build their own and strong hearts.
I believe in my own worth, in my own self and in my strong heart, and that I deserve to be loved, not by external success or failure: I succeed and I believe in my own worth; I fail and I believe in my own worth.
This self-identification is unconditional.
But if this powerful self cannot be built, then it will change to another model: I recognize my value, if I succeed.
Such recognition is conditional on the need to succeed.
So it’s just the appearance, in essence, that this man has to succeed, so that ta feels worth it.
Only the obligation to succeed has no right to fail.
This sense of anxiety of value prompts me to seek quick success every hour of every day, and if it doesn’t, then to pretend to be successful and to play successful.
Frightenedness always goes hand in hand with vanity, and behind it is a lack of self-identification.
III. THE METHODOLOGY AND METHODOLOGY TO COMBAT THE DEEP
So much analysis, we go back here:
Frustration is one type, one of directional and weak power. Cowardness and fragility are a category of weak mental energy. Interference and stagnation are one category and weak operational capacity. Desperateness is a category that belongs to weak internal power.
The cure for the confusion is to actively engage in practice, to experience more and more, to find one ‘ s love, motivation and direction, to see, to know and to love.
The cure for timidity and vulnerability is to overcome difficulties in practice and to improve their ability to solve problems and deal with conflicts and grow up in the rain.
The cure for the struggle and stagnation is to increase tolerance for failure in the short term, to put down the burden of image and to put light on the line, to truly understand that failure is not scary and that stagnation is terrible.
The cure for impatience is to truly build a strong self, achieve inner growth and create an independent personality.
In conclusion, it is a statement: more work, more work, more failure, more work, more power, more power.
This is the heart approach, and the following are the four specific approaches, all of which I have experienced first-hand in the process of putting myself into practice and overcoming difficulties:
One is to take the initiative.
Faced with problems that begin to be difficult and easy to give up, it is necessary to take the initiative to enter into a situation of responsibility when you are in a good state, when you have a clear vision, when you have a strong sense of purpose, such as taking the initiative to take on a project, for example, to start managing a team… Once you are in the game, you have a responsibility, which will make you want to start and you will have to start, no matter how hard you want to escape, and then you will have to walk hard and find a way out.
The second is timely feedback.
It is deeply true that many articles are saying that people have to learn to be content with delay.
But for those of us who are already in the game at this point, it is important to give high priority to timely feedback and to make a strong and proactive effort to pursue timely feedback, even if it is small, without addressing the underlying problems.
Because our core problems are one of self-confidence, vulnerability and hesitation, we must focus on our existing capacities and conditions, constantly receive positive feedback from the results that are readily available, build confidence, take down the fruits so that we do not starve to death, then build up our strength to tackle the more difficult problems.
Three is a bad one.
There are always problems that can’t be overcome, and it’s useless to imagine anything, to be determined, to bite your teeth, at any cost, to attack it, or to be aggressive. It’s a question of skills, it’s a question of humans, it’s a question of humans, it’s a question of opportunity, it’s a question of opportunity, it’s a question of struggle.
Four is to buy time.
Our path, as long as we begin to move, will bear fruit, and we will begin to achieve real growth from the moment of active practice and overcoming difficulties, and we will begin to improve our quality and capabilities in all areas.
But ultimately, the extent of what we can achieve is whether we can reap full or we can taste it, and the most crucial point is how long we can last and how far we can go on this road. This will require our firm confidence that the road will continue for a long time and that conditions will be created to allow the outside environment (family environment, work environment, etc.) to continue for a long time.
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I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
