“Luqin’s son and son: No yelling, no raising a good child.”

“Luqin’s son and son: No yelling, no raising a good child.”

Lu Qin, Chief Education Specialist, former Editor-in-Chief of the China Press and Publications Agency for Children and Adolescents, was the long-standing director of the Chinese Youth newspaper ‘ s “Sisters of the Heart” section, and later founded the magazine “Sisters of the Hearts ” , in the service of family education. He is now Vice-Chairman of the Professional Committee on Family Education of the Chinese Society for Family Education, and is a member of the expert committee of the China Committee on Care for the Next Generation, an educational expert of the Central Television ‘ s three programmes ” Very 6+1 ” and ” Very Gangs ” .

You might have to ask, you’re 70 years old, don’t go around the world, spend your days, why do you teach on the Internet? It’s us 80 years after 90 years later. This may not be my most familiar environment, but it is my responsibility. Why would I do an Internet course? In 40 years of family education, I found that parents of every age had different pressures. My parents, who are under material pressure, have several children, who buy food, oil, meat, cloth, and so many children in the family, how to feed and warm them, which is the worst thing for this generation of parents, and whose generation is characterized by the saving of money. The parents of our generation’s only-born children, who are under the pressure of survival, have to work and study, so they are busy with their children while they are taking their educative titles and their qualifications. When my children become parents, the pressure on material and survival is lessened, but the pressure on competition is growing, and the parents of this generation, fearing that their children will lose to others, have to do everything in their power to keep them on the start line. They give love to their children, but they don’t think they’re as good as others, the most obvious characteristic of which is anxiety and anxiety for the parents.

For decades, I have received a great deal of help letters and phone calls every day from my children and parents, almost every day at the mouth of the volcano, and it is hard to be a parent today, as I have been told by those tears of broken letters and telephone calls.

As a caring sister, how much I want to give a little help to every parent who asks for help, and to relieve a little pain to every sad parent. How much I want every child to have a harmonious and sweet family and a quiet sky for every child. However, I have been unable to cope with the fact that, despite the number of books I have published, the number of educational lectures I have given everywhere, and the fact that there are nearly 100 people in the business of knowing my sister, the needs of parents and children are still far from being met.

Fortunately, online courses have flourished in recent years, such as after the rain. Many young mothers and fathers have started to study various courses on the Internet, including home education, an approach well suited to young parents in the struggle. I finally see hope that online courses will not be limited by time, that parents and children will be able to communicate with their informed sisters at all times, that they will be able to articulate more systematically and more specifically the concept of informed education, and that they will disseminate advanced concepts of family education and methods of scientific procreation, and that parents who truly love their children will care for their children ‘ s development. From an early age, children are nourished by their spiritual culture, armed with advanced educational ideas and raised by scientific ideas and methods. The aim is to help parents, especially mothers, who are anxious to get out of their anxiety, to face their children in a scientific way and to teach them well without shouting. That’s what I’m doing on the Internet. What kind of course is this?

The course consists of five modules, 25 of which are spoken.

The first module addresses the learning challenges of children. Learning achievement is a top priority for many parents and children, both in general and at the top of the list, owing to the fact that it is a source of distress for many. We use five lessons to tell parents how to help their children overcome their aversion to learning, so that they can learn.

The second module is how to develop the ability of the child to benefit for life. Today, as technology continues to evolve and society evolves, I think that no parent can predict what the future society of a child is. It is possible that the knowledge that we force our children to learn now will become obsolete in less than five years, but there are abilities that can benefit children for life without changing times. In five sessions, this module informs parents of the importance of five abilities that can benefit the child for life.

The third module is the analysis and response to the psychological problems common to children. Lack of communication with children is a problem that many parents often encounter. To communicate effectively, it is important to have the key to the children ‘ s heart, which is the method of communication in science education. How to encourage, how to criticize, how to punish, how to manage emotions, how to help children build confidence? This module uses five lessons to tell parents how to communicate with their children.

The fourth module is on how to spend the transition with the child. Many parents consider the adolescent child to be incompetent, but adolescence is an important period for the child ‘ s mental and physical maturity. It is only through adolescence that children become adults, and parents need to complete a change in their roles during adolescence. The module uses five lessons to tell parents how to help their children through adolescence. How should parents deal with the problems of heterosexuality, self-esteem and gender awareness?

The fifth module is how to be smart parents. An effective education without yelling or yelling is the ideal state that many parents expect. But it is not the children, but the parents who need to change. Parents ‘ mentalities, visions and patterns directly affect children and families. The module uses five lessons to teach parents how to use their wisdom to face children and lives.

What will you get after school? You’ll get five words from this course.

The first sentence is good mood, bring out good kids. A peace of mind parent must bring up optimistic children. A parent with anxiety and fear will bring out a child with great stress. My mother gave me the best gift of my life, the “very good” mentality, so my life was happy. So We gave the son the name of joy, joy, and hope that he would be happy in life, and that he would be happy in heaven. As a result, the greatest characteristic of a son is his sense of humor and optimism, which brings happiness not only to himself but also to others. So whatever you expect, you get what you’re worried about, you’re worried about what’s going to happen, you’re going to be happy to raise your kids, and your kids will be a good mind.

The second sentence is good words and good deeds, affecting good children. Children grow up on their parents’ backs, they’re not taught, they’re imitated. So we need to influence children in good behavior, in civilized language. The most important way to educate children is not to teach them, but to make them look good.

The third sentence is good relations. Harvard University in the United States did a survey. What kind of people are the most likely winners of life? The survey lasted 76 years and followed 268 Harvard students, with the result that love, warmth and intimacy are the most important beginnings of life. So I’m going to tell you how to make a good relationship with the kids, which is very important. With good family relations, children will be able to adapt to society and be welcomed. Because children are the product of the environment.

The fourth sentence is good ideas, good children. Growing up isn’t easy. Growing up is regular. As French ideologue and educator Rousseau put it, educating the child must conform to the child ‘ s physical and mental development patterns and age characteristics, or lead to adverse consequences. Man has its place in the order of all things. In the order of life, childhood had its place, and it was very clear that adults should be treated as human beings and children. So we have to teach science in family education, and a change of mindset can change children.

The fifth sentence is a good way to help the kids. There are good ways to stop anxiety, so to find a good way for the child, parents can stop yelling and achieve good educational results. Children can also learn from their parents ‘ wisdom how to face life and life. A good way to do that requires us to explore and learn with our children.

If you can do that, you can have a good child without yelling. I want all parents to start learning again like children, to change your mind, to change your approach, to face the children’s world with the pupils’ mentality. I want all my parents to go inside, understand them, respect them and release their energy. I want all mothers and fathers to take the view that they should not leave wealth to their children and that they should grow into wealth. I think you will be very pleased as a parent when our children face the world and say, “I can do it” and are able to change it. I hope that all our children, with the upbringing and love of their parents, will become self-confident, optimistic, lively, thinkable and creative. The good future of China lies with its children. I think you are here, too, when your children grow up to be a force for our Republic.

Most of the contradictions reflected in the family are in study, and many parents often complain to me. What about my children? Some parents even say that my children like to lock themselves up at home, go to school and go to sleep, and as soon as they come to the school gate, there are conditions in which their stomachs go down, their heads burn down, their chests go down, but they are healthy as soon as they hear they can leave school today or leave school. Doctors refer to this strange phenomenon as an anorexia syndrome. There are also children who are obsessed with online games all day long and who wish to rely on this method to ease the stress of learning and are in fact a manifestation of anaexic syndrome. You really don’t underestimate the state of this modern disease, you know, not only does anaexia happen to children who can’t keep up with learning, but sometimes a lot of good kids can get tired of learning. Thus, even for children who at this stage seem to be quite normal, parents must be very careful and use small strategies to avoid as much as possible such accumulation. Let’s see, we’re not tired of doing things that we like to do, we’re not tired of being interested in. So what’s at the heart of the problem of anorexia? This will require the wisdom of your parents.

I tell a true story. One day, a painful mother came to me from Luoyang and sat in her office and cried. At the age of 13, her son had passed to a key secondary school in Beijing because of his sports specialty and excellent performance, because he was alive and alive and smart and particularly well-connected, and soon became the head of the class. However, at the time of the third year, the school had been discouraged from violating the school rules and had only improved to another regular school. This setback left the child in a state of frustration and chose to give up. He didn’t want to go to school, he slept at home all day making Internet friends, and he even asked his parents for $30,000 on a plane to meet his friends out of town. He also forced his parents to buy him a car on the condition that he would go to school, that it would be older and that they would change his car. The parents came to Beijing to visit him, but he refused to see them. Mother broke her heart and came to help her. After hearing her cry, I offered to see his son. On the day of the appointment, I specifically invited a mother and daughter of the poor mountain of Gansu, who, with her confidence and hard work, went to a university in Beijing, but whose family was poor and could not afford to pay her to study, and whose mother came to Beijing to ask me to find a job for her, and to do everything in her power to finish her university. The two sides sat down in a conference room, while I was going to learn, and the spirit of the girl moved everyone here, and I decided to go with the boy’s mother and fund the girl to finish school.

Boys who look at things all the way to one side are particularly touched. Then I used this topic to talk to the boys and get to know him better. I found out that his sports specialty was really good, and then I hit him on the shoulder and said, I’m sure you can do it. It was not expected that this kind of praise and this physical contact would make him feel that I understood him and agreed with him, that his heart was open and that he would be happy to listen to some of my suggestions. I’m sure you’ll find out why I arranged this meeting. It was particularly important for the child ‘ s circle to reach out to someone better than him, to let someone better influence him, and to be much more effective than parents trying to persuade him.

Looking at the future, the pattern determines life. If you want a child to be a person, you have to make contact with such a person. Of course, this is not enough for parents to give children like Li Yi Yiu enough excitement and motivation. And We introduced to him, deliberately, a good man years older than him, to make them friends. The boy, Hae-shang, graduated from Tsinghua University International MBA and was at the time president of an investment bank in a given city. Don’t look at him as an old friend of mine in his 20s. I gave him Li Myung-To this time, and I am sure he can influence him. It is true that soon after that, they became good friends. In their interaction with the sea, they most often discuss how to stimulate learning interest and improve learning efficiency and learning methods. Just before Li Ming was ready to take the high examination, Hae-shang said that I felt more nervous about his taking the high examination than I did when I did it. Before Li Ming went into the examination, Haishung sent a message to encourage him. I believe you can do it. In the end, Li Ming got a high score of 617. In the school, Li Ming’s studies were good and he was elected class leader with high votes. At the Beijing Student Games, he also won second place in the jump-off competition. The following spring, Lee Myung’s mother came to my office again, and the difference is that pain becomes joy, and the mother is now glowing. In addition, it would be better to have her child help someone else, like a sea-shang, and it would be more conducive to the child’s motivation. I also told this mother that Li Ming is going to be able to help people like Sea Suk. Then I went to Hae-suk. I said you helped Li Ming. What did you gain? Hae-shang told me that, in order to help Li Ming to improve his interest in learning, I had specifically summarized a learning approach. For example, whatever subjects are studied, three basic processes of understanding, memory and application are followed. If you turn these three things upside down, you’ll have trouble learning. Everyone has their own learning habits, and he says I do as I do. After school, wash your face and feet, then go to bed and finish your dinner to restore your spirits. After dinner, the rest is enough and the spirit is restored and the study begins. In order for him to study at night without taking a nap, he has reasonably arranged the order of study. Learning English is the most tiring, so put it in the front. It’s hard to do math, to put it to the last end, and to use it as a reward to encourage yourself to do what you like to do. It is often said that the helper of God helps him, and this learning is done only by himself, and no one can do it for him. The pleasure of learning is found by itself, and learning is a state of progress. The ocean said that when you get in, it’s fun. He said that I often looked for English-language subjects, and every 10 questions were divided into groups to start my own challenge practice, and that as long as one set was all right, I would reward myself for a little rest or a fruit. Once you’re successful, you’ll be particularly excited and feel that your little rest is so comfortable. He added that it was of the utmost importance to like the subject, to see the teacher as a good companion in the study, to play intellectual games with the teacher and to raise himself to a level that was more difficult than the normal examination.

I’m really inspired by the experience of Shang, and I think it’s better to learn than to learn. If you can’t really learn, don’t be too busy looking for a doctor and looking for interest. Sometimes you help others, but you get interested. So by talking to Shang, I knew there were ways to make a child love to learn:

1. Third parties to education are best found. Parents sometimes talk, children don’t listen, try to talk to those who admire or respect them, or ask their most trusted friends to say it, which is better than what parents say.

Second, give the child a positive energy to use his strengths and avoid short-lived. Children are seeds, not just bottles of knowledge, and seeds can grow with the right temperature.

iii. The opportunity to help others more. Helping others often stimulates the pleasure of learning.

There is a saying in China that Sinoyama has a long way to go. Why don’t we change to a book mountain, where we’ll learn how to live? It’s not as good as learning, it’s fun to find a child to learn, it’s the basis on which a child can improve, and he has the motivation to learn.

A good example shows the child a mountain, and when he sees it, he has the wish to climb.

Good way to achieve a good idea. If a child knew what learning methods were appropriate to him, he would do it in his own way.

A few days ago, writing with the children was too much of a friend’s community, and it caught up with the Internet. One of the fifth-grade mothers complained in her own friends ‘ circles that it was important to write homework with the child until the fifth grade, to write it, to have a heart attack, to have two stubs, and then to do it naturally. There are two tutorial parents behind each of the pupils, who, in their struggles with their children and with their work, are angry, complaining and helpless, resulting in an all-embracing process. A mother once found me saying that my child was in a good and bad state of learning, in a state of indecisiveness, but went up and down a little slacker, just like a roller coaster, how could I make him understand the importance of learning and be able to work on a continuous basis, and I spoke to him, and he understood, but it was difficult to do it. I believe that these situations are very common for these mothers, and there are a lot of parents who are worried about writing homework for their children. Anxiety alone is no use. We need to know how to make children like to learn, so let’s not talk about the importance of a sense of achievement for one.

What’s a sense of achievement? A sense of achievement is a basic human need. The United States psychologist, Maslow, divides human needs into five levels, from low to high, that are biological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect for needs and self-realization. The need for self-realization is the highest level of need, and it is the sense of achievement that a person can feel the greatest pleasure if he or she is able to do what he or she is able to do on his or her own. Once a man has a sense of accomplishment, he will struggle, because he has great spiritual pleasure, which will make himself increasingly the person he wants. So how do you get a sense of achievement in learning to write? I think there are a few:

i. To understand the growth patterns of children.

If your child is in the lower grades, the most important thing is to develop the child’s habits. From a young age, children consider their homework as their own; when they do it, they put a lovely little alarm clock next to it, set the time, and give themselves a small reward at the required time, for example, to eat fruit and play for a while; if they fail to do it, give themselves a little punishment, for example, to do some push-ups or do two more questions or write a few words, to treat the usual homework as an examination, to treat it as an exercise, to do it as an exercise, to be efficient and not nervous. For children in the middle grade, there is a good habit of preparation. Most of the children who are tired of learning do not know what the teacher is saying, the thinking is confusing, and if they do pre-learning, the next day when the teacher asks questions, the student comes up, follows the teacher’s thinking, and he takes the initiative. If it’s a game, the kid likes it. Like, guess what tomorrow’s teacher’s gonna say? You guess with the kids, guess a little bit. For example, we’ll find out if the teacher has any secret weapons or children. We can’t all learn, so he’ll know the next day, and he’ll be bored. For senior students, the sense of achievement in learning comes from his creativity, creativity is passionate, creation is a way of thinking that everyone can pursue, then connect and then perfect. So what are we going to do with this creative thinking in learning? I think there are a few points: (1) When you’re prep, you try to ask a good question that can get to the teacher. Teachers prefer question-and-answer students, challenging students, to learn more than simply indoctrination. (2) When listening, use the imagination fully. The teacher’s words form a picture of the brain. For example, in poetry, each can form a picture, which is often unforgettable. Because it’s an image that the brain instinctively extracts from its memory, an emotional perspective, a neurotype of his nerves, and they form a new picture in a timely fashion, which triggers new thinking. (3) When studying, all knowledge is assembled into a tree. The structure of knowledge is broken down by roots, trunks, leaves and fruit, and forms a tree, written in a few pages of a book in the brain, which is a tree, stamped in the brain, looking at it very often, and thinking that the brain becomes very clear. Try it.

II. A sense of achievement in caring for children in a timely manner.

The sense of achievement of children is often inspired by parents and teachers, sometimes with a positive implication that a satisfactory smile and a timely certainty can give children the motivation to learn. How?

First, it must be timely and specific, so that the child feels particularly real. I don’t want to encourage kids to be empty. For example, you’re too much of a learner, you’re too serious, how I like you so much, these kids don’t feel like it. It would be useful if you were very specific, very careful and he really did. The other day, I went with my third-grade grandson, who was left-handed, and he was writing big and small, short-legged, and I didn’t talk, and I looked, and I looked, and I looked, and I looked, and I whispered, and I found that your top-down structure was very good, and he wrote me a plum. And then he said, “Well, actually, I got a better look at it. That’s how he’s happy to write. He’s written more carefully and with more heart. I’ve been writing more and more, and I’ve made it up to the effect, “It’s hard for a left-handed man to write so well,” and the kids are getting more excited, and the one is finished. I think that’s the role to be confirmed in time. For young children, encouraging is like growing sunlight, and it is necessary to constantly use the sense of achievement to stimulate their inner potential so that the child becomes better.

For children with poor grades, he is aware of his worth. The principal of Yale University, Raven, said that learning was not for his own profession, but for his own worth. We encourage children to be aware of their worth. Many poorly educated children often hear the words “You’re so stupid”, “You’re so bad”, “You disappoint me”, “How can I have a child like you?” Children growing up in this negative energy often lose their interest in learning and, in turn, their self-confidence in their own lives. The child would particularly like to be given a positive hint that gives him the subconscious I can do. In Korea, there is a Dr. Lee Seung-hyun, a world-renowned peace activist and thinker who has created modern brain-breathing and a very effective method of training to develop the full potential of the human brain. Many years ago, my editor-in-chief wrote a book by Dr. Lee Seon-hyun on brain breathing, and I learned his story, and people must think he was an excellent learner from childhood and a great advantage over others. On the contrary, he has little access to regular school education when he goes to school, owing to a serious lack of energy and obstacles to learning, and is a student who cannot be recognized by anyone. His father, who had been working at the school, went to the headmaster ‘ s house to plead guilty, said he was ashamed to teach the other children and finally offered to resign. The resignation of the father was very stimulating to Lee Seung-hyun, who began to study hard and ended up in college after three falls. Dr. Lee Seung-hyun said that even in such difficult circumstances, I had never doubted my abilities. The teacher said that the boy was hopeless, and I kept saying to myself, “How can the teacher understand me, that I am the real owner and that I inspire myself with that. It’s amazing that there’s always a belief in my brain that you can do something big, and that’s what my dad told me. I was low on my mind and had serious learning difficulties, and my father used to say this to me to encourage me, and it was in my brain. Lee Sung-hyun is not saying that praise can change a human brain, and whoever hears a word of certainty is going to squirt a hormonal sense of pleasure called dopamine, which in turn gives rise to the next wish to do better. Dr. Lee ‘ s experience has taught us that losing grades can continue, losing confidence and losing the future. Therefore, as parents, the future of the child must not be attacked at any time, and they must be encouraged to overcome their difficulties and have the courage to hope for a better tomorrow.

Helping children to set their own goals.

The goal of the human being is to be achieved step by step in the long, medium and near term. A person will not be hard-working without a near-term goal; he will not be spiritual without a medium-term goal; without a long-term goal, it will have no momentum; and if the goal is out of place, it will be particularly easy to give up. For children, the more specific the target, the more effective the image. There was a Japanese marathon player who was short and had little strength, but he won the marathon. How did he get this? His approach was to set specific targets. Before each race, he would run along the established course and write down the view of the road as a staged goal. At the time of the competition, what he was thinking was no longer a distant end, but a more specific goal he had set himself. The first goal might be to run under the tree in front of it, the second to run in front of a strange house, and when he tried to get to the first goal, he developed a small sense of achievement, which prompted him to try to achieve the next goal and eventually win the game.

The learning and growth of a human being is a long run, not a short run, and if you can patiently help a child to plan for both long-term and near-term goals, then the child will have a great sense of achievement and a great spirit of learning.

The first is to help prepare and summarize children, to encourage them in a timely manner, to taste the sweetness of their studies and to build confidence.

The second point is to develop learning goals that are appropriate to the child ‘ s own, and to lay the foundation for self-confidence.

Thirdly, a specific goal should be set and implemented step by step.

In this process, the attitude of parents is particularly important, as is communication with children.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed that all children with good grades do better in time management. A person ‘ s life is prolonged if he or she has a good habit of competing for the time of his or her daily life. On one occasion, a well-known British literary man gave his friends a riddle: what is the longest and shortest, the fastest and the slowest, the most divided and the most precious, the least valued, and nothing can be done without it, and it destroys everything that is small and makes everything that is great. Turns out a wise man named Chattig, he got it. He said that there was no longer time, because there was no end to it; there was no less time, because all the people’s plans were too late. For those who wait, time is the slowest; for those who do, time is the fastest; it can be extended to infinity or divided into infinity. No one was taken seriously at that time, and everyone regretted it after that, and nothing could be done without time. What is not worthy of the memory of those who will come to pass, it is forgotten, and it is great that it will make them immortal. Indeed, time is so important that we should learn to manage our time from childhood, and how should we help children learn to manage their time?

I. To give children a regular life.

Study time is regulated by the regular life of the child from a young age. The Obamas had two children, and they did not think it was easy to raise them into responsible, mature adults. Especially in their countless circumstances, where the President’s family is very nervous on a daily basis, and the Obamas ensure that there are countless rules the same day. Their two daughters make sure they go to bed every night at 8:00. Obama said that our aim was to encourage them to do what they wanted to do not be done because someone told you to do what you did, and that it was right that the children themselves knew that I should do it. These two daughters have adapted to a regular life and must set up their alarm clocks every day so that they can get up and go to school every morning. These daily rules end up being desired by the child, because it made her know who I am, where I fit and what I will live in the future. So it’s customary for children to get up at a few o’clock a day, to sleep at a few o’clock, to eat breakfast at a few o’clock, to go to school at a few o’clock, to work at a few o’clock, to study at a few o’clock, to read at several o’clock, to wash at a few o’clock, to go to bed at a few o’clock, so that a regular life can adjust the child’s biological clock. When you study, you focus on learning.

Second, give the child time back to be the master of the time.

The rules are set, the children are to be executed. The famous educator, Makalenko, attaches great importance to the time management of children. He said that any child from an early age should be trained in strict time to draw out clearly the scope of their actions. There was a paper organized by a newspaper with 3000 students on what their mother was like? Some kids describe our mother as an actuary, and they control every penny. I met a kid a while ago, and he told me in front of his mother that my mother was like a rooster, and that her mother laughed when she was in the papers. If our parents always put their children’s time in their own pockets and used handouts to make children learn that, the result is that children lose their ability to control their time, and the free time to be gained is wasted in vain. Give all the time to the children and let them have their free hands. Tell the child that your love can be hidden at home, locked in a box, but not for time. There are no time collectors in the world, but everyone can be the master of time. As a result of this reduction, students’ work has been reduced and what has been done during the holidays? What about tomorrow’s life? What is necessary? What are you trying to do? This will guide the children in their own early planning and will make it clear to them that all the time spent on leave belongs to them and that the time saved is entirely at their disposal, so that the children will do what they want to do and will not slow down. We, the parents, also tell the children that once the plan is set, it will be strictly enforced, for example, to get up and sleep on time, to learn to play on time, and there will be no change without special circumstances, so that the children will slow down the strict habits of culinary seconds. Love takes time, and those who appreciate and use it create habits of life.

Time for learning management, starting with small things.

Time old people are the fairest, because, regardless of who the time is, older people give each person 24 hours a day, but at the same time, different people use them differently. A count was made, and those who counted time by fraction were 59 times more time than those who counted time by time. So we have to let the children know that it is only by managing the time that we can do better in the same time. Management time should be arranged from a minor point of view. If you wake up late in the morning and you have five minutes to get ready to go out, you’ve got two minutes to get dressed and prepare your bed, and then you realize that you don’t have enough time, because you have to wash, you have three minutes to heat up and you have three minutes to take your breakfast, so how are you going to choose whether to give up washing or just not to have a hot breakfast? The scientific method is to warm breakfast while you wash it. So, in managing time, the first is to plan, know how many things you have to do, and then think about how to do the most in a short time before reasonable time is more efficient. Parents are to help the child to set a serious timetable for his or her life, and to get up, wash, exercise, eat, study, work, play, watch television, read, wash his or her feet and sleep on time and on time. If children are able to compete for learning habits from the very second of their daily lives, they will slowly develop a rational use of time. That is the third point.

4. Mind your own three sentences.

Harvard University has a well-known survey on the impact of target planning on life. The survey targeted a group of young people with similar levels of effort, education and living conditions, with the result that 3 per cent had clear long-term target planning; 10 per cent had clear but short-term target planning; 60 per cent had vague target planning; and 27 per cent had no target planning. Twenty-five years later, it turns out that those 3 per cent of whom have a clear long-term target plan have never wavered their own life goals in 25 years and have worked in one direction, almost all of whom have become the top successful members of society. Most of those with short-term targets live in the upper middle of society. Those who make up 60 per cent of the population, whose short-term goals continue to be achieved, and the state of life is steadily rising and becoming indispensable professionals in all walks of life. The remaining 27 percent, who have never had a clear plan in 25 years, have no goals, they live almost at the bottom of society, they don’t like things, they complain about others, they complain about society. This famous case above shows us the importance of time management. Time management is a measure of the importance of things, allowing us to choose rationally the sequence of things and to proceed in an orderly manner, so that we can do our tasks efficiently. The more time you spend making plans, the less time you do it. A life without plans is like a journey without a light in a vast sea, moving on in the dark, without purpose. The well-known Soviet educator Sokhomnsky once argued that only education that inspires children to educate themselves is true, and self-management is the most important element of self-education. You may think that self-management is an adult who can do things. In fact, many children with excellent performance and strong independence are doing very well. Controlling yourself is one of the most important qualities of current students and, above all, a secret to the growth of our best students. Among them, Wu is a distinguished representative, who has gradually developed a habit of conscious growth and self-management, with parents and teachers, from the beginning of primary school. Everything that has to be done for itself has never been required to be followed and forced, and can be done on its own and very well. In this way, not only did he enter the provincial priority secondary schools and the country ‘ s prestigious universities with outstanding results, but his creative, problem-solving and social skills were fully developed. Starting in 2011, he writes a daily self-management diary, writing 300,000 words in one year. In 2013, when he was studying at Pudu University in the United States, he produced a very influential book, ” Flying if you can ” . He said that self-management is not complicated, and I think the core of self-management is his physics teacher’s three simple words: first, what is my goal? What am I doing now? III. Does what I do now help my goal? These three words are indeed very clever, and if our children understand them and often remind themselves with them, they will not need teachers and parents to beat and force them, and he will be more conscientious in following them.

And that’s the end of today’s lesson, and tomorrow we’ll talk about how to focus on children. See you tomorrow.

Today we’ll talk about how to develop a child’s focus? It is well known that all those who have worked in history are very focused. One celebrity said it was fun to say that experts were the ones who knew the least. In October 2015, a 85-year-old Chinese scientist, Yoo Yoo Yoo, won the Nobel Prize for Medicine, which was awarded only to those who gave their lives and made outstanding contributions to science. Slaughter has saved millions of lives as a result of the discovery of artemisinin to combat malaria. As a result, Chinese native scientists were the first to receive the Nobel Prize for Medicine. The greatest feature of the slaughter is that she does what she likes and concentrates on what she does. So why isn’t the child focused enough? The experts have studied that the human brain can achieve its maximum potential only when its physical, intellectual and mental capacity is at its best, and that one thing can be highly concentrated. Parents must therefore invest in the child’s physical, intellectual and mental strength.

First, to develop the child’s physical strength, it is to keep the child moving and to enhance it.

Physical strength is one of the conditions upon which the brain is developed, so that the child is equipped with an energy that does not deprive him or her of a chance of success in achieving his or her goals due to physical handicaps. So we should maintain and exercise our bodies, maintain our physical strength and be healthy. Physical exercise can also be used to sharpen will and improve the quality of learning. Many children now suffer from varying degrees of decline in their attention and learning abilities, and the physical insufficiency is the direct cause of this situation. But today many parents are not concerned about this. In order to enable children to improve their academic performance and master their skills, it is necessary to devote a great deal of effort and financial resources to keep children between schools and different special classes, leading to a lack of energy for children, which in turn results in a decrease in their attention and immunity to varying degrees, which is very detrimental to the development of their brain, as well as to a reduction in the efficiency of their learning, so that children should be allowed to maintain the appropriate daily physical exercise. When the body moves, the nerve functions well, it stimulates the brain and the brain becomes more flexible.

Secondly, let’s say that brain power can be enhanced by having children play as they please.

What we talked about in the previous section was the creation of a Korean scientist in cerebral respiration. This Dr. Lee has a way of saying that when a child is playing, the brain is at its peak of flexibility, judgment and ability to think. At this point, the brain is excreting a lot of hormonal pleasures, and it is easy to create creative ideas that allow people to concentrate to the best. At that time, he was the master of his own brain, and he was free to control his own brain, creating the ability to regulate information. Many parents are particularly concerned about the problems of their children, their lack of sustainability and their lack of focus on learning. I believe that these problems are the result of inexhaustible play. In order to develop the child ‘ s endurance and focus, it is necessary to allow the child to play as much as possible, regardless of the problem, so long as he is able to integrate his body and mind by focusing on it. It’s also particularly good for brain development. Because of his concentration, he has created a desire to challenge other things. We feel this way ourselves, and sometimes we can’t think of any words. When you take a bath and listen to a song, your brain hole opens up, and that’s what people do in the process. So, in order to prepare children to be the masters of the brain, it is necessary to find the best thing that can focus children’s energies, and then put them into the fun of it. There are many things in life that they like, such as flat cooking, assembly Lego, painting, playing mud, reading books, playing the piano, which may concentrate his energy and create imagination. Persistence, tenacity, patience, dedication, sincerity and life attitude have evolved as we focus on doing things. Don’t look at the kids and get mad, and you’ll kill your kids. Instead of having children learn a little bit more, I want to develop this positive attitude to life that is more meaningful to children. This is the most valuable and ideal family education that parents have for their children. That’s why you’ve got a lot of work to do.

Thirdly, let’s talk about the heart, get positive messages to the child, and strengthen the heart.

The strength of the heart is to make the child believe that I can do it, and when I can do it become a believer, and as time settles at the bottom of the child ‘ s heart, they will truly grow up and become powerful people within. If you can help the child to open the door to what I can do, you’ll give more than silver mountains. If you really love your child, then the best gift you can give the child is sincere encouragement and certainty! Incentives and certainty will not only make the child ‘ s mind calm and relaxed, but will also block the violence and negative effects and give the child more self-confidence that I can do. When parents send a message to a child that you can’t fail, they put pressure on the child, anger and frustration, and it puts the child’s brain back into a loop, making it impossible for the child to realize its potential and making it feel like it’s not working. When “I can’t” takes root in the child’s brain, the child doesn’t concentrate on anything. So, in the process of child development, especially in the course of learning, parents are constantly encouraging the child at all times, reinforcing the positive sense that the child “I can do it”, sending to his brain at all times a message of hope and possibility, a warm word, a caring look that has a huge impact on the child’s brain. For children with poor performance, frustration and self-responsibility, parents should give them courage and hope with warmth and encouragement. It is easier for children to grow healthy in the constant care and trust of our parents and teachers, thus greatly empowering them. I’ve done a lot of experiments in this area. One year, in October, the north was cold, but the south’s door was already red. I flew straight to a central primary school in Xiamen to meet the children there, but it was an hour late because of the late flight. At the beginning of the campaign, my classmates sat on the grass, I looked around, and I wanted to see all the children, and I think they wanted to see me. The children have been sitting on the grass for too long, and they’ve been acting like shit. I looked at the young boy in the first row, sitting on his knees, with his hands on his knees, and his waist was smooth, he was staring at me with his big eyes, he was very focused, and I immediately became very interested in him, and I couldn’t help but say to everyone that I found that my classmates at the Central Primary School had a very good image, a good quality, a good quality, a good quality, a good seat, a standing up, and a really loose and a very good time. My voice has just fallen, and all of my classmates are sitting up straight, even more than they’re saying, and I said, the best thing to do is sit in front of this little boy, he’s sitting up and he’s good. Looks like he’s got his hands on his knees and his spine is straight. You know there are a lot of advantages to the straightness of the spine, which is a vital road to the human spirit. If the vertebrae is bent, it causes a neurological traffic jam and has a physical impact. Listening to that, the class sits even harder. And then after I told some stories, I saw the kid sitting there all the time, and I said, “It’s easy to sit alone, it’s easy to concentrate, it’s hard to sit there. You see the boy still sits well, we applaud him. The boy has become more emotional and has been paying special attention to my story. I reported this afternoon to the parents of these students, and especially to this little boy this morning, and I’m sorry to say to you, really sorry to forget to ask her name. At the end of the reporting session, I was just leaving by car and came over to a gentleman who, excitedly by the window, said that the boy was my son. I’m glad to say, great. Your son is awesome. The gentleman said, “It’s good to sit straight.” I said yes, or you can sit straight, and the kid can sit straight for half a day.

After today’s course, I’m sure I’ve learned three great things about child-focused:

First, to increase the physical strength and keep the children moving;

Second, to strengthen the mind and let the children play as they please;

Third, strengthen the heart, give the child a positive positive energy, don’t accuse the child, and don’t disturb the child.

Okay, that’s it for today. I’ll see you tomorrow.

Tell us today how to develop children’s mental capacities? It’s funny to say that everyone was born original, and, sadly, that many people are becoming pirated. It’s a joke and a truth. A person loses his or her ability to innovate if he or she is not able to think. A successful person must have four conditions: first, questions, second, solutions, third, ideals, clear objectives and, fourth, dispersive thinking.

There is a Western saying that the wealth of the world lies in the pocket of the Jews and the wealth of the Jews in their own heads. Why? Jews are particularly thinking, like innovation. They say if you want to invent, you have to think differently. There were also over 160 Nobel laureates among Jews, Marx, Einstein and Floyd, and they were dubbed the world’s first merchants. Their wisdom lies in the fact that they are always proactive and are all those who have made outstanding contributions to the world. So you might have to say, since creative thinking is so important, how do we develop creative thinking for our children? I have three suggestions.

1. To encourage the child to ask a good question.

The Chinese-American Chinese-American, Mr. Li Zheng Do, a Nobel Prize in Physics, came to China to visit China. When he spoke to young people in Chinese science and technology, he used to tell them the secret of his quest for studies, to learn and to answer non-teaching. Questions are children’s rights, and their little heads are full of wonders, and it’s by asking questions that they know things and know the rules, and now they learn more than they learn. When they send their children to school, they always say they’re going to school and listen to their teachers as if they were good kids! We’re always looking at children as food bottles, and we’re trying to stick their knowledge to them so that they know how to remember, and the result is that the bottle is bottle, knowledge or knowledge. Jewish mothers send their children to school to ask them two good questions. Jewish teachers are not afraid to ask the children questions and do not think that the problems they ask are chaos. The child raises a question that the teacher does not understand, and the teacher does not feel ashamed, but says that the question is too much. Let’s all go back to the book. This unique education has fostered the child’s habit of thinking and asking questions. So, in all kinds of intellectual competitions, Chinese children won the most medals. But in the great scientific inventions, there are many more Jews than we. At a parent report session, a mother stood up and asked me, Mr. Lu, my son went to the fourth grade of primary school and one day the teacher left an essay for his classmates and wrote a letter to Uncle Yang Li Wei. My son asked Uncle Yan Li Wei a question. He asked Uncle Yang to come back if there was no fuel in space. The teacher failed him, said he messed up and said he should write about learning from Uncle Yang. Miss Lu, is my son asking the right question? I’ll answer your son’s question on the spot. That’s a good question. Uncle Yang would be very happy if he knew, because it was a very worrying issue. Your son’s got that kind of thinking. It’s gonna be great. Strangely enough, every time I’ve been on a plane since I heard that, I wonder how I’d get back if I had no fuel. Remember when the horse was lost, what was the most important concern of all? If one scientist had studied early how to keep a plane flying or landing safely without fuel, many air crashes would have been reduced. So let’s not underestimate the problems that our children have raised, which may be of value if we have not solved them now? Do you want us to change education? If we choose by today’s standards and status, then there may be no market for those who can ask good questions, but it is not the known answers that drive social development, but the outstanding questions, so don’t judge your children by whether they know the answers and see if they can ask a good question. I have asked Mr. Tsui Yu Sung, editor-in-chief and renowned scholar of China’s Great Encyclopedia Press, about this phenomenon, which is non-scientific. He said that Chinese education had never been the same, and that the discourse was the record of Confucius teaching students, which was filled with questions from their teachers and their answers. The students asked questions that Confucius could not answer. When the student asked him about the land, he admitted that he was less than an old farmer. Confucius has also maintained a good habit of asking questions. Mao also calls on party cadres to learn everything about Confucius. To develop innovative talent, we need to focus on the motivation of children to ask questions. Children have the desire to ask questions, and in the future they can be expected to have many major innovations in their hands. So what’s the good question? I asked us that question as well, Mr. Seo Yu Sung. He said there were four characteristics: the child’s own problems, the child’s desire to know, the question that the child wanted to ask when observing life, the other child’s unexpected problems, for example, why did the animal not write? Why lift a leg when a dog pees? Why don’t you tickle yourself? Bacteria make men and women? Why can’t time be seen? What’s snot? Why doesn’t the stomach digest itself? Is there a shadow of water and fire? Will the trees grow up without Earth’s attraction? These are all very interesting questions. A few years ago, the Chinese Young People’s Journal and the Great Encyclopedia Press jointly launched an initiative to raise a good question among children and adolescents throughout the country. I thought the children were surrounded every day by work, and their minds had been patterned long ago, only to know that standard answers did not raise any wonderful questions. But I didn’t know that the children had asked more than 3000 questions, some of which were very interesting, some of which were of a good standard, and some of the adults did not find the answer. Kids ask a lot of fun, like why fish blink? Are ants sleeping closed? Why do bananas bend? What’s a cucumber called when it’s green? Why doesn’t a chick just pee? Why does it stink? Is there a day when the Earth won’t turn? Why do you call it shopping instead of buying North and South? If we eat dirty things, we get sick. Why aren’t flies sick? Do you really have bugs in your teeth? Why does the sky cry? In the eyes of children, the world is brand new. They have endless curiosity, and they like to ask why? While these questions are particularly naive and ridiculous in the eyes of our adults, it is these very childish and ridiculous questions that give rise to the desire of children to know. Questions were a manifestation of wisdom, since questions required thought.

2. It is recommended that the child be directed to answer his or her own questions.

How can you answer a question about children? First, listen to the children. When the children ask you when, don’t throw the standard answer directly at them, put a stop to their thinking, give them an exclamation mark. When the child asks a question, you are very interested to say that the question is well raised, why is it not? You find the answer and tell me when it’s done. You listen to the kids and you’ll find a wonderful world. When my grandson was four and a half years old, one day he was playing with his parents, and Dad was too hard, and he flew up to the roof. Dad asked his son how to take it off. Dad can’t get up this high. Little Tiger thought that there were only two ways to tear down the house and raise a monkey, train a monkey and take off the flyer. His dad said good. Let’s go get a monkey. A four-year-old child answered with a childish answer, but with his wisdom. Because Dad respected his opinion, he was particularly motivated. If a child who is able to learn is able to look for information and find answers for himself, it is particularly good to inspire his interest in learning.

The child asks questions, the master answers.

Some of the problems are difficult to find for young children who lack reading skills and require guidance from adults. Answering a child’s question in such a clever way is a difficult question. A well-known media critic in Britain, Harris, who did a thing that many people wanted to do but seemed to think impossible, joined together Britain’s leading children’s charity, inviting the world’s top scientists, historians, psychologists, museumists, explorers artists, musicians, writers, archaeologists, ancient anthropologists and athletes to pick up the most amazing and interesting questions from the questions of thousands of children. And he’s got a miracle “The Master of Child Questions to Answer.” I’ve seen it twice, inspired, touched. The master answered the questions of strange children between the ages of 5 and 8 in plain and easy language, in a very friendly and graphic way, amply demonstrating the respect and understanding of children. Eight-year-old Rachel and seven-year-old Larani kids ask the master why zebras have long stripes. This is what the biologist, Dr. Karen James, said to understand why a plant or animal is so growing. The first question to be asked is, is it good for them to survive or reproduce, or is it just a coincidence? The second is, if it works, how does it work? Is there any evidence of this role? Let’s start with the question. How can you prove that stripes help the zebra survive? Maybe you’ll find a bunch of zebras that paint one third white, one third pure black, one third the same, and then see how many eventually survived, and successfully breeds. The question is, did you ever catch a zebra and paint it? I haven’t tried. It sounds hard enough. Looking at the second question, even if it is not certain whether the stripes are good for half-horses, we can still ask how they work. Some scientists believe that stripes on zebras in high grass can serve as a disguise. Other scientists believe that it is difficult for a hunter like a lion to target a group of zebras and that it is impossible to distinguish between the head and the tail. Other scientists believe that unique stripes allow zebras to recognize each other, just as humans recognize each other through their faces. Good thinking, but we’re going to have to turn to the third question. Read the scientific literature and we find that all these observations are unsubstantiated. However, there is another view that, in addition to hunters as large as lions, there are small animals that can harm zebras, such as the blood-sucking flyworms, which spread disease and distract zebras from the need to focus on timing and to prevent attacks by the beasts. In 2011, scientists placed some wooden zebra models in the field, some of which were striped, some white and some black. That sounds familiar, and then they put glue on the zebra model, and it turns out that the bloodthirsty is the most stuck on a pure black model, a little less white and the least striped. At last, there is evidence that zebra stripes may be designed to drive out blood-sucking flyworms, as if they were a visual deworming agent, and the mosquito’s eyes were splitting, and it was nowhere to be stung. You see, the scientist’s answers are so popular, they’re in children’s minds, they’re a layer of pull, and they come to conclusions. The answer to this is the way the child thinks, not the simple conclusion. This method gives people access to fish rather than fish, which fully protects the child ‘ s desire for knowledge.

Now, let’s sum up, how do we develop children’s mental capacities?

Starting today, we turn to the second question of how to develop the capacity of a child to benefit from it for life.

There are five kinds of abilities, and today we are talking about the first, how to develop a child’s vision.

Observation is very important for one person. Observatory power can make a person more intelligent, more rigorous and discover what many cannot find. I remember the first question that the Chinese youth newspaper made when it recruited a journalist was how many trees on the left side of the Chinese youth newspaper? What tree? I was in a yard with a Chinese youth newspaper, and I went out to see it and found no trees on the left side of the front door. I came up with the question of whether a reporter has a keen eye. The sensitivity of observation determines whether more or less information is available to a person. Ignorance is our constant problem. Observatory sensitivity is the ability to find information that is easily ignored. This is where scientists and inventors are most valuable. Apples fall from trees, and it’s common for people to find a pattern of gravity in Newton. The rats are seeing much. Who cares? But the painter Disney, who was particularly poor in his early years, drew flowers in his warehouse. One night, a little mouse jumped on his desk, and his eyes were bright and divine, so he came up with the strange idea of designing a prototype of a Mickey Mouse. Now the Mickey Mouse is an important owner of Disneyland, which is popular with our children all over the world. Observation is particularly important in this time of rapid development, but it is not born, but nurtured in learning. Children are raised from an early age to observe the habits, interests and abilities of natural phenomena. What exactly should we do? How do we develop a child’s vision? I think so.

I. Observations with observed eyes

Many children are sad when they write. Why? Because he never looked closely at the people, the things, the animals around him, and wrote it in a blank. If you ask him, how many trees are there in front of your house? A lot of kids can’t answer. Because every day I’ve seen it from a tree, I’ve never seen it. I’ve been watching carefully. There are two white jade in front of my door, two purple jade. The white jade orchids are early and the jade is late and late. So why don’t you take the kids out for a walk, take a good look at the front door, the street, the neighborhood, and then write it down. It’s all unique. Famous French literaryist Mopasan and great writer Fukuya. By asking Mopasan to go to the horse station to observe the horses, he said that you should see how many horses there are, and you should look at them and depict one of them in one sentence as different from the others. Mopasan is gone. After repeated grinding, Mopasan exercises superhuman observation, and his novels are known for the careful drawing of the characters and the three points of wood. His representative is a man of great repute in the world’s literature. So think about it, it’s everywhere in life. If you take the baby to the zoo to see the monkey, how is it different for you to lead the baby to see the monkey? What’s unique about it? The more you think about it, the more flexible the monkey is in your child’s eyes. So your eyes are not white, you have to see more, you see different.

ii. Listen with the ears found.

Watching not only with the eyes, but also with the ears. There are two kinds of hearing, one with the ear and the other with the heart. If you listen, you’re going to get down and listen, and you’re going to hear what nobody can hear. I met a little Tibetan girl named Ina years ago. When he was nine years old, his father took her to the prairie, she came back with a picture of a little Tibetan girl driving her yak to the prairie, with a little poem — I went to the prairie with her yak, where there was green grass, where there was a blue sky, where no bird was caught, where the sun had no black smoke on her face. This is a great painting and a great poem that reflects the love and protection of nature among Chinese children. This poem was won an international prize. Then I was interviewed when Ina came to Beijing for the prize, and I asked her what was your favorite place? She said the woods and the market. I asked her, what did you see? What did you hear? She said in the woods, I saw the ants moving and heard them talking. In the market, I heard the cow’s head being cut down crying, and I was touched by the love of this little Tibetan girl, who needed such a loving child to hear the cow’s head crying! This unique observation made her. She grew up to be a talented poet. Children sometimes hear voices that we adults cannot hear, and their hearts are connected to those of nature. So take the children into nature and listen to the stream of water, the sea of the beach, the breeze of the wind, the roar of the wind, the singing of the birds and the screaming of the frogs. When a child can hear such a voice, he learns to watch the world with his ears. Talk about our ears, talk about our brains.

iii. Thinking with an observed brain

Observation consists of two essential elements: the sensory factor, the visual hearing factor, and the mental factor, which is not enough to see what is being heard, and the need to think, to analyze and compare, to find out what’s in it. We’re used to bugs, but the famous French scientist Faber discovered a very interesting caterpillar. This caterpillar has a habit of following its followers, and when it goes out for food or for fun, it follows the back of another of its kind and never dares to find its own new path. Faber did an experiment when he found out, and he spent a lot of time doing a lot of these caterpillars, and then put one of their tails around a flower pot. A few of these caterpillars were put in a place not far from the flowerpot, and an hour later, Faber came to observe and discovered that the caterpillar was spinning around the flowerpot one by one. After a day, Faber went to observe and found that the caterpillars were still following a field around the flower pot and were tired of running.

Seven days later, when Faber went to see it, he found that all the caterpillars had died one by one of their tails in the vicinity of the flowerpot. Then Faber wrote in the notes of the experiment, and in many of the caterpillars, the fate of death was immediately avoided when one was slightly different and boldly tried out of the circle. There is no way for him to tell the truth, and to follow after others. People need to be bold and innovative, to make progress, to make it work, and to take the path that others have not, to succeed, just as China has reformed and opened up, and no country has done it, and we have done it, and we have succeeded. So how did this observation develop?

I’ll tell you a story about a little rural girl. An eight-year-old girl, Yang, lives in a remote rural area, and her father is a rural teacher, and at home, Yang’s father regularly tells her interesting little things, teaches her life skills and prepares her to observe changes in life. So why did Yang ask when she was a kid? One day, Yang found out that the pig had a worm in the house. The father did not reply immediately, but instead raised with her three little pigs, which were raised with three different kinds of forage, common forage, barley, and skin, which resulted in the leeching of the little pigs, while the other two did not. This discovery was particularly exciting for Yang, who wrote a small paper on the deworming role of the skin. She also took the paper to the contest and defended it, which was not shy and was much more lively than the average rural child. The project was subsequently awarded a second-class prize in the national competition for innovation, so life was not without opportunity, but rather a lack of discovery.

And let your child not just stare at the books, but look at life, practice the golden eyes of Sun Goku, and never escape his eyes. One expert said that it was good to develop a habit of looking at things in a positive, exploratory manner, and that it helped to develop observation. It is not too much to say that the development of good observational habits in research is more important than the possession of substantial academic knowledge. Observatory power is being nurtured and will succeed if it is sustained.

Today’s lesson is about three ways to develop child observation.

Yesterday we talked about how to develop the child’s vision, and today we talk about how to develop the child’s creativity.

The China International Export-Import Fair, held at the end of last year, was particularly shaken by the participation of more than 200 countries, and its greatest highlight was innovation. Many of the unexpected products that had come to mind had been created, and the flying cars were remarkable. The original creation of human beings came from animals, seeing birds fly, and people create airplanes; seeing fish dive into the water, people create submarines; seeing horses run, people create BMWs; and when countless vehicles block the road, people wonder how good it would be if they could fly, and the cars that fly today were created. Creativity is a human-specific ability and one that people have demonstrated in creative solutions, at the heart of which is creative thinking. The creation of one nation and one nation has a vital role to play in the development of the nation; the human being, with its creativity, will pass the better; and the human being, with its creativity, will be better off. The General Secretary of Xi offered the hope to children and adolescents throughout the country to learn to be human from an early age, to learn from an early age and to learn from an early age. Why should creativity learn from childhood? Because creativity requires innovative thinking, which is shaped by children from an early age in education.

In our modern education, how can children’s creativity be nurtured?

1. To encourage children to break the rules, be different and be allowed to disobey.

Parents and teachers are particularly fond of children who listen, who do not like naughty, who are the ones who do not listen and who have innovative ideas. The King of Storybrookes Zheng Yun Jie, a child from childhood full of fantasy, often challenged teachers. The teacher did not like the incompetent boy, who went to elementary school with his parents in the countryside. One day, the teacher left an essay on the topic ” Early risers with worms ” . Zheng Yu Jie changed the teacher’s title to ” Early risers are eaten by birds ” . The teacher argued with him, but several times, he did not speak of him. This creative thinking prompted him to become a great fairytale. One person wrote “The King of Storybrookes” this month for 30 years, with a total circulation of over 200 million copies. Why didn’t the teacher’s approach take Zheng Yujie out of his mind? Turns out he had a couple who liked him, understood him, loved him and never abused his parents. His father, who was a philosophy teacher at the military school, asked him to apologize to the teacher because he was having trouble again, and the teacher refused to let him go to school, and he apologized to the teacher for not accepting it. On the way back, his dad said it’s okay, son. I’ll teach you at home.

As soon as Zheng In-jie heard, he was particularly fond of his father, and as long as his mother and father did not hold him, he would cry and his parents would please him. Dad’s approach was to hold him in his arms, so that he grew up to be a fan of reading, developed a good reading habit, and was very close to him and naturally willing to take his instruction. Zheng Yujie’s inspiration comes from Mom. When he was a kid, his mother told him stories when she put him to sleep, and many of them were made by his mother. There’s a story that his mother told him from one year to six, and that’s probably the story. A lot of animals play outside, and when the giraffe finds the water, they say, “No, no, no, no. The rabbits, the lions, the tigers ran in the opposite direction, and the monkeys said, “No good, we can’t get past a river ahead.” Two bridges were found on the river, one on a large Yangwan Boulevard like the Yangtze Bridge and the other on a single-wood bridge on the river. Mother told Zheng Yujie that the vast majority of animals chose the bridge on Yen Guan Avenue and only one sheep chose the only-wood bridge. With too many animals on the road, the bridge collapsed, and the animals died, and only the sheep survived. After listening to this story, Mom said something to her son, you go your way, I go my only-wood bridge, no one goes anywhere. With this education, Zheng Yun Jie grew up. Later he learned that there were many ways to do things, but the road most travelled was often the hardest. Because it’s very competitive, you can actually choose a different path, this is the single-wood bridge. Fortunately, Zheng Yun Jie met such wise parents, who protected with their wise wings the buds created by their children, planted in their children a unique seed of innovation, and later developed him into a tree that nourished the curiosity of millions of children and gave him a different life. Think of our parents today, who love to take their children, compared to the children of others, and who say, “Look at them.” Think if we’re a little depressed, if there’s any good way to develop child creativity, the first way is to care about children’s different ideas. Innovative thinking is one that is very different. If we don’t take care of it, we’re going to strangulate it, and we’re going to strangulate the different ideas of the children who just show up. Don’t stare at other people’s children, look at their own children, and don’t underestimate what’s in their minds. You can bring a little book with you, and you can record every thought of a child, which may bring to the child things that are never spent. Zheng Yujie told me that I want my children to see that I have made a poor family richer with a pen. And then he really did.

So, in any industry, lucky gods tend to favour those who are innovative and learn to be creative to break the rules and win by surprise. No wonder thousands of children were fascinated by Zheng ‘ s fairy tales, where many unexpected stories were hidden, activating their own innovative thinking.

2. Painting to free children.

Look at the children’s paintings, don’t talk, enjoy it. Every child is the seed of an art, the life of which is strong and the imagination and creativity that explode are immeasurable. I’ve been a painter since I was a kid, I’ve been in Beijing for the fourth grade, I’ve got a big white harvest, a bunch of kids climbing up the ladder, crawling into a giant cabbage, hiding and playing. So I went to the painting group of the Beijing Youth Palace, where our teacher, Yang Jingjie, a big sister with long braids, became a professor at the Grand Academy of Fine Arts and became a famous painter and artist. A short while ago, I went to see this master, who was almost 90 years old, and asked her how to teach the children how to paint, because my grandson was particularly fond of painting. Mr. Yang said that painting is not a church, it is a meeting. Children ‘ s art is a release of the spiritual personality. They paint as they please, without any rules, and as long as they give children space to develop freely, they create different ways to express themselves. She has never taught her daughter to paint, she has been allowed to paint, and she has done so, and she has never commented on her daughter ‘ s drawings, whether they are like them or not, just about how she feels about them. She kept her daughter ‘ s paintings between the ages of 4 and 8 silently and placed them in her writings. Mr. Yang told me that there was a lot of sketches, some of which were particularly surprising, in relation to the work that she had enjoyed as a child. When she was six years old, she came home one day at noon and saw a Picasso book in her bed, and she said to her mother, “Why didn’t you show it to me earlier? The linguistic form of master art has a nuanced effect on her, so that she feels the charm of the art. When you’re a grown-up, you’re a very creative and well-known painter, and the most distinctive feature of her work. My grandson, eight years old, drew from childhood, and every time he looked at him drawing with his left hand, and drew with his own will, my heart was particularly excited, as if he had seen his childhood. On one occasion, when he visited his father as a child, he drew a comic book the following day, one of which was a young boy running in the middle of a flat and public toilet in a hurry. Turns out his father told him that he had no toilet at home when he was a child and had to go to the public toilet, and that he immediately had a picture in his head and drew it out. I envy him very much. We girls want to be perfect, we want to paint beautiful houses and people, so it’s very slow, unlike the boy who did it. When a pen became a language, the thought of creation came down from the tip of the pen. So if you want to develop the child’s creativity by painting, that’s what our teacher says, watching the child paint and not talking. When a person can write down his or her own ideas and draw them down, it is a great step in creating, and if it is done again, it is great.

Three, let the child do it with courage, without fear.

Do you know who invented Coca-Cola? Just a young man in trouble. More than a hundred years ago, a small pharmacies in the United States sold a pharmaceutical water for headaches, which was made by the owner and pharmacist, Pamburton, because it was a tune of two names, called Coca Cola. One day, the shopkeeper fell asleep and came to buy a drug for a headache, and the shopkeeper took this oral Coke and found it sold out. He worked in this shop since he was a child and had some knowledge of the drugs, and he mixed a bottle of similar headaches with soda and syrup, pouring a glass to the patient. The patient took a deep sip and said it in person. In a moment, another customer had to buy the kind of medicine that the patient had. But when the shopkeeper forgot what he was using, the customer got into a fight with him, and the boss heard the sound. He himself had a Coca-Cola potion for the customer, who said he had been deceived. Why did he become white? Later, after questioning, the boss knew the truth, he did not blame the shopkeeper and repeated research experiments quickly deduced the purple-red coca-Cola beverage in the world today. No one expected that a small shopkeeper’s unwitting failure would lead to the birth of a major invention. When Penburton died, he sold Coca-Cola patents to someone else and obtained $23 million in patents. If he had no sense of innovation at the time, he would not have accepted new things, but would have scolded the wrong shopkeeper. Then the most widely sold drinks in the world may not exist. You think the world doesn’t know how many inventions were created by accident. If you want to develop your child into an innovative person, then don’t be afraid of the child, let alone of the child’s failure. So when children do inventions, and mistakes get in trouble, don’t be too busy with the kids, but go with the kids and explore. What happens?

Developing creative talent is not only a national responsibility, but also a responsibility of our families. How should parents develop children’s creativity?

We have three points for this lesson:

First, to encourage children to break the rules, be different and allow them to disobey;

(b) Second, free the children to paint, watch the children to paint, and enjoy it;

And third, let the kid do it. Don’t be afraid to do it. How I expected your family to walk out of a creative child.

All right, we’ll see you tomorrow at the next lesson on how to develop the child’s imagination.

Today we talk about child-friendly imagination. Without imagination, nothing will exist, as Darwin said. Darwin, when he was seven years old, had a strong interest in plants and animals and had collected many wind-dried plants and dead insects to make specimens and to do some simple chemical experiments at home. After school hours, he often used the extracurricular hours to collect some specimens and was publicly reprimanded by the headmaster, who also warned him that if he played with those things later, he would throw you out of school. Darwin went home and told his dad about it. Dad told him not to go to school to collect specimens, because that would affect his homework. Dad had a small shed in his garden, and he gave it to Darwin for an experiment. His father also told him that imagination was the source of human creation and the ability of people to create new images in their minds, based on their already existing images. So encourage him to try and develop his imagination. This capacity does help us, humanity, to realize the impossible dream. You want us to read a good poem because the poet has imagination; because we read many good books, because the writer has imagination; because we see a lot of video, because the creative team has imagination; because we can enjoy the results of high-tech, because scientists have imagination, and without imagination, there is no good life for us today.

Childhood is one of the most imaginative times, when parents and teachers love and develop the imagination of their children, who grow up and contribute to their country. Then you might have to ask, so how do adults love the imagination of their children?

I. I want someone to understand.

The first time I heard the word “image” was when I was five years old, when I first went to kindergarten, and the first day my teacher sent out six coloured pencils, a piece of paper, and I was so happy that I had never seen a pencil like that. So I drew six things like springs standing there, looking at the color. I just finished the painting. I said I’d give it up. The teacher asked me, what did you draw? I really didn’t want to paint anything. The teacher looked at me with anticipation and said, “What are you drawing?” I said smoke. What did the teacher say about cigarettes? I said my mom’s steamed, smoked in the chimney. The teacher said, “Then you go home and look at the colored smoke in your mother’s chimney.” Go home, I’m disappointed, except the black is white. The next day, the teacher asked me what you drew. I said cigarettes. What did the teacher say? I said, smoke tomorrow. The teacher slapped me on the shoulder and said, “You’re too imaginative. I’ve had imagination since that day.” Until the 50th of the year, when the military parade took place at Tiananmen Square, I watched a plane with seven colours passing through my window, and I thought that was the smoke I painted as a child, and I thanked the teacher in my heart, and she made my imagination fly. If the teacher said how the smoke was so colorful, redraw it, I’d never want to paint it. Since the teacher said I had imagination, I started to have imagination, and when I saw clouds, I thought of what the clouds looked like. What’s more like? Seeing a little tree, I wonder what’s hidden in it. Seeing a man, I wonder what his father looks like. What do their children look like? Well, this imagination gives me interest in painting and writing. And then there was a lot of interest in the speech, and it was done without writing. Looking back at that experience, I would like to tell you that there is someone to imagine. When a child is a child, sometimes the child’s imagination doesn’t make sense. You don’t get it, you go with his ideas, and when the child’s imagination is confirmed, it’s gonna have a very special effect, and he’s gonna feel good, and my parents’ teachers are sure that I’m gonna be great, and I’m gonna love it.

II. Imagination as a habit of thinking

Let the child form such a mind. This is the day. Will tomorrow be another day? A child with such a mind can do miracles. Tell us a story of a stone. Waller is a village mailman who walks on foot every day on his village trail. One day he was tripped by a rock, which he found with a very strange gravitation, and put into a pouch. People in the village laugh at him and say, “Hey, there’s a lot of rocks like this, and you’ll never be able to pick them up again. But Waller didn’t think, when he came home from work, he looked at the rock, and he had the twilight idea how beautiful it would be to build a castle with such a beautiful stone. As a result, every day he picks up a stone in his mail, brings it back every day, and for a long time he piles up a lot of strange stones in front of his house, which is far from enough to build a castle. Later, he simply pushed a wheelbarrow every day to deliver a message, and as soon as he was satisfied with the stone, he put it in the car and could pull it back every day. He delivered stones during the day and built his castle at night in accordance with a dream of his own. Everyone thought he was having a mental problem, but for the next 20 years, around that remote hill village, there was a false castle. One day, a journalist from a French newspaper discovered the castle by accident, and he wrote an article in which he was particularly appreciative of the unique style of the castle. It was not expected that the Waller castle would be famous as soon as the article was published, and many had come to visit, even the famous Picasso. Now, these little castles have become a tourist attraction for a French view called the postman Vassil. At the entrance to the building, there’s a stone etched with this phrase — I wonder how far a stone with a wish can go? You look at a common stone, and once it is given imagination, it will become a radiant castle. Our children are born today in an era of diversity and change, and their mindset must be full of illusions and imagination. What is our responsibility as parents? Rather than confining them to their ideas, they have put wings in their imagination, let them fly freely and create a better tomorrow. So, in the face of girls’ whims and their little experiments, you can’t hit them right away: “Is this about exams? Think of all the useless things. Just do your homework.” It’s easy for you to stop his little experiment, but it’s not easy for you to lose the child’s imagination. How can there be passion for someone who doesn’t have that imagination in the future? So what should we do? And when your child reveals to you his unique thoughts about that thing, you should be very precise in saying that your thoughts are extraordinary. What’s next? Well, let’s sit down. So the kid thinks he’s curious about you, and he’ll tell you more about his idea, and you’ll share it next, like a receiver. The child’s interest in imagination will grow.

iii. To inspire dreams

Childhood is the home of dreams, the wings of birds flying without wings, and you never know how far you can go and how far you can go in life, depending to a large extent on the size of childhood dreams! People with dreams are open, and when they emerge, they are full of passion, and whether or not it is realized is always an inspiration. The inspiration of dreams makes every day wonderful. But today many children’s dreams are far from reality, because they don’t have a chance to think, so you have to give the child an imagination and think about your future. Ten years later, what is our country like? What will you become? Americans have done research, in decades, 40 percent of the jobs will be replaced by intelligent robots, and 9 percent of the jobs have completely disappeared. So just think about the future, what will I do? There’s a future child in it, and he thinks differently, and suddenly he thinks she’s worth living. Because this imagination of the future is of particular importance to children, especially 11 years old. Everybody knows Andersen, but he’s a child with dreams from childhood. Andersen was born in a very poor family, and in a small town in Denmark he should have been born on a coffin. He’s been a playboy since he was a kid, and his dad’s a carpenter, and he’s made a lot of puppets for him, and he’s always acting. When he was a teenager, he wanted to perform, but his mother said it was no good, couldn’t feed himself, and you still learned things like tailors that could feed yourself. Andersen asked his mother if I could try? The man was so open-minded, he agreed, and he went to Copenhagen. Many people who looked at him thought he was ugly and had big noses and bends, and they couldn’t make it clear that he was not a play at all. But he thinks he’s good, and he’s always thinking about his play coming to the stage and his book being read. Later, when he was young, he wrote a letter to his home girlfriend, saying that when I became great, I had to sing the praise of Odense — where he was born. In the future, as people look for Odense on the map, they will suddenly find a small line of words underneath, which says, “A poet Andersen was born here.” After this prophecy, the fate of Andersen changed completely. He kept writing, kept writing, and finally became the king of fairy tales, known as the sun of the world’s children’s literature. His plays were played by children in many countries. When I went to Anders, when I went to Denmark, I saw signs of Andersen acting all over that town, and there were lots of little theatres. So I suddenly felt, “When I became great, I had to dream of it” and if I gave it to the children, the future would be over. So then we started this, and each child wrote a prophecy. When I become great, I must be in Sweden in the Nobel Prize Hall, where every battalion member stands on the table of silence and slaughter, to read his dreams and take them from me. Then I told the children that I believed that when you became great, you would realize your dream and make your own contribution to this human being. I am sure that one day someone among you will also come to this rostrum for the Nobel Prize. That day you’ll say I’m proud, I’m Chinese. Every node that this child grows up is inseparable from the child’s dream. And then suddenly it turns out that when children are full of imagination about their future, they have a special energy, and he thinks he’s very valuable, so his life becomes wonderful. So I gave all the kids a chance to get their bottom of it, give them a future, give them a goal. This is particularly good for children, and if such an event takes place in the family, I can write a little note for the whole family. What do I have to do when I’m great? Put it in a little honey can, seal it up, and look at it when the child turns a certain age. You’ll be surprised to find that 60 percent of the children can realize their dreams.

So how do we develop the child’s imagination? We said three things:

First, imagine someone who understands that parents are good at catching the baby’s imagination and giving it a flower;

Secondly, imagine a mode of thinking in which parents are particularly good at raising their children;

Thirdly, to translate imagination into dreams that encourage children to predict their own future.

What can I tell you today?

Speaking is a lesson. In today’s society, a man who speaks is always popular. If your child can’t speak, he’ll be ignored in the team, lacking influence. He cannot be friendly with others, and he is in an isolated situation. Even if his test scores were high, or if he had a tummy in his stomach, he could not express it, and he could not represent his value effectively. Our aim in education today is not just to get a job for our children, but to make them popular and valuable. It is therefore very important to communicate this ability. There are four secrets to how parents should train their children to speak.

1. Parents listen, and children say, “Be a faithful listener.”

I’ve been a talker since I was a kid. Why talk? My mother’s father’s brother’s sister’s been listening to me since I was a kid, and I’ve been listening to people in my family. At that point, I felt that if I wanted the child to talk, first someone had to listen to him, and no one in the audience said it was so boring. I remember when my mother died telling our nanny that I would give a gift to each of my children. The nanny said, “What gift did you give me to my second aunt? My second sister is my second sister. My second sister is a teacher and remembers the details. My mother says I’ll give her eight, and she’ll look after the house.” The nanny said, “What’s your gift to my aunt?” That’s me. My mom said, “I’ll send her a horn to blow her outside.” My mom gave me the horn for over 60 years, still ringing. Because I really like to talk, and I’m really strong and I’m very happy and very interested. That’s why kids talk from an early age. So when I became a mother, I started home education. Then I thought it was more important to listen to children than to talk to them. A child needs an audience, someone loves to listen, and he certainly does. But there are also children who talk stammering, who are particularly anxious for their parents. My son was a little stuttered when he was a child, and I said, “Don’t stutter,” and he got more stuttered and more reminded of his stutter. Then I realized that you reminded him not to stammer, and actually reminded him that you stammered, but instead increased his mental burden. I don’t care about that. I love what he says, and slowly his stammers are much better. When my son graduated from kindergarten at the age of six, I attended his graduation, and many of my children came up to perform, and I was worried about what my son could do because he was a little stuttered, very surprised, and my son was very much in the presence of a little boy whose humorous language made everyone laugh, and I was surprised to find five minutes of conversation, and my son spoke very well, without a stutter. You’re amazing, son! When I shouted loudly in my heart, tears fell unknowingly. Later on, I understood that the son’s mental disorder was lifted. What he does now, it’s normal for him to come up on stage and it’s no big deal. The son competed for employment after primary school, served as the deputy director of the school television station, and hosted the ” Happy Minutes ” programme, which provided a weekly message. At the secondary and tertiary levels, he remained very active, with his own self-directional piece, which received a special self-inflicted prize at the Qinghua Festival. I looked at his piece on the Internet for half a day, but I didn’t get it. He said you didn’t get it. Well, I guess I can’t do anything about it. I can’t imagine a child who once had a speech barrier with such amazing noise in language! After graduation, his son went to a network company in Shanghai, just in time for the company ‘ s five-year celebration, and he made up a small piece of his own, and he blew it up. The CEO says we’re a Tibetan Dragon-Ride Tiger, and this son calls me at night. Alas, when he was so proud, he showed his face and was admired by his boss, he became a department manager, who did a great job, and then set up a subsidiary in Beijing and sent him to Beijing as vice president of a subsidiary. As soon as he entered Beijing, I made fun of him, Mr. Li, who said he was going to read back and back to the Prime Minister, who was called Prime Minister by his nickname. Now every time I talk to him, his humor makes me laugh. Then he set up his own network company called “Live Growing Up”, which was a happy grow-up, and he was happy. When I retired, I had more time with him, and suddenly I felt happy and happy with a funny son! Then I thought, if I cared about his stutter, took him to the hospital and always reminded him not to stutter and not stutter, I thought he might be stuttering now. And I chose to ignore it, always thinking that my son was a linguist, and finally his mouth turned to mouth. So I’m gonna tell you a secret, a kid who’s funny, who’s got a listening mother or a dad behind him, who wants the kid to say, and you like to listen, which is the cheapest and easiest thing to do.

Secondly, it is only when you speak that you can build the confidence of the child in this expression.

Some children talk to their classmates, they speak very well, but in public they do not want to express themselves, but they are a manifestation of psychological disconfidence.

Why aren’t you nervous when you’re on stage? When I was a good sister, I visited the famous Grandfather. Many kids don’t know who Sun is anymore. We grew up listening to Sun’s grandfather. I asked him how to speak. He taught a few secrets, the first of which was to tell stories and make them attractive. If you go out there, you’ll be in a mess and you won’t have to shout. If you do that, it’ll be quiet, but your words won’t be attractive, and it’ll be a mess. What should you do? You’re looking at your kid in the first row, whispering a little story. As soon as the kids woke up, the kids were in a hurry. What did Grandpa say? I didn’t hear you. With that regret, his attention would also be focused on the podium, fearing that something interesting would be left behind. In particular, it is easy to tell a story, to remember it well and not to worry about forgetting words, and naturally there will be no tension. The story is particularly rich and interesting, and it’s very easy and contagious to talk about, and naturally attracts the audience below. The second is to be good at receiving positive incentives by reaching out to listeners. If you’re being so generous, and you’re being so generous, it’s affecting your mood. At this point, you immediately find a viewer who listens to you very carefully, with a particularly rich face, and laughs, and when you cry, he cries; when you are right, he nods, and he applauds you. You tell him, “Don’t go to the guy with the ear, the sleeper, you see the sleeper, but it’s not about what you tell him. He played a brand or a game last night, he stayed up all night, so he’s very sleepy today.” But when you look at him sleeping, you think I’m bad, he’s asleep, and it affects your feelings. You look at a person with the highest emotions who interacts with him, and that feeling is always very full. Mr. Sun said these things to me and then I wanted to teach the kids how to talk. Now, Xiao Yu’s words are particularly good, and she can use different voices, make up her voice, tell a story to a child, make it sound, so the child loves to hear. After all these years of practical work, I finally found three ways to overcome this fear. The first is deep breathing. It’s a 30-second deep breath on the stage, so it can lift up, and it can work for itself. Second self-inflicted method. Walking upstage, I feel like I’m good, I’m good, I’m good, I’ve got a lot to share, so it’s easy. The third active communication method. Active access and audience communication, so that the tone returns to a normal state of speech and no more tone. And then if you’re going to ask him a better way, you ask him, or you say a word to get everyone to answer, so you can relax. As you interact with him, he gets emotional and he resonates. Some of the children have been in primary school for six years and have never spoken before, so they get nervous and can’t talk. In order to develop the child ‘ s ability to speak, a few years ago we used the cold summer vacation to launch the Young Speaker Potential Development Camp, giving all children the opportunity to speak. Seven days later, more than 100 members of the entire battalion had to go on stage to perform, and every time they came on stage to share their own harvest, they were not children who often dared to speak, but were often children who had never been on stage and had never spoken in public. Even if he had spoken, the parents had been particularly excited to hear it, and the children would really express one of his gains. Every time, we were particularly surprised by the children who you thought would never speak, but who spoke very well. Those children especially value this opportunity and take it very seriously. For the first time in his life, many parents were awakening in tears, and for the first time they saw their children making a sound. Every time our senior mediaman, Yang Lan, spoke to the child, telling her story as a child, how she got from a scared little girl to talk and became a TV host. She told the kid about a little trick to get on stage to overcome stress, for example, by holding a little piece of paper in her hand, squeezing it and shifting it to this little piece of paper. There’s a lot of small things, and the kids were so excited, and one of the kids mysteriously told me that the big guy was nervous. Questions raised by children are answered every time Dan comes to attend the Young Speaker’s Potential Development Camp. The campers had to write the questions on a small piece of paper, and Dan always went to the stage with the youngest child, who had never been on stage, to help with the little note, and she said she was going to help the kid with the guts. To Dan, who said that I loved the word “potential” of the Youth Speaker’s Potential Development Camp, she said that the seven-day camp was not enough to change a child’s life, but planted a seed in the child’s heart, a seed to speak and speak. So parents, if your child has a similar expression of confusion, remember to encourage the child and seize any opportunity to inspire the child’s potential. Maybe one day when your kid comes up on stage and talks, I think you smile the most.

iii. Practice to speak nicely and help the child to speak.

As has been said, the ability to speak can be improved through hard work for three minutes on the stage and 10 years on the stage, but professional training is best. In our Junior Speaker’s Potential Development Camp, the national gold microphone hostess Xiao Yu sister will lead her team in professional training for the children. I think the most important methods are these.

The first day of oral practice. Some kids can’t understand what he’s saying. An important reason for this is the lack of oral muscles. Children now eat too soft and too broken, have too little chance of chewing and less chance of muscle exercise. That’s why you have to practice it, with your tongue, your lips, your muscles. This mouth is silent and vocal. Some of the unspeakable parts of the exercise open their mouths like a whistling and then shut them up naturally.

Second, chewing, like chewing gum, opens its mouth, starts chewing, then closes its eyes and starts chewing, and the tongue is naturally flat. The third pair of lips, which are naturally closed, moves forward to the right, up and down, and around and around, and turns around in reverse to the clockwise, so that the muscles of the whole face are trained. There is a voice that includes flying kisses, scoffing lips like flying kisses, making the sound of “bowling.” The second is the tongue, with the tip of the tongue on top of the forehead, and the lip, so the upper and lower lips. Such exercises are accompanied by the same beats of radio gymnastics, 1234, 2234, 3234, 4234, four times in group.

The day after tomorrow, I practiced my password. Extrusion is the best way to exercise a mouth, as well as to exercise a person ‘ s mental and reactive capacity, and to help raise attention. It is not the faster, the better, but the better. It’s better for a couple of kids to practice together. Every time we pick the best off-ports among our camping little friends, we get them to practice not only inside the camp, but back and forth, and for 21 days, we get used to it, and it’s hard not to practice. For so long, the muscles of the mouth are strong, so it’s clear.

Third, practice breath. A lot of people talk with their voice, and they don’t speak for long. You have to practice to talk like a dog and breathe like a dog.

The way to practice is to take a deep breath and let the air sink down, press down this diaphragm between the pecs and the abdomen, inhale the air, and let the stomach go up and back, so that you can put your hands on the position of Danda, which is the position of three fingers under the belly button, close your eyes, and imagine a flower in front, as if it smelled the flowers, smelled the flowers and didn’t breathe, and then went on to exercise a guillotine and shouted “hair,” which is of particular interest to the child.

Fourth, protect your voice. You don’t normally eat sugary foods and beverages, you don’t drink water 15 minutes before you talk, so it doesn’t affect the use of breath. When it’s cold, put on a scarf so that it doesn’t hurt your throat. Don’t scream loudly, and if you lose your temper, you’ll get your throat on fire, and you’ll be pissed off. It is also particularly embarrassing to be prepared, unprepared, to stand in front of an audience, like being naked. It would be better not to speak with words, to speak with less respect for the audience, to sound boring, to lose interest in the audience because of a lack of communication, to prepare a good start, 30 seconds to grab everyone’s heart and to face it with energy and enthusiasm. I’m sure people will only be touched if they move.

In any case, if the child is able to express himself or herself in the language, the child will have the gold key to the door to society. This class is about telling people that it’s important to talk. From an early age, attention is paid to the child ‘ s ability to express his or her language, so that the child can speak, so that the parents can listen; so that the child can speak, so that he or she can be given the stage; and so that the child can say that he or she can express himself or herself in good faith, with a certain degree of professional training in expression.

Okay, next lesson, let’s talk about how to develop a child’s resistance.

Today, we talk about how to develop the child’s resistance?

Resistance is particularly important for today’s children. Children who grew up in love and faced failures, frustrations and unexpected shocks, the psychological resilience of disasters was poor. On the surface, the personality is perfect, but the mind is fragile and vulnerable, like an egg with a full shell, which is a piece of debris. It is difficult for them to adapt to difficult circumstances as soon as they leave parental protection, and it is not enough to suffer a slight setback. So the psychologist calls it the egg shell effect. On October 15, 2018, a three-year-old girl from Hunan Jinyang wrote a suicide note and took her own medicine with her two classmates at school. When the teacher found out that two children had lost their lives and another had died, the child who had committed suicide with his classmates wrote in his suicide note: I was under a lot of pressure, for a variety of reasons, so I intended to give up my life and end my life. What kind of pressure is it that a flower girl chooses to commit suicide? The girl, who was originally the head of the class, has always had excellent studies. In one test, she had fallen in her grades, and the teacher had been angry at her and, instead of taking the lead, she had reduced the learning atmosphere in her class. When they returned home, their parents said the same thing, and the criticisms of their teachers and parents made the girl feel so miserable that she could not help but express her feelings online and even say she did not want to live. Some of the classmates comforted her, others said that the teacher was right and two children told her that they wanted to commit suicide. So the girl imitates the story of the forensic doctor, buys her own medicine and takes it with her two classmates. Many netizens saw this and said it was sad to say that it was worth dying for a test. Yes, it was worthless. However, among the children I met, there were not a few who committed suicide because of a failed examination, because of a fight between their parents and because they were not allowed to play mobile phones and so on. Life is long, and there are thousands of kinds of suffering waiting for us. These children are dying in their hearts, and in the eyes of adults they seem to be little things, but they choose to die.

Some say that children are too vulnerable, but not all of them in the world. In the same period, in 2018, 12 soccer team teenagers and assistant coaches in Thailand were riding their bicycles to experience the caves, which ended up in heavy rain, trapped in the caves for 18 days and saved. For 18 days, with the help of the coach, the children had overcome food shortages, thin air, rising water levels and threats of death, and they had no one to give up their lives or even cry, but had followed the coach in meditation. After being rescued, none of the children cried and responded positively with a smile and politely said, “Thank you.” Are the children vulnerable? Children can be strong, even. The question is, what kind of mentality are they facing when facing a dilemma? Balzac said that suffering is a stepping stone to life, and that for capable people it is a treasure, but for the weak. You see, it is impossible for a person to do what he or she should do in the face of a large world of future competition, because he or she cannot stand up to hardship or frustration. Which parent can guarantee that his or her child will not be frustrated throughout his or her life? I don’t think a wise mother and father would put their children in a honey jar, keep them in a greenhouse, let them experience more experience, sharpen, inspire compassion, responsibility and will, be the treasure of the child’s life and the basis for happiness. So how to build up a child’s resilience is very important now. I think three experiences are indispensable.

First, experience setbacks and give children the confidence to rise up.

In the early days of life, there are great benefits to experience some failures. As Newton said, if you ask a man who knows how to skate, how can he succeed? He’ll tell you to fall and get up, that’s success. In Shanxi, a girl who did not go to university after high school was placed in her village to teach in less than a week of school, when she was thrown off stage by students because she did not know how to speak mathematics and returned home to her ashface. The mother shed tears for her and comforted her that there was no need to find something else for someone who could fall out of something full of stomachs, perhaps something better to do. Then she went out to work with her village partner, and unfortunately she got kicked out by the boss because she was too slow to cut her clothes, and her mother said to her daughter that she was always slow, that others had been working for years, and how could you be quick to learn? After that, she helped her daughter with the dress and was ready to go to another place to try. Later, the daughter became a textile worker, a market manager and an accountant, but without exception, was abandoned. However, every time her daughter failed to come back frustrated, the mother comforted her and never complained. At the age of 30, her daughter became a tutor at a school with disabilities based on her language talent, then she opened her own school with disabilities, then she opened a chain of handicapped goods in many cities and became a owner of tens of millions of assets. One day, my daughter, who is famous, asked her old mother, “Mom, why do you have so much confidence in me when I have felt so little of my future after all these years of failure?” Mother answered very simply and very simply. According to the mother, a piece of land is not suitable for the planting of wheat, and it is possible to try to grow beans, which, if they are not good, can grow melons, which, if they are not good, may produce flowers with some seed of wheat. Because there’s always a seed on a piece of land that fits it, and there’s always a harvest that belongs to it. After listening to Mom, my daughter cried. The farmer’s mother told her daughter the truth in the simplest language, that it was more difficult than it was, that failure was an education, and that it was success when she fell. So when the child fails, has a setback, has a hard time, has a bloody head, and as a parent, you have to go, don’t act, don’t complain, and you’re smiling. That’s great. You can also tell Tolstoy that if you want to be really strong, you have to wash it three times in the water, cook it three times in the alkalin water, pick it three times in the salt water, and you’ve only had one before.

The experience of failure gives children and the courage to shake hands.

It is difficult for a child to create the glory of life. I’ve seen a story where the chair that Harry Potter was sitting at Lorraine’s writing was auctioned at $420,000, which everyone thought was a very successful chair, actually a chair that recorded a failure, or a chair based on a failure. 2008 42-year-old Lorraine Harvard University graduation speech on the merits of failure. She said that my failure had reached unprecedented proportions in my seven years of graduation. A brief marriage, unemployment, a single mother, like the poor in the United States today, is just not yet at that level of homelessness, with parents and their own fears for the future. I’m the biggest loser I’ve ever seen by the standards of the court. Now I’m not gonna stand here and tell you that failure is fun. My life has been very difficult, and I don’t know how long it will last, and for quite some time the light at any end is only hope, not reality. Then why are we talking about the benefits of failure? Just because failure is nothing more than what you do not need, I no longer pretend to be myself, but I direct all my energy to what I think is most important. If I have succeeded in other areas, I may never again have the chance to find a stage that really belongs to me, and without that determination to succeed. I’ve regained my freedom, because what I fear most has happened, but I’m alive. I also have a loving daughter, an old printer and a big idea, and I have gained more wisdom and strength in my failure, and I can say that I am more capable of surviving than ever. I have never known myself before, and through this experience, I feel very well entitled to enjoy my ability to overcome these setbacks. Lorraine knew that failure was an education, so remember the benefits of failure and shake hands of failure. Her experience is indeed worth learning and thinking. If your child’s examination fails and your pessimism is disappointed, you should be happy to say it’s too good to fail. If you get to the last one, you’ll have nothing to bear, and you’ll make progress if you try. If your kid’s lost, and he’s in a lot of pain, then let him think about Lorraine. You’re more fortunate than she is. Whether it is positive or negative, it is up to itself to take control of its own destiny. If you are responsible for the future of the child, you must let the child experience frustration and failure and shake hands with suffering. There’s gold in it. So when your child is eight years old, ask him to join the summer camp and winter camp, and to build their resilience to frustration.

To experience disasters and teach children how to overcome them.

Disasters are the best universities, and when people are happy, they must not forget the disasters and suffering that lie behind them. Our parents look forward to a child’s life, and they don’t want the child to go through disaster. They always try to design a tomorrow for the child, full of smiles and flowers.

But life is ruthless, and perhaps there are hundreds of disasters waiting for children as young as a couple, and those who fear them will never be happy. You do not allow the child to face misfortunes and catastrophes, which will take the initiative against him. If he does not exercise and experience normally, he will be terrified and even lose his life. I’ve heard that it’s always someone else’s, only experience. When a disaster strikes, a trained child faces it. On January 1, 2015, people haven’t woken up from New Year’s dreams. One shocking tragedy occurred in a mountain forest in Kentucky, United States. As a small aircraft flew over a forest, it fell, unfortunately, and the pilot and three passengers were killed instantly. It is even more surprising that a seven-year-old American girl, Sylar, survived luckily. When Sylar managed to climb out of the cabin with severe pain and fear, her father and mother’s sister had left the world forever, in the wilderness, and no one could hear Sylar’s cry for help, her right wrist was broken, she had bruises on her body, and her nose was bleeding, and she had thin shorts and shorts and she couldn’t find her shoes. Sylar was cold, painful and afraid, and she had to decide whether to stay and wait or to find a way to live. The latter was chosen by Sylar, who went on the road with the pain of her body and heart, trying to remember what her father had taught her about survival in the field, and she lit branches with the wings that burned after the crash, lighting the roads in the woods. Despite crying and bleeding all along, she was able to cross a stream of three metres. In the cold night, Sael took 1.6 kilometres barefoot, of which two dams, a mountain and a riverbed were over before he finally saw hope. She tried to knock on the door of a farm, where the elderly heard a weak knock, opened the door, was shocked by the sight of the elderly, and Sylar shed tears and told the elderly what had happened to him. She told the old man about the plane crash and the parents and sister were dead. The old man took her to the house and called the police. The police brought Sylar to hospital and found the wreckage of the crash aircraft in the forest, where Sylar was finally rescued. The police officer himself had an eight-year-old daughter and was therefore particularly saddened by what happened to Sylar. When he told the story, he was very moved to say that it was a miracle that the girl fell directly into that black hole and that no one could help her, that she was living on her own hunger and that she wanted to help her family. Seven-year-old Sylar can face the threat of death alone on a cold night, a difficult mountain road and the pain of her heart, because she has a conviction that I want to live and I want to save my family. This strong feeling inspired her inner potential and gave her an extraordinary force for survival. That night, she had forgotten that she was a little girl, afraid of being away from her, so brave that Sylar could survive, and more importantly because her father had taught her all about survival in the wild when she was young, she knew how to light the road, she could see the direction in the night, she could walk 1.6 kilometres barefoot and she knew who to ask for help. The officer was particularly surprised that a girl as young as seven could remember the road and return to an accident 30 miles away at night. What is it? It’s the ability to survive. Without such training, it is difficult for this seven-year-old girl to walk out alive. This living case tells us that learning to survive is by no means an empty word, that it is the real experience and the ability to live in disaster that is truly responsible to the child. Instead of getting ready for the kids, we get ready for the future. How can there be a good tomorrow without the struggle of today’s hard work?

Okay, today we talk about three experiences of how to develop children’s resistance:

The first experience is to experience frustration and give the child the confidence to rise;

The second experience of failure, giving children and the courage to shake hands;

The third experience of disaster is to teach children how to fight it.

Today we’ll talk about how we won’t hurt the kids. The poet Angelo spoke of the power of words, saying that words were like little energy bullets that went into the invisible realm of life. We cannot see words, but they are an energy, filled with room, family, environment and our hearts, and it is very appropriate to compare words to bullets. But words are somewhat different from bullets, and words are living and even capable of creating and destroying people. Sometimes you inspire one, just one word, and one word to defeat one. If the harm is done in the mouth of the loved ones, the harm is likely to be devastating. Many parents communicate their negative feelings to their children, making them slaves and victims of their own emotions, and cast a shadow on the negatives of life. So today we have to look at these bullets. I think there are two kinds of language bullets that hurt a child, one that is lethal and destroys the child’s self-esteem; the other is a bullet that hurts a child by mistake and that strikes the child’s motivation.

First, a lethal bullet that destroys a child’s self-esteem.

In a person ‘ s experience of growing up, the original family leaves many black and red dots on a person ‘ s negative, which is the subconscious of the human being. Positive psychological insinuations, red dots, I can do; negative psychological insinuations, black dots, I can’t. These dots are imprinted in our subconscious and are not easily accessible, but the key times will shape our choices, affect our behaviour and even endanger our lives.

I used to be a member of the Panel of Experts on Chinese Educational Television. One show featured a 17-year-old high school student whose parents, a 17-year-old high school girl, was first in every exam, and one of her final exams was only 0.5 points less than the first, and instead of going home, she jumped down a five-story floor near her door and fell seriously. When she was rescued, she was asked why you jumped? She cried, and my dad said, “Don’t go home if you can’t go first. On the scene, her father was devastated, saying that he had tried to motivate her to go to a brand-name college, but had not thought of it. How did this father hurt his daughter? He took control of the kid’s life with the first test. The girl’s spiritual world is completely controlled by her father’s vanity, so don’t go home before she gets first. It’s like a bullet, into a child’s subconscious, and it works when it loses its first. She was thinking, “I can’t, I can’t, I’m dead.” I’ve been to juvenile homes many times, face-to-face with juvenile delinquents where 70 percent of children have been hurt by their parents’ words. They say parents often accuse themselves of being garbage, trash, scum. There are many children who say that my father never complimented me, that you’re a pig’s brain, that you’re dumber than a pig, that I have a son like you. These words are like bullets that hit a child’s self-esteem. So, in retrospect, if you’ve said something like that, you have to put it on a little book, create a blacklist of negative voices, warn yourself, and never say it again again. Because when you destroy a child’s self-esteem, it’s hard for him to face the world with confidence.

The bullet, which was accidentally wounded, struck at the child’s motivation.

Many children when they were children had many interests, which might not be the child’s advantage, but his. If you do not deliberately deny him this potential, the child may be really hurt. Some of the interest in being a child becomes special and some become particularly short, which is very much related to adult encouragement and repression.

When I was a kid, I loved to dance, and the music started to dance. When I was in fourth grade, I was particularly into peacock dancing, and then the teacher asked us to write ” My Dreams.” I wrote about my ideal to be a dancer and to be in the People’s Paintings, and it happened. On the eve of primary school graduation, the Beijing Dance School came to our school to admit young students, choosing four girls and me. A dance school teacher came to the interview, and we girls wore little vests with their hands behind their backs and feet straight out. I just stood up, and the teacher at the dance school came up to me and said that his legs were straight and he danced. I’m just looking at people, their legs, their legs, a straight line, mine, a hole, a hole. At night, you look in the mirror, you can’t look straight on the left, you can’t look straight on the right. I’ll dance again, I’ll hear you say my teacher’s words and my legs won’t even dance. After that, the jump was over, and then it was over. I went to high school, I stopped dancing, the track team ran 100 meters. We’re running fast. We’ll get a name in the whole district. When I got back in line, I was taught to dance, and sometimes I was asked to dance at a meeting, and I said I couldn’t dance, and I actually danced, mainly my legs weren’t straight enough to dance. One day I looked closely at the dance floor, and I found out that there were more people on the dance floor with more legs than I was, and that some people were crazy, and I thought that this guy had never had an expert’s opinion as a child, and that if the expert told her that you were like this, you wouldn’t be able to dance, and that she had no emotions. I suddenly understood the truth that if a child grew up in the environment of “You can’t” and slowly “You can’t” turned into “I can’t”, he would really not. If a person grows up in a “you can” environment, slowly turning “you can” into “I can,” he really can. It’s not hard to understand something, it’s hard to change yourself. Many years ago, I went to the Royal Russian Ballet Theatre to watch the ballet “Swan Lake” and it was a brilliant show, and the whole audience looked at people’s thighs and I laughed. I think I still have my shadow. Every summer I look at a lady in a dress and I conclude that this man is fit to wear a dress. This man is not fit to wear a dress. One day I asked myself when I was interested. Then I knew, ’cause I’m not straight and I care about people’s legs. It’s not that serious. It’s just that when you were little, when you didn’t have a self-evaluation system, the teacher said, “It’s not right.” You cared. So a lot of the kids, he’s on the way to his interest, he’s got an interest, he really doesn’t have that talent, like I might not really have the talent to dance, but I have the right to dance, I have the hobby to dance, and teachers have no intention of doing it, so just remember, and remember, believe it, and believe it 100%, and I’m not, and I’m not interested in my hobby ever since.

Many of the children I have contacted have experienced this experience, and the child has been injured by a silent and random denial. So what does this damage actually hit? A child’s motivation. Sometimes you say that I’m being honest, you’re not that kind of material, but you know what he loves in his inner world, he’s getting more and more if someone gives him a positive word. So we sometimes miss a child today, don’t look at the child like an expert, we learn to look at the child like an audience, we don’t want to pick on the child, you learn to applaud the child. On his way to growing up, you’re going to have to have a concept that doesn’t hurt the child’s motivation and keep him interested, in case he uses it later.

We may have to say that these deadly bullets, those that were wounded by mistake, are indeed terrible. But our children don’t live in a vacuum, they don’t have all the words that give them a positive energy, they’ll have a lot of deadly bullets, and many of the bullets that hurt them wrongly. For parents, one of the most important responsibilities is to help children to wear bulletproof vests and to empower them to resist language harm. What is this?

One, believe the kid, everyone says you can’t do it. You can’t.

Everyone has a huge potential, like a sleeping giant lurking in our bodies, a treasure that nature has given us, waiting for us to find and dig, to believe that no one is gifted. Those who think that they are nothing are giants who have not yet awakened themselves to sleep. The giants in the child’s body are not only sleeping, but still growing up. Trust is the best gift that parents can give to their children if they are to awaken him. The trust of the parents not only gives the child a sense of spiritual security, but also gives the child confidence and gives her infinite power. Miracles can happen when the closest and most trusted person tells him “I believe you”. Many years ago, a 10-year-old boy had to go out to work because of poverty, but he had always dreamed of becoming a singer. When he found his first teacher, the teacher said to him, “You can’t sing because you can’t sing because you can’t sing, you can sing like the wind blows the blinds.” Back home, the boy was so sad, he put his hands on his shoulder and said, “You’re a musician.” I’m sure you’ll be a great singer. Although mother was just a housewife who could not understand music, the boy heard those words and felt much better. And then the kid really became a famous opera singer, and his name was Carlos. When he recalled his success, he said that the trust of the mother gave me what I had achieved today. Perhaps Karos’ mother had never thought that her son would become a generation celebrity, and perhaps she had never expected her comfort to change the life of her child. Yet it was her “mother believes in you” that allowed her son to regain his confidence and to work harder to realize her dreams from that point on, and eventually to inspire sleeping giants. A mother, the power of her trust, has made the greatest singer of a time. Why is it so magic to say, “Mom believes you”? Because it is the power of the soul that awakens, the power of the soul that awakens, and the power of people through their own nature. Trust allows people to put down the burden of their hearts, so that we can think with ease and flexibility, so that we can realize our unexpected potential and so that confidence becomes a habit for children.

2 Translating picky language into trusted language, dissatisfied language into satisfactory language and negative information into positive information.

It is also important to put a bulletproof vest on the child, to help the child to block the bullet and to change some harmful negative language so that the child’s young mind is not harmed. I think many parents do very well in this regard, especially when their parents go to a parent’s meeting, they hear a lot of negative complaints about the children, don’t go home and tell the children that they’re upset and have no confidence in their teachers, so they are particularly reluctant to go to a parent’s meeting. Besides, these words go directly to the child, who listens to them and creates self-confidence. What would be more appropriate? Let me tell you something real about what I’ve been through. One time I went to the supermarket near our house to buy something, a saleswoman looked at me and pulled me aside, saying that my daughter was in the fourth grade of primary school and had good grades at school, but I always thought that she did less than anyone else, and that it wasn’t good. One day she took back a book you wrote “Forgetting a Child.” My daughter told me that today the teacher asked us to read a story from her sister’s book with her parents, and I finished reading it, and then she turned and left, and I read it. The story that the daughter had mother read was also a true story of her mother. That’s the story. At the first parent ‘ s meeting in kindergarten, the teacher told the mother that your son could not sit on the bench for three minutes. On the way home, the son asked his mother what the teacher said. Mother’s nose was sore, tears almost fell, the entire class was over 30 children, only he was criticized. However, she told her son that the teacher praised you, saying that the baby would not be able to sit on the bench for one minute, and now it’s three minutes. That night his son ate two bowls of rice in the middle of nowhere and didn’t feed his mother. Your son’s in primary school, and the teacher at the parents’ conference said that there were 50 students in the class, and your son ranked 49th in the math exam. I think he’s mentally handicapped, and you’d better take him to the hospital. On the way back, the mother shed tears, but came home and told her son at the table that the teacher had faith in you. He says you’re not a stupid kid. You can outdo your table with confidence. This time you’re in the 21st place. When he said that, he found his son’s eyes filled with light and his disheartening expression spread. He even found her son to be astonished, as if he had grown a lot. The next day he went to school earlier than usual. The children went to junior secondary school and there was a parent ‘ s meeting, where the mother sat in her son ‘ s seat and waited for the teacher to order the son ‘ s name, as every parent ‘ s son was called by birth and criticized. This time, however, he did not expect to hear his son ‘ s name until the end of the parents ‘ meeting. After the meeting, she asked the teacher, who told her that your son’s grades were good, but that it was dangerous to focus on high school. The mother walked out of the school door with a surprise, and she found her son waiting for herself, and she walked to hold her son ‘ s shoulder, with a sweetness she could not say. She told her son that the teacher was very pleased with you, and he said that if you tried, there was great hope that you would go to focused high school. When she graduated from high school, on the date of the first college admission order, the school called her son ‘ s school, and she had a feeling that the son had been admitted to Qinghua University because she had told her son at the time of the examination that I was sure you would be able to take the school. The son came back from the school and handed over to her the specialty with the stamp of the Qinghua University Admission Office and then turned back to her room crying. He cried and said, “Mom, I always knew I was not a smart kid, but you were the only one in the world who believed me, and at a time when my mother was so sad that she could no longer keep her tears in her heart for more than a decade and that tears were on her envelope.” The salesman was also full of tears, and she told me that I knew why my daughter wanted me to read the story, and that she was using that way to convince me that she could do it. As soon as I heard it, I said that your daughter had the wisdom to express her opinion on you in that way. Your daughter must be great if you turn picky language into a language of trust, a language of dissatisfaction into a language of satisfaction and a negative message into a positive one. Eight years later, one day I went to a bank in front of my house and a middle-aged woman came and grabbed my hand and said, “Mr. Lu, do you remember me?” I’m a waitress at the supermarket. I remember, your daughter let you read my book, right? Yes, she was very excited. How’s your daughter? The salesman said I was just going to tell you that my daughter was trying, and she got into Beijing University. The salesman said I wanted to thank you, but I couldn’t find you. I said, “Congratulations, you’ve changed, you’ve changed, you’ve changed, you’ve really had a rush on the kids, and they’ll do it if you trust them firmly.” Many of these have been encountered over the years, sometimes stopped on the road. One time, a woman on a bicycle saw me walking down the aisle and jumped off: “You’re Luqin, I say, thank you so much. My son has a bad grade in primary school. I remember beating him every day and scolding him every day. Then read your book and tell the kids you’re awesome. I realized that I didn’t have enough trust in my children, that I was too anxious, and that my son changed so much when I turned the blame into encouragement. Later on, a good university was given an excellent grade and now works well. Mr. Lu, I really thank you.” Whenever I heard that, I was moved. In fact, I think it’s all from the parents’ mouths, it’s the face that encourages the child, it’s the other side that hurts the child. That’s why we love children so much today. Why should we hurt them in words?

So I’m telling you today, how do we keep our language from hurting our children?

And how do you resist bullets? We have to help the children put on bulletproof vests so they can resist bad language. I taught you two ways, first, to believe in the child, and secondly, to change some harmful language so that the child can understand in a positive way what the teacher and those around him say.

Today we’re talking about how parents inspire their children to be effective.

One day, a young mother spoke about something that upset her, saying that my son was second grade, naughty, often criticized by his teacher and never commended. One day, my son came running back, and he was happy to say, “Mom, today my teacher praises me, I’m out of the mood, I’m busy asking, what does the teacher praise you? My son said my teacher said my review was good! I heard that the nose was sore, and I felt deep sympathy for the boy. The child’s heart is like a dry sapling, longing for recognition, for inspiration and for positive evaluation, because that is an important way of developing his self-confidence. How many sleepless nights have I gone into those who were good, and talked to them about their childhood. Speaking of the bitterness of their inner world, they shed tears. I remember very well that an informed woman with a doctorate fell in my arms and cried and said to me that she had studied so hard and worked so hard to get her mother to approve of her.

Many have succeeded, but they are unhappy and unhappy. Many adults left that regret in their inner world. Childhood is a time of frustration, frustration and lack of confidence. On the contrary, parental incentives for children, if only a little bit, can be a huge positive energy for children to overcome shocks, failures and ridicule. So how do we motivate the kids to work?

I have three suggestions:

i. Not comparable, with a higher level of child satisfaction.

Compared to the way many parents use today, “You see people” is the word we say all the time, always thinking that someone else’s children are gold, their own children are sand, and they’re always ashamed of their children. To celebrate the child, it’s really important. They say that Chinese children learn best and perform best, but Chinese children have the worst satisfaction with their children. A little boy once told me that I’ve never been a cadre and I dreamt of being! It’s so easy to get a little captain and go home and say, “Mommy’s a little captain,” and my mom says, “What’s so good about a little captain? But my mom didn’t know how I could get to her, and it wasn’t easy for me to be a little captain, and I said a lot of good things to the teacher, and I made a lot of promises, so he made me a little captain, and he said he was ready to leave. I wanted to surprise my mom first. I didn’t think she’d look at me. One of my new lieutenants told me that my captain was happy. You said my mom didn’t know enough. I said three words to one. You’re a captain. Is your mother happy now? Who knows who’s the chairman of my mother’s biggest concern? Look, these kids’ mothers are so hard on them. Mom and Dad’s stick is always above the level of children, and that’s the biggest sadness of their children today, whose children will never have a sense of achievement. In this view, there are only two successful students in the school, one the head of the team and one the school master. A girl told me that my mom used to say, “Why aren’t you a Harvard girl?” And one day I said I wanted my mom to be Wu Yi. This education, you accuse me, I accuse you that family cannot be reconciled. If you like me and I appreciate you, you’ll get better. So don’t be a parent and say, “Look at people,” you’ll see your kid. As long as he’s a little better today than yesterday, you’ll say it’s great. You’re my son. You say that your son is motivated, and he’s out of his mind. It is not important for children to have talent, but to have interest and confidence. Don’t look at people, be bold enough to celebrate their children and believe that they will do miracles.

Secondly, recommendations, incentives need to be concrete, positive and courageous.

Prominent international women activists have said that the most essential force of modern humanity is not the pursuit of the enjoyment of material and organs, but rather the satisfaction of biological needs, the fulfilment of the needs of growth and the realization of the maximum potential of the individual. Kid, it’s looking through the eyes of parents. The potential of the child will be maximized if the parents are able to view the child with an encouraging appreciation. I was lucky that I grew up with positive psychological insinuation and encouragement from my mom and dad and sister, so I had a happy childhood. A gift from my mother in my life is called courage. The courage to say to myself, “I can do it” was created by the power that Mom was sure of. Shortly after I was born, brother-in-law, who was barely a year and a half old, suffered from severe meningitis, his life was threatened by death, and his family was too busy to treat him. I’ve been lying in my little bed crying without anyone hugging me. One day, my mother put me in a little bed alone and went to the hospital to take care of second brother, and when she came back, I found myself standing up with the guard of the little bed. Mom said to my sister, “This kid is so small, so daring, it’ll be amazing.” And Mom smiled and said to me, “Look, how brave we chicks are, and we’ll find a way to climb the table and eat.” Mom used to tell people that my chicks are good at things, they don’t cry, they help me. All children’s normal performances are portrayed as extraordinary gifts with their mothers. Since such praises are purely instinctive love, without exaggeration and cover-up, and are particularly specific, they have been totally accepted by me. I really think I’m just a brave and capable girl who doesn’t even know I’m a productive person. Remember when I was five, one Sunday, my mother took me and my brother to the Park. There is a very high and narrow and long sky bridge in the park, which, although it has fences on both sides, is as daunting as a wire walk. I was scared when I first walked up the bridge, and Mom encouraged me to say that you’ve been a coward since you were a coward. Standing on the bridge, I thought, yes, I was a brave child, and I wasn’t afraid I’d make it. So I tried to move on, step by step, and I finally got across. It’s a shock that’s never forgotten. Every time I go to Scene Park, I’m going to walk up the bridge, and when I swing, I’m going to swing the swing high, and the next guy says, “This kid is so brave, I’m going to be so strong, and I’m going to be brave.” When I grow up, my character column always says the word “bold.” In primary school, the highest light bulb in the classroom, I’ll take it out because I’m not afraid of heights. In secondary school, because it’s all girls, it’s what boys do, and I’ll do it because I’m not tired. I’ve never been knocked down by any difficulty, and I’ve never been afraid of it, whether it’s hard or dangerous. There’s always a voice in my heart that tells me you’re brave and you can do it. Think about it, my courage was formed when I was a child in my mother’s appreciation and certainty.

The parents are sure to have a magical effect, and it will affect and change the child. If parents were too strong and teachers looked at their children with disgruntled pickles, the children would not rise up to face the storm. It’s the same thing. Growing up with certainty, lovers love themselves, full of confidence. Growing up in a pickle, with a small heart and a low self.

iii. Exaggerating efforts to keep children safe from challenges.

The famous University of Stanford psychologist De Vick and his team have done a long-term study of over 400 fifth grade students in 20 schools in New York. First, the researchers tested the IQ of the children who took part in the experiment on very simple intellectual puzzles, and almost all the children were able to do their job well. After the test, researchers randomly divided the children into two groups, and one group of children received a credit for their IQ, for example, that you were gifted in puzzles, that you were smart, and the other group of children were encouraged by their efforts, for example, that you had just worked so hard, that you were doing so well. In the next round of tests, researchers prepared two topics for the children to choose freely. One issue is more difficult, but new knowledge can be learned from the challenges. The other topic, which is difficult to match with the first test, will not add to the challenge and will not yield new results. And it turns out that 90 percent of the children encouraged in the first round chose the more difficult task. Most of the smart kids who are praised have chosen simple tasks. In a follow-up test, Devereaux’s team deliberately set the kids down, and the result was that the number of children who were overdoing was about 30 percent higher than for the first time. And those smart kids who were praised were down about 20 percent in the first round. The result was unexpected. He explained that encouraging children to work hard would give them a sense of control and that children would think that they were in their own hands to succeed. Conversely, to exaggerate a child ‘ s intelligence is to tell them that success comes from a natural gene rather than from their own control, so that when they face failure, they are often helpless. Devereaux’ experiment was repeated several times, and he found that no matter what the child’s family background, he could not bear the frustration of being boasted of being smart and failing. Boys and girls alike, especially those with excellent performance, would be hit more hard, even in pre-school-age children, and such praise would hurt them, and reality made it worse. There was a talented girl from Ivy League who had a good web article in her blog. She’s a talented, intelligent woman, the one she’s heard since she was a kid. But when she came across the ocean and entered the University of Duke, Ivy League, she became a magic spell. Because she had found that the school was full of high-performing, multi-skilled and high-profile students, her only advantage compared to her classmates was to speak only Chinese. There’s a voice in her heart that says, “I’m not smarter than anyone else. In the midst of great competitive pressures, Mon has lost himself. The Ivy School, to which everyone aspires, is like purgatory for her. Fortunately, by learning psychology, Mon had gradually put down the heavy burden of intelligence, and she had begun to rediscover herself. So Meng decided to share his experience on the Internet and tell Chinese parents and children not to turn smart into a curse for life. So don’t let your kids get tired of being smart, and it’s all that matters.

I’ve shared with you how to encourage children to work?

First, it’s not comparable, it’s better for children.

Secondly, be specific and give the child courage.

Thirdly, try to exaggerate so that children are not afraid of challenges.

Today we talk about how to punish a child?

Education requires punishment, and we learn to restrain our children with the punishment of love, so that they learn to follow the rules from a young age. The human society is a society of rules, ancient clouds, which are not right, cannot be square, cannot be round. Ruled education is an indispensable lesson in any country and in any culture. In recent years, there has been a great deal of news about the crimes committed by minors. What is more important is to reflect when I feel sorry for these children ‘ s recklessness, folly and even cruelty. As Rousseau said, do you know how to make your children unfortunate?

That’s how it works. If our parents do not ask the child to obey the law and the rules; if they do not ask the child to behave politely and respect others; and if they do not ask the child to be responsible for their actions and to be responsible for others, they will hand-in-hand send their children to a suffocating altar. Knowledge of the rules, understanding of the rules and adherence to them, together with the growth of every child, are compulsory lessons for their development. If our parents are able to lead children from an early age with a good sense of discipline, so that the rules are no longer an external coercion for the child, but rather a natural performance of quality, the child will benefit from a lifetime of human beings, moving from a normative to a profound change of quality, better adapted to the life of society. You may have to ask, three things are important to me, how we should develop a sense of the rules of the child, how we should punish when the child violates the rules.

1. Rule of piety, no mercy.

Last summer, we took our kids to Harvard for a deep study, and we heard something like that. One night in 1764, a fire burned down the Harvard University library and all the ancient monuments were destroyed. The sudden fire pushed a university student into a special position and forced him to make a choice. Because just before that he had violated the library’s rules, secretly took out a Harvard book donated by the priest and was ready to read it and return it. All of a sudden, the book became the only treasure of 250 donated books. What should we do? Is it a mistake to admit it without anyone knowing it? After an intense intellectual struggle, the students who were worried finally sounded the room of the headmaster ‘ s office and gave the book back to the school for reasons. The headmaster received a book in which he expressed appreciation for the students ‘ courage and honesty and then expelled him. Harvard’s idea is to make it safer for school rules to guard Harvard than anything else. Maybe some people think Harvard’s a work, and they’re all in their books. But the student was well educated and he had no regrets. He then took another high-profile university, graduated and contributed to society and donated many good books to the Harvard Library. Why would he do that? This is because of the sense of rule deeply rooted in his heart. A sense of the rule is a psychological perception of the rule as its code of conduct, a sense of self and, above all, a habit.

The rule is good faith, which is the most basic moral force for everyone. If we can punish ourselves every person who breaks the rules, that will reduce many disasters. Our mothers and fathers must always encourage the child to blame himself, and the moral shock is greater than the scolding, so that the child, from a young age, behaves with fear of the rules, from a young age, without rules, limits and discipline, is not to let go, but to be liberal. If you let the child grow up to be a ruler, you leave the child with a fortune, and you’ll never get enough of the interest it brings you. If you let your child become lawless, you’ll spend the rest of your life paying infinity, even dying. It should also be noted that parents take the lead in law and order. Parents are the first teachers of their children and the first to be inspired by their rules. However, some parents mistakenly believe that the rules are made for their children and that they can not comply. When they teach their children not to shout, to sleep on time, they often shout at their alcoholics and return at night; when they tell them to line up to buy, when they see someone they know; when they let their children write their homework, and when they fight with a group of mahjongs, this only leaves a negative impression of breaking the rules. How can we ask children to enforce the rules if we do not enforce them ourselves? How can a child’s sense of rule be established if we think the rules are irrelevant and can be trampled at will? So ask Mom and Dad to set a good example for the kids, lead by the rules, and punish yourself if you break the rules.

ii. Self-inflicted and unhelpful.

Children make mistakes. Some parents often warn in advance that they will do everything in their power to remedy the situation. As a result, adults miscarry, grinding their mouths, and the children feel nothing, even if they are not. Next time, they are wrong. Many years ago, I met a girl called Wong Ji, who was a good and good student, and has now graduated from Ivy League in the United States. Her mother, Wang Jing, joined us in a group to update the concept of family education, and when we spoke to her, we found out that she had a very effective approach to how to punish her children. For example, in one school rehearsal, an eight-year-old daughter left in a particularly hasty hurry, forgot to wear a symphony and found nothing, thinking that her daughter often forgot something and reminded her once that her dependence would add a point, rather than let her suffer a setback and educate her. The idea was to call Mom and ask her to bring her the tape.

At that time, Wang Jing was a professor, who was at home on summer break and had full time to send her daughter, but she did not do so. He said to his daughter that your own mistakes should not punish Mom, and that you can solve them yourself. The yellow line of thought had no choice but to explain the situation to the teacher and to change the sequence of the programme, and then to ride on top of the car and take the accompaniment tape. Wang Jing said that I had her run this time, and then she ran countless times, because she remembered the lesson. I was asked to look back. Do you think your mother is right? Laughing, I felt right, and I knew that whatever I did, the consequences were my own, so I was very careful and responsible. This is a good way to look at it, and there was another penalty for the lazy yellow-minded bed, which for some time went to sleep late at night and tried to get up half an hour early in the morning and read it early, but when she heard the alarm, she didn’t get up immediately and went to sleep. If you don’t call her, she’s late for school. Every day, it’s a dead clock. Wang Jing asked her daughter to postpone the alarm clock to half an hour and to get up at normal times so that she could sleep well. At first the daughter did not want to, and every night she always said she would get up early the next day. But the next day she couldn’t get up, and Mom just confiscated her alarm clock and said, “I can’t be your alarm clock if it doesn’t work.” Without dependence, the yellow mind is alert until the morning and wakes up when it hears a little movement, and then rises up, afraid of sleeping over its head. A few days later, when my mother gave her daughter the alarm clock, the king would get up on time. Wang Jing ‘ s punishment is not a scolding of her daughter, but rather a punishment of running legs, a fine, an early punishment, the child ‘ s own responsibility, and the consequences of his or her own mistakes, which have resulted in a well-developed sense of responsibility and responsibility for his or her actions. No matter how far the daughter goes now, Wang Jing is particularly relieved.

Mistakes must be dealt with.

Before she graduated from primary school, she was in charge of a cash donation for special hardship case students, which had already reached the target of over 200 dollars. Wang Jing was firmly opposed and asked her daughter to complete the missing accounts and not to compensate herself. After the King’s idea of making up for the missing account, there’s more than 120 dollars, because it’s been too long, and it’s too late to remember. Then told me that the practice was similar to a fine, and that if the child had the same mistakes at work after growing up, she would have to be held responsible. I did so in advance to teach her lessons through punishment. If that’s a habit, she’ll be fine. She was fined once to avoid greater losses in the future. It seems to me that this fine still works. Since then, Wang Jing has asked her daughter to keep a daily account of her expenses. After secondary school, the amount of income and expenditure of various types of yellow thought is increasing, and a small one-day delay in the bookkeeping results in a 10-dollar fine for the mother. No matter how busy she is every day, she can’t let up on the bill, otherwise the 100-dollar money she sent her mother would be punished for not keeping it for 10 days. Yellow thought, 16 years old, went to America to study the piano, lived alone in America for three months. She had a lot of problems getting off the plane, but she was doing well on her own. She said that I had a relatively short process of adaptation, which was a significant result of my mother ‘ s self-inflicted, punitive education.

The fruit of success will not be reaped until parents grow the seeds of responsibility in their children’s hearts. If anything is to succeed, it must be done responsibly, step by step. Customary deterministic character determines fate. If we strictly abide by the rules and allow children to develop good habits, we can help them shape good character. I’m going to give you a minute of criticism before the end of today’s class. Take the child to an empty room, face to face, look at the child with a painful look, and say to him, today I want to criticize you. Three things next:

First, a minute to present the facts. What’s wrong with this? Why criticize him? What’s wrong with him? Secondly, to express your feelings for a minute, I feel sorry for you for what you did, for hurting others and for yourself, should you be punished? What kind of punishment will you accept? Thirdly, after the punishment, a minute hugged the child and whispered in his ear that Mom believed that this was the first and last time that Mom loved you. This approach works. You might as well try.

Today we talk about how to punish a child. Three points:

Number one, the rules of piety, no mercy.

The second point, self-inflicted, unhelpful.

Thirdly, mistakes must be made, not soft hands.

Today we’re talking about how parents are dealing with children.

A lot of parents bother with one thing: the child’s incompetence, his temper, and the child’s demands to comfort him. Or reject the children’s demands and let them cry and laugh? Let me just say one thing about that. Unjustice cannot win. If you want a child to live in peace with the world and grow up to be a popular person, you need to focus on the management of the child’s emotions, not just to be rude, let alone to be tolerant. In order to overcome the irrationality of the child, it is important to know why he did so.

In the first place, the parents are angry, the children are angry, the parents are the first teachers, and the children learn from their parents by imitation. If you’re like a gunpowder, you don’t calm down, you like to solve things in a rough way. Children will naturally feel that they can only resolve their problems if they are angry, and they cannot meet their demands without it. Second, the psychological demands of the child are not heard by the parents, and adult thinking and behaviour patterns are completely different from those of the child. You think it’s good for the child, but it’s just that the child doesn’t like it, because you have different starting points and different ends, but often the child’s voice is ignored, and in order for adults to hear it, they have to choose to shout and shout. Thirdly, adolescent children also have a temper. They are in a period of mental development, with a lot of problems and incomprehensibleness, and are unable to say that the pressure cannot be released and that they are dependent on parental discipline for their independence, like a high-pressure pot with a valve. The reason is clear. Let’s talk about how we can get the kids to stop being ridiculous and learn to talk! I have three suggestions:

1. The importance of the child ‘ s first unjustified act.

Children before the age of three are less likely to express themselves in language, often in crying, and parents need to understand more about their real thoughts, soothing one of their emotions and creating a sense of security. But it’s not that simple for children after three. After three years of age, the child enters the first stage of resistance, and the child of that age is angry with you for his own purposes, and is angry with you. This is just a sign. He is trying to see if you are concerned about him and see what you are afraid of. If you fear his anger and meet his unreasonable demands, he will continue to do this to you, and for a long time he will become an unreasonable person. If he had been rejected for the first time, he would have known that the method was not working and would have spoken and discussed, and his legitimate demands had been met. That experience would have taught him that it was “no one can win without reason, no one can win, no one can win” . So for a child between the ages of three and six years, to say no to the first time that she was being unreasonable, parents must learn to fight the child with courage, neither simple nor condoning him being unreasonable. Because condoning will only turn a good child into an unsolved log. How do you help kids manage their emotions?

There are three steps, the first of which is to catch the first time, so that the child can understand that it can’t be won, so that it can be negotiated. My son is 40 years old, and it seems to me that he has never been angry at me, nor has he been in a state of youth, and he has been talking about doing things. Many moms asked me how your son was so good at things, and I told them it started when things first happened. Remember when my son was five years old, one day his family at the grandma’s house had to buy a toy gun, and I said you had enough. He started crying. When he got to the grandma’s house, he cried and told me I’d buy a gun, and my mom wouldn’t. He’s about to eat. He’s gonna go out and buy that gun. He won’t listen. That’s when Grandma came and said to him, “You’re crying and you’re sorry if you’re not crying.” We’re going to eat. We’re really going to eat, and we’re not going to talk to him, and I’m not afraid that the kids will make a fool of themselves, and I won’t give any good to a child like that, even if I want to buy something, so that you won’t buy it, and you won’t be used to the kids. We’ll eat, we won’t leave him. The kid listens to this, stops crying. He likes his grandma’s food. That’s when you’re teasing him. Listen to me, my son sits next to me and says, “I don’t want to buy it, I’ll eat first, I won’t eat for nothing.” The whole family laughed. They said he’d look under the stairs. Since then, the son has learned to be smart, will no longer be unreasonable, but will use wisdom to win, so we can talk about it. When I went to high school, it was almost New Year’s, and my son told me that four boys were supposed to stay with a fellow scientist for one night and listen to the New Year’s bell, and I said no, and he stopped talking. Asked me a few days later, Mom. Did you feel bad about your book? I said my book was read and distributed millions of copies. My son says that if no one reads it, I’ll be sad. Mom, if you’re going to invite someone to dinner, it’s ready. Of course I’m mad if you don’t come. I know you’re a good mother, but think about it. I said, “It’s not that I don’t agree with you. Your school just finished having a parents’ meeting. My son says they’re wrong. They didn’t talk to the family. I didn’t talk to you. I said, of course there was a negotiation. I agree with the outcome. Just get him back early. He came back the next morning. My principle is that, as long as he negotiates, I agree on everything that is not harmful, so that there is no need for anger on both sides. I am particularly pleased that at a young age, my son has learned to be in love, and that he has a very good human relationship, and that everyone who lives with him particularly likes him. An analysis of these two matters leads us to this conclusion. For the first time, the attitude was more important than the content, and the child’s first unprovoked refusal, which he felt would not work and would change his approach in the future. He would think that the way to talk to his parents was a success, and he would find a way to talk to you. In addition, the attitude of the family should be consistent in dealing with children ‘ s ill feelings, and if they are rejected and supported, all education should be zero, especially for the elderly, and when the parents are in charge of the children, do not be soft, and do not be unhelpful.

2. To hold children accountable for their actions.

If you don’t want kids to get angry at you, you have to understand that a person is responsible for the consequences of his actions. Some children used hunger strikes against their parents, and he knew that adults were most afraid that children would not eat. One day, a young mother complained to me that my stinking son told him to eat every night, that he would not talk, that he would not come to eat, that he would come to eat slowly and that I would have to heat him up again. Sometimes he wakes up in the middle of the night and says, “Mom, I’m hungry and you have to give him a new job or else he yells at me.” I’m so worried about eating for him. I unkindly criticize him for saying that this is all your fault and that you are condoning his disrespect for your work. Later, I gave her a trick, and I told her that you and the kid had arranged for dinner and told him to eat at the hour, and that it was out of date. When you’ve made him dinner, he’ll eat, and you’ll pour out all the leftovers, and the easy food in the fridge will be empty. This mother really did what I said. On one occasion she made dinner and saw that it was time for dinner and called her son for dinner. My son sits there standing right in front of the computer, and my mother yells, and eats. Son pretended not to hear. When you’re done, you pour out the rest of the food and the fridge is empty. My son was hungry at night and came to say I was going to eat, and Mom calmly said that it was too old to wait, but instead he opened the fridge to find something to eat, he looked at nothing, he was hungry for one night and came to dinner the next day. If we indulge him in one way or another, he will grow up to be blind and incomprehensible and will directly affect his credibility as a human being and his work and life. You try that one too.

III. Tell the child how to deal with bad feelings.

Parents are angry and children learn to be angry and tell their children how to put out the fire, and learn to calm their emotions. I often say a word to the children in the course of my lessons, and anger is the devil, and I tell them three steps to ease the bad: first, to stay silent when you want to be angry; secondly, to think about it; and thirdly, to speak well. If your parents get mad at you, say a good word; if the other side is a volcano, I’m going to turn into an ocean, and the ocean is going to accommodate a volcano; if the other side is an iceberg, I’m going to become a sun, and solar energy is going to melt an iceberg. I had the kids write it down in a little book, put it out for use, and it was amazing. In one parent camp, a little girl’s mother got mad at her baby, and the daughter and the sweetest sister said to her mother, “Mom, my sister said that anger is evil, and now you’re a volcano, and I’m going to turn into the sea and embrace you.” The next day, at the parents’ meeting, the mother was moved to cry, and she said that, having listened to her daughter, my night was over, that I was less than my daughter, and that I would never go mad at my kids again, and I didn’t want to be the devil. A big boy used to get angry with his mother, who often got angry with him. The boy went home after our summer camp and told Mom I had a way with you. His mother called and asked me how you taught the kids? He’s not mad at me anymore. The emotional state of the child is particularly affected by the emotional situation of adults, who are of course not well off when parents often treat the child in a violent manner. That’s why I taught the kids how to deal with the heat. It is a habit to speak in peace, or to shout, and if the child is not angry, the most fundamental way is to give the child a harmonious family environment.

Today we are talking about three recommendations on how to deal with kids getting angry:

First, it is important to value the child’s first irrationality, bearing in mind that it cannot be won.

2. To hold children accountable for the consequences of their actions.

III. Tell the child how to deal with bad mood.

Today, we talk about how parents help their children build confidence.

Everyone knows that confidence is the most precious asset of life. French educator Rousseau once said that self-confidence is a miracle for a cause, and with it your talents can never be exhausted. A person who is not confident, however talented he may be, will not seize an opportunity.

British psychologists have done research on 150 highly successful people, and have found that they generally possess three more prominent qualities: one is tenacity, the other is good at building up their goals, and the other is confident. If you ask me what confidence is? I think believing in one’s value is self-confidence. Self-confident people often like to say that I can do it, low self-esteem people often like to say I can’t; self-confident people have power in their hearts, and self-confident people have fear in their hearts.

The young journalists at the Hangzhou Youth Activity Center, who conducted a survey of over 800 kindergarten kids, over 600 primary and over 200 secondary school students across the city, found that the children now have a lot of fear in their hearts, in school, afraid of being played by teachers, K., afraid of not having friends with me, afraid of being beaten by senior students, afraid of being tested; at home, afraid of being understood by parents, afraid of being forced to do things they don’t like, afraid of having nightmares; in public places, afraid of being told their shortness in front of an outsider, afraid of a person crossing a street, afraid of being too crowded, afraid of being lost, afraid of a ghost, afraid of a caterpillar, afraid of seeing a child listed 99 “I’m afraid”, and a little afraid of being a man who thinks he has the guts. It is not because of anything else, but because of these fears, they seriously impede the normal development of the child.

Why are the kids so scared? Why are you so insecure? Perhaps they have never experienced success in their lives and learning, or their previous efforts and progress have never been recognized by their parents and teachers, or their parents too afraid of the failure of their children to let them try to create fear of failure. A person who has not experienced setbacks and has not tasted success has lost a source of self-confidence, and life has since been plunged into a vicious circle. As parents, how we help children to build confidence, I would like to tell today a story about how people with disabilities survive, in which we can see how important parents are in developing their children ‘ s confidence and developing their potential.

In today’s world, there is a man who can drive a car without his legs; he can be a champion in the stadium without his legs; he can travel around the world without his legs and have cancer; he can speak to 199 countries and regions. He has the perfect love and life in the face of death at all times. His famous words have shaken the world, and if I can and you can, don’t say to myself that it is impossible. This great man, John Curtis, Australian, born in 1969, is the world’s famous inspirational master. A few years ago, I saw his story on the Internet for the first time, and it was immediately bewitched by his spirit. His words, which shook the world, left my heart uneasy. I thought once, if one day I could see him and listen to his speech, I must ask him, why are you so strong? How did your life’s potential be unleashed? But to think, it’s impossible. How can I see him in a distant country? But it can’t be true sometimes. I really saw him. On June 8, 2009, I was invited to Shanghai to host a public service speech on the theme “Love for strength”, with John Curtis as the lead speaker. Love makes dreams come true. It’s really weird to say that, although we don’t speak the language, Mr. John and I have met as old friends as we should have. While John had no legs, his upper half was very healthy, always had a smile of optimism, openness and confidence, and was very funny. He said that he had been born only as tall as a mineral bottle, and that he was born dying. The doctor said he might not live long enough to prepare his parents. But his mother says he’s a life, I’m going to raise him and he’s finally alive. He had two very small, undetected legs, which made him look like a doll. The classmates often laughed at him and put a needle on his leg and burned him with a lighter. On one occasion he even cut off a small piece of meat from his leg with a knife, and he was very angry and went to the hospital to cut off two useless legs. John smiled and said to me that I had the nerve to get in the wrong place, that he had no anal, that he could barely excrete after having had an oral surgery. Father told him that if you don’t dig this hole, you’re gonna be shit. When John tells me these painful stories, he still talks funny as if he were telling a fairy tale. The speech began, when John flew around the scene in a scooter for a week, and there was a long-standing round of applause and holler in the audience, with his hands standing on the ground, and he came to the podium with a thunderous round of applause. That’s when I finally believed he came to China alone from Australia. As expected, his speech was very successful. He gave me a very friendly interview after the meeting, which was also an exception. Maybe we had a chance. He used to rarely interview journalists.

From our conversation, I drew up two main ways for parents to help their children build their confidence:

One is to be optimistic about the child ‘ s shortcomings, respect the child ‘ s rights and convince the child to do what he/she wants.

The self-confidence of a child derives first and foremost from the unconditional love of the parents and from the sense of accomplishment that the child itself has done. If the parents take the place of everything, the child will never have the opportunity to discover its worth. Let’s see what John’s mom does. I asked John the first question at the time, Mr. John, you said you loved your mother, and would you tell me what was the most important influence she had on you? It’s love and respect, John looks at me with the big eyes of God, and she says, “My mother loves me, she didn’t abandon me, she took me home.” She said she was a person who accepted reality, and if something happened to you, well, just do it. My mother’s hand is the hand that shapes a man, the hand that nurtures him. Every time she comes home from school, she pulls me into his arms and everything becomes very nice. She always said to me, “I love you, John, you’re the best in our lives, you’re the good guy.” Speaking of which, John’s face is full of happiness. I asked him if you had no legs, did your mother take care of you and love you? John said no, she gave me a chance to grow up like normal people. Although I am much different from my brothers and sisters, and I am much shorter than them, we are all treated the same way. For example, I’m going to get something from the top of the cupboard, and if someone happens to help, they’ll help me get it. But if I’m alone, then I’ll figure it out myself. And I can almost always think of a way to get to the top shelf. My mother said I only helped John get what he couldn’t reach, and we never adjusted the room to fit him. He was adjusting himself. I never thought he had any problems except he couldn’t walk. I think that’s my mom’s respect for me. I never thought I was different, because I was doing something wrong, and Mom used to break several wooden spoons on my head, because my ass was too close to the ground, and it wasn’t enough. Speaking of which, John laughed like he couldn’t hit his ass in his mother. See if the mother was smart enough to treat a disabled child as a normal child, so he was normal and he was confident.

2. True love for a child requires that it be trusted, let it be done and that the child have the courage to face the difficulties.

For children with physical defects, born with timidity, our parents are more compassion, love and substitute children! That’s why a child like that is afraid of everything and has lost its confidence. Now, how did John’s father teach his seriously disabled son? I asked John in the interview, and now we’re talking about your father. You said you loved him till he died. What did Dad leave you? Speaking of Dad, John’s face shows the look of worship. He said my love for my parents was the same and Dad gave me strength. Can you be more specific? John began to talk to me with joy about his sad childhood when he said that my father was a big man, and the first thing I remembered was that he could make a child shake as soon as he heard his voice. I did not get any privileges because I didn’t have legs, and I was punished for my mistakes. When I was a kid scared of dogs, one day my father came to the backyard with me and our dog, and there was a backyard, and he left me there. I kept screaming and crying, and my neighbours called my father and asked him, and my father said calmly that he would be fine with him. After three or four hours, my dad came out to see me, and I would have stopped crying, already riding on the back of a dog and walking around the garden. It sounds a little rough, but it worked, and then I got scared of dogs. John added that I used to like to water my brothers and sisters with rubber hoses, and my father taught me a big lesson. One day, when I was going to point the rubber hose at someone else, he took the rubber hose from me and opened the tap to the maximum, and poured it at me, and I almost drowned. Then he explained to me what sin deserved, which I could never forget. John said that my father never punished me in front of anyone unless I was too bad. Father’s punishment has made us exercise and taught me how to live with the world. These things are not always learned at school or at work.

For example, who are you proud of, never give up and believe in yourself? I think he’s a great father and my best friend. I was moved to hear that Mr. John, you have such a father. No wonder you’re so good. It seems that the theme of today’s speech, Love and Strength, is so right for you. John is proud to say, yes, that I am really lucky to have such a parent, and I am really grateful that they have given me the chance to really experience life. If I were used to being weak, I would probably not be able to take care of myself, eat myself, even go to the bathroom, and come to China alone. After the interview, as I was documenting the interview with John, I rereaded his story and reminiscent of the current problems of family education in China. John Curtis came to China without his legs and put into practice his dream of 10 years ago. Ten years ago, he wrote a self-supporting speech on paper, and ten years later I, John Curtis, will be the world ‘ s greatest disability speaker. After writing, he was alone in a circle and came back and deleted three words, disabled. Ten years later, I, John Curtis, will be the greatest speaker in the world. Ten years later, he really came to China alone.

The experience of John Curtis tells us that a child can do it if he believes in it; parents believe in it and the child will. Our parents always refuse to let go of their hands, children become less able to walk with their legs, do things with their hands, talk with their mouths and think with their heads, so the mental disability is more terrible than the physical disability. In family education, the lack of love is more tragic than the lack of material conditions.

I share two important points with you:

First, parents give their children the greatest love to believe in themselves.

Secondly, if parents are to let their children live their dreams, he can really say I can do it.

Today we’ll talk about how to make a child the master of emotions.

A man’s bad mood is like a volcano, which will explode one day if it is simply suppressed and not defused. So when a child’s emotional problems arise, it must be resolved in a timely manner, and it must not be fueled, so that the volcano will eventually erupt, hurt itself and harm others. Secondary school students are particularly motivated, so it is essential for these children to develop self-restraint and be the master of their own emotions.

First, bad moods are demons, and if you don’t control them, you can hurt people.

Zhejiang Kimhua, a teenager who had lived under the weight and curse of his mother for 17 years, had endured, he had failed to enter the top three, and her mother shouted at her: you are a pig’s brain. He put up with it. When he entered high school, his mother refused to listen to the radio, watch television, read newspapers, let alone play football, said that he did not take the exam, only wrote his homework every day, and often went to school to watch him. One day, he went to play ball, he was found, his mother hit him with a broom, the broom was broken and he put up with it. Finally, one day, he couldn’t stand it, and the emotional volcano erupted. One day at noon, he came home to eat, saw his mother watching TV, and he looked over and was found, and his mother screamed hysterically, and I told you I would not give you a second chance at college. If you don’t go to college, I’ll break his leg. It’s okay to kill you anyway. He wanted to put up with it, but he couldn’t stop thinking that I’m trying, that I’m trying, that you’re trying to get through with me, that you’re trying to get over it, that you’re going to go to the door, that you’re holding it like a volcano, that there’s a hammer in your shoe closet, that there’s an outbreak of emotion, that he’s lost his mind, that he’s taking a hammer to the house, that he’s punching his head a few times in the back of his mother’s head, that he’s falling down, that he’s running out of his house, that he’s walking out the street for two hours, that’s a blank in his head, that’s why I have to save her. He’s running home late, Mom’s dead. At that time, he was completely out of his mind and found that there was a suitcase in the house with clothes, and he took the clothes out of the box and put the body of his mother in it. He returned to school and sat for two hours in his self-study class, and none of his classmates found out about his emotional abnormalities, and he rarely spoke and was rarely noticed. That night, he came to a hotel and he thought he was dreaming. The next day, when he woke up, he knew what was going on. It was too late for him to come back to work on the railroad. He told Dad that Mom was on a business trip, that he wanted to spend the day and that he would never go home. A few days after he went to stay with his fellow scientists, he ran to another place to stay and was taken away by the Public Security Bureau immediately after he entered the hotel.

2. Controlling the mood of the child requires patience, and parents must not be impatient, especially as they must not be impatient.

In the prison, I talked to him for 100 minutes face-to-face, and he cried and regretted, saying that I was an animal, that I had sent my mother away with my own hands, and that I had great regret. The Intermediate People ‘ s Court sentenced him to 12 years ‘ imprisonment for intentional homicide. How can the emotional devil make a third-class student a criminal, so that he can get rid of his child’s bad emotions? It is important to go into the child’s inner world, understand the causes of his bad emotions, and then be patient in helping him to analyse the harm and teach him how to overcome it. He must experience it and feel the pleasure and achievement of self-restraint so that he can find an exit from the volcano. In 2000, he walked into the juvenile justice system, and since then I have visited him year after year, and I am determined to help him overcome his impulses with self-control and to walk out of the abyss and become the master of emotions. He cried every time he saw me, and he told me that it was only today that he knew that the mother of the world loved the child, that he slowly recovered his senses, that he was doing well, that the juvenile hall had given him an adult exam, that he was afraid to go, that I bought a red T-shirt to see him, and that he would get the test in the T-shirt. He’s wearing it. He’s really on. Actually, he can take the test without it. He needs positive psychological insinuation. This success showed him his worth and he began to hope for himself.

Emotions are the product of an environment in which a person must have a good environment to change a bad mood, so people who care about their children ‘ s contact, whether grown-up children ‘ s feelings, have an impact on the child itself. If it is to help the child break through the emotional kidnapping and prevent excesses, it is necessary to change the environment in which he grew up and allow him to live in a positive energy environment.

I went to the juvenile centre to give a report to thousands of juvenile offenders, entitled “Tomorrow, starting today”, and I addressed three issues. First, life is cherished today; secondly, time is valued today; and thirdly, self is valued today. After that, there was a long round of applause on the floor for thousands of people, and a guy stood up and he said, “Can I call you Mom?” I said, yes. I’m sorry. I’ve done a lot of bad things in the past. He’s crying. I said out loud, Mom, trust you. Tears came out of my eyes, and I saw him crying under the stage, and he was crying with his head down, and I knew that the worst thing he could do at the time was because he had lost his mother, who had given birth to him. After the meeting, the children of the juvenile justice system wrote, “Mom, I never knew what it was like to be moved, I bled, but I didn’t cry.” I heard your report three times today. After that, I sent books twice to the juvie. In 2004, I just published the book “Tell the Children You’re Great!” A copy was given to the director, who said that when the children came, the juvenile detention centre had fewer than a thousand people, whereas in just three years there were 2,500. In October of that year, I was rated by 10 ministries, including the Central Department of Education, as “Aide Ambassador for the Prevention of Juvenile Crime Project for Tomorrow”. I sent 2,800 copies of “Tell the Children, You’re Great!” The book’s editor, and the publisher’s big-brained Kim Hong and me. In 2005, I wrote “Tell the world that I can do — 50 problems to grow up” for the kids, and I sent 2,800 books to the juvenile school, and the director, with his books and tears, said to me, “Sister, we have more than 300,000 juvenile delinquents here, and I have nothing to say, but I have a heart. I was touched by the many letters sent to me by the children of juvie, as well as by the two-page letter from a boy named Dewey, a famous writer who was able to see us in the walls. Your speech, which lasted three hours, caused me to cry several times, a rare thing, because I do not normally cry. I’ve listened to your words very carefully, especially as from today when I value my life, and I really understand that it’s my mother who gave me life, and I don’t do her well, and who else does? One of the children said that the more he went back to his cell to read your book, the more he regretted it, the sooner I saw it, the less I would be guilty, and I might still be in high school. Another child said that for the first time I heard the truth about being a human being, I never thought about being a human being, I’d only do things and I wouldn’t be a human being. The letters of these children have profoundly shaken me, how much their hearts and minds need sunlight to help them finally become masters of their own emotions, not to be finished overnight, to work unswervingly to show them light, hope, and, above all, to teach them how to depress themselves so that they truly learn to reduce their own stress.

Thirdly, self-restraint requires a process that helps children to psychologically overcome themselves and become a little better every day.

He was released six years ahead of schedule as a result of his good performance and numerous achievements. On June 26, 2006, he walked out of the juvenile facility, and he called me about this, and I was going to pick him up, and I thought, he walked in, and he came out, and I told him to go see his mom. He came to his mother’s grave, gave flowers and made many confessional remarks. Two weeks later I arranged for him to work. I spent a year trying to find him a job. I used to lecture at the Qinghua North Presidential School. The chief executive officers were very positive, and a woman entrepreneur in Zhejiang expressed his willingness to accept him, but found him unfit to remain in Zhejiang, where he felt very guilty. To date, he was afraid to go to his grandmother’s house and feel ashamed to see his family.

At this point, I met a very caring lady, a CEO with a very big high-tech business in coastal cities. With her support, I personally sent him. It took me a long time to embrace him, to find out that he was hard, that he was so big, that no one had ever hugged him, that I wanted to melt the ice in his heart. I still visit him in the business year after year, despite the fact that he is far from Beijing. Three years later, he became a middle-level manager and had a girlfriend. In 2009, he came to Beijing to participate in the first anniversary of the Wenchuan earthquake that we organized, and I spoke to him for a long time on his way. He told me that he was under a lot of pressure, and that the more his leadership trusted him, the more he felt weak and stressed. I told him a story, and I told him I was always wondering why astronauts were so important to God in the suit. When the doctor came back from America, I asked him, “Why would man survive on Earth?” Because the Earth is attractive, the atmosphere is under pressure. When a man goes to space without gravity or pressure, he explodes, explodes in all directions and turns into a powder, so he must wear a suit, and if the suit leaks, he becomes a powder. So I know why astronauts are called astronaut heroes because life is in danger in space. After this story, I told him that you had only two options, one to put pressure on Earth and the other to go to the universe and turn powder. He smiled and said, of course, he had to choose the first one, under pressure. I say yes, not only do you have to bear it, I have to bear it, and the Earth’s people have to bear it, because there is no place on Earth without it. Early the next morning, he flew back to his place of work and sent me a text message, my dear sister. Rest assured that I will be courageously under pressure to be a man of high moral character.

In 2010, I went to see him again at his firm, and he was so excited to say to me, “Mom, for 10 years, you never gave up on me, you saved me, you helped me, you made me today.” I told him that there was only one person who really helped you, you. People are the masters of their emotions and the masters of their emotions. Self-restraint fills people with self-confidence and earns the trust of others, who are better able to control themselves and control their emotional desires and fears than kings. Whoever it is, if there is a determination, this will provide strength and backup for his own actions.

The strength of a person must be measured by the extent to which he can restrain his feelings, not by the power that comes out of his anger. Self-restraint brings peace to your life. I said to him, “Remember, no matter how embarrassing, you have to endure; no matter what provocation you encounter, you have to be calm; and no matter how heavy the burden is on you, you have to be bitter. That way you have succeeded psychologically, gained self-confidence, earned respect and became an outstanding manager. Now he’s got a family, a father, a real man.

The true case tells us:

First of all, bad mood is the devil. If you don’t control it, you’ll hurt yourself.

Secondly, it takes patience to control the mood of the child, and parents must not be impatient, especially in the short term.

Thirdly, self-restraint requires a process that helps children to psychologically overcome themselves and to become a little better every day.

You’re talking. Let the kids trust you.

Today we say how to make the kids trust you?

Interpersonal trust is the foundation of filiation, and children hand over to their parents only if they believe that they can trust and do not harm themselves. So it’s essential that the child trust you. How can he trust you? It’s not an easy thing to do. I have three suggestions:

First, let the child trust you, you have to speak.

You heard about Tzuko killing pigs. His son was from Lu, from the time of spring and autumn, and was a student of Confucius. One day, his wife went to the street and his son grabbed her clothes, cried and made noise and said he was going to go to the street with his mother. There’s no way the kids can get their wives to get them to say you’re staying at home until Mom comes back and kills the pigs. The baby’s happy, and he’s gone home. His wife came back from the street and saw Tzu-ko tie the pig to the ground with a rope and put a sharp knife next to it, and was about to kill the pig. She looked at the situation and was in a hurry to stop it. Tzu son, however, seriously told his wife that children cannot be deceived and that they are not in the best position to do anything but imitate their parents and listen to their parents ‘ education. Today, you don’t speak much, you lie to the child, you actually teach the child to lie. Moreover, when the mother lied to the child, the child felt that the mother ‘ s words were not credible and reliable, and he would not be able to believe them easily if he did not educate him later.

This would be detrimental to family education and would ultimately persuade the wife to kill the pig. As a parent, why do you make children trust you? Just two words, good faith. The writer Strinburg spoke very well of the belief in childhood, the suspicion in adolescence and the knowledge in adulthood. It is difficult for a child to trust his or her parents if he or she does not build trust in them during childhood, so parents who say they do not speak are not. For example, if you promise to take the baby out, you have to take her out, and if you can’t do anything for a short time, you’ll have to make it up next time; if you promise to buy something for the baby, you can’t let it down, and don’t promise anything you can’t do.

I’ll be damned. My brothers and sisters trusted my mother very much, because she always counted. When he was a kid, he was in need of material, my brother used to make things when he went to high school, and once he wanted to sit on a violin with a hardwood chair leg, but the wood chops were hard to make, and he wanted Mom to buy a new one. Mom says I’ll buy you when I’m done. He’s got a blood bubble on his hands. He’s still doing it. Mom immediately spent five bucks on a new shovel for him, and five bucks was a big expense at the time. He saved not just a tool, but trust in his mother.

Second, you must respect the child’s privacy.

One time I went to a big mall to buy stationery, and the waiter enthusiastically recommended me a lock-in diary, a nice package, a top-level paper, a small wire, and it was a good one, but it was a scary price. The waiter is a bit hesitant to see me, and he’s selling me. I was curious to ask, how old are they? The waiter said there were plenty of them, and the students bought the most. I was just saying, a young mother brought her daughter to buy a book. My daughter decided to buy a lock instead of thinking about it. Look, the kid bought a lock book. Why? Because the secondary school students told me quietly that the locked book was in almost all of their classes in order to prevent parents from going through the diary. The fact that children lock themselves up with their closest parents is really thought-provoking. The children were locked in the diary because their parents were unable to respect their privacy, and the parents had their own reasons, did not know the children and did not know how to educate them, so they had to look at the diary, look at the child ‘ s phone and find the password for the child ‘ s phone, which was a problem. How do you know each other? It’s particularly important for parents and children. Parents and children, although they have a natural relationship with each other, are tens of years apart and have a natural intergenerational gap with each other. Many children often complain to their informed sisters, saying that their parents keep peeking at my diary and tearing down letters from their classmates to me, especially my phone, and I’m particularly angry and I don’t know what to do. I told them, on the first page of your diary, that it was “immoral to peek at people’s journals”. It says the same thing on your phone: “It’s immoral to peek at someone else’s phone,” and then to open the page and put it on the table so that Mom and Dad won’t look at it. Why do you say that? I know how to be a parent today. They were too busy to see their children’s things all day long, only because they were hiding, so they became curious and even suspicious that they were hiding something from adults, so they took many investigative measures and accidentally violated their privacy. It’s a small matter to the grown-up. I gave my child’s life, not to mention a diary, a cell phone. For the children, the actions of adults are distrustful, disrespectful and damaging to their self-esteem. In fact, in the children’s journals and cell phones, there are few hidden things, more of the children’s thoughts and thoughts. When a parent, the child is allowed to have his own secret.

Once, I went to Sian to talk to a kid in elementary school, and a fourth grader asked me if my mom was reading my diary, right? I asked him how did you know your mother was watching your diary? He said I felt like my mom was looking at my diary, but I had no proof. One day he did something like this, and she wrote in her diary, “Mom, this morning I saw you have white hair. You’re tired for me. Mom, you must love yourself. To express my love for you, I hid your white hair in the diary!” That night, his mother went to the children’s diary again, and read this, very moved. Seeing the last sentence, when I hid your white hair in the diary, she spent half a day looking for it, thinking she lost it, and she pulled a white hair and put it in the children’s diary. The next day, his son opened his diary and saw his white hair, and he said to his mother, “Mom, you looked at my diary again.” Mom said I didn’t have it. I thought the white hair was in there. You see, the fox’s tail came out, and I didn’t even add white hair. You see, this kid’s smart. He’s pretty good at solving cases. I heard this boy’s story, and I think he’s cute and his mom’s cute. Mother’s sweet fear of the child’s growth, the fear that the child’s problems will not be solved, the fear that the child will not be trusted! Such a lovely mother, waiting for a child to go to high school, could turn into a hateful mother. If you always look at the child with suspicion, the child will try to avoid your eyes as much as he can, and he will fear you harm her, far away from you.

And you have to forgive the child’s fault.

One year ago, on Children’s Day, Beijing People’s Radio asked me to go live. A young and beautiful hostess said to me that a boy remembered your story. What story do I ask? She said once you went to a boy’s school and asked everyone who took their parents’ stuff when they were little? When a boy raised his hand, you immediately gave him a toy and said that you were a brave child and that you made people applaud. Do you know who that boy is? He’s my boyfriend. I completely forgot what she said, but I will never forget that a high degree of tolerance is required at any time for children who have made mistakes, because he does not want to lose your trust. When the hostess said that, she had tears in her eyes and I think her boyfriend must have been very excited when he told him the story, such a small thing that I had forgotten myself, the boy remembered so clearly and shared it with his girlfriend. Why? For for children, what fears most is the loss of trust and friendship. When a child is found stealing from others, it attracts disgust and isolates him from his team. But mistakes are inevitable for growing children. When a child realized that he had not only the right to uphold the truth, but also the right to make mistakes, he grew up. So when I went to encourage boys who dared to admit that they had taken something from their parents when they were little, I showed an attitude, made mistakes, made mistakes, was trustworthy and did not cast shadows on the children. So if you want the child to trust you, you have to make sure that your child is treated with dignity. When they make mistakes, they can be trusted and the child can reach full trust with his or her parents.

Today we have three suggestions on how to make children trust:

One is to make the child trust you. You have to say what you want.

The second is that you have to make the child trust you. You have to respect the child’s privacy and allow the child to have secrets. No secret kids grow up.

The third is that you make the child trust you and forgive the child’s fault and let him know that Mom still believes you. No child wants to lose the trust of others, especially parents.

Today we say how to make the kids trust you?

Interpersonal trust is the foundation of filiation, and children hand over to their parents only if they believe that they can trust and do not harm themselves. So it’s essential that the child trust you. How can he trust you? It’s not an easy thing to do. I have three suggestions:

First, let the child trust you, you have to speak.

You heard about Tzuko killing pigs. His son was from Lu, from the time of spring and autumn, and was a student of Confucius. One day, his wife went to the street and his son grabbed her clothes, cried and made noise and said he was going to go to the street with his mother. There’s no way the kids can get their wives to get them to say you’re staying at home until Mom comes back and kills the pigs. The baby’s happy, and he’s gone home. His wife came back from the street and saw Tzu-ko tie the pig to the ground with a rope and put a sharp knife next to it, and was about to kill the pig. She looked at the situation and was in a hurry to stop it. Tzu son, however, seriously told his wife that children cannot be deceived and that they are not in the best position to do anything but imitate their parents and listen to their parents ‘ education. Today, you don’t speak much, you lie to the child, you actually teach the child to lie. Moreover, when the mother lied to the child, the child felt that the mother ‘ s words were not credible and reliable, and he would not be able to believe them easily if he did not educate him later.

This would be detrimental to family education and would ultimately persuade the wife to kill the pig. As a parent, why do you make children trust you? Just two words, good faith. The writer Strinburg spoke very well of the belief in childhood, the suspicion in adolescence and the knowledge in adulthood. It is difficult for a child to trust his or her parents if he or she does not build trust in them during childhood, so parents who say they do not speak are not. For example, if you promise to take the baby out, you have to take her out, and if you can’t do anything for a short time, you’ll have to make it up next time; if you promise to buy something for the baby, you can’t let it down, and don’t promise anything you can’t do.

I’ll be damned. My brothers and sisters trusted my mother very much, because she always counted. When he was a kid, he was in need of material, my brother used to make things when he went to high school, and once he wanted to sit on a violin with a hardwood chair leg, but the wood chops were hard to make, and he wanted Mom to buy a new one. Mom says I’ll buy you when I’m done. He’s got a blood bubble on his hands. He’s still doing it. Mom immediately spent five bucks on a new shovel for him, and five bucks was a big expense at the time. He saved not just a tool, but trust in his mother.

Second, you must respect the child’s privacy.

One time I went to a big mall to buy stationery, and the waiter enthusiastically recommended me a lock-in diary, a nice package, a top-level paper, a small wire, and it was a good one, but it was a scary price. The waiter is a bit hesitant to see me, and he’s selling me. I was curious to ask, how old are they? The waiter said there were plenty of them, and the students bought the most. I was just saying, a young mother brought her daughter to buy a book. My daughter decided to buy a lock instead of thinking about it. Look, the kid bought a lock book. Why? Because the secondary school students told me quietly that the locked book was in almost all of their classes in order to prevent parents from going through the diary. The fact that children lock themselves up with their closest parents is really thought-provoking. The children were locked in the diary because their parents were unable to respect their privacy, and the parents had their own reasons, did not know the children and did not know how to educate them, so they had to look at the diary, look at the child ‘ s phone and find the password for the child ‘ s phone, which was a problem. How do you know each other? It’s particularly important for parents and children. Parents and children, although they have a natural relationship with each other, are tens of years apart and have a natural intergenerational gap with each other. Many children often complain to their informed sisters, saying that their parents keep peeking at my diary and tearing down letters from their classmates to me, especially my phone, and I’m particularly angry and I don’t know what to do. I told them, on the first page of your diary, that it was “immoral to peek at people’s journals”. It says the same thing on your phone: “It’s immoral to peek at someone else’s phone,” and then to open the page and put it on the table so that Mom and Dad won’t look at it. Why do you say that? I know how to be a parent today. They were too busy to see their children’s things all day long, only because they were hiding, so they became curious and even suspicious that they were hiding something from adults, so they took many investigative measures and accidentally violated their privacy. It’s a small matter to the grown-up. I gave my child’s life, not to mention a diary, a cell phone. For the children, the actions of adults are distrustful, disrespectful and damaging to their self-esteem. In fact, in the children’s journals and cell phones, there are few hidden things, more of the children’s thoughts and thoughts. When a parent, the child is allowed to have his own secret.

Once, I went to Sian to talk to a kid in elementary school, and a fourth grader asked me if my mom was reading my diary, right? I asked him how did you know your mother was watching your diary? He said I felt like my mom was looking at my diary, but I had no proof. One day he did something like this, and she wrote in her diary, “Mom, this morning I saw you have white hair. You’re tired for me. Mom, you must love yourself. To express my love for you, I hid your white hair in the diary!” That night, his mother went to the children’s diary again, and read this, very moved. Seeing the last sentence, when I hid your white hair in the diary, she spent half a day looking for it, thinking she lost it, and she pulled a white hair and put it in the children’s diary. The next day, his son opened his diary and saw his white hair, and he said to his mother, “Mom, you looked at my diary again.” Mom said I didn’t have it. I thought the white hair was in there. You see, the fox’s tail came out, and I didn’t even add white hair. You see, this kid’s smart. He’s pretty good at solving cases. I heard this boy’s story, and I think he’s cute and his mom’s cute. Mother’s sweet fear of the child’s growth, the fear that the child’s problems will not be solved, the fear that the child will not be trusted! Such a lovely mother, waiting for a child to go to high school, could turn into a hateful mother. If you always look at the child with suspicion, the child will try to avoid your eyes as much as he can, and he will fear you harm her, far away from you.

And you have to forgive the child’s fault.

One year ago, on Children’s Day, Beijing People’s Radio asked me to go live. A young and beautiful hostess said to me that a boy remembered your story. What story do I ask? She said once you went to a boy’s school and asked everyone who took their parents’ stuff when they were little? When a boy raised his hand, you immediately gave him a toy and said that you were a brave child and that you made people applaud. Do you know who that boy is? He’s my boyfriend. I completely forgot what she said, but I will never forget that a high degree of tolerance is required at any time for children who have made mistakes, because he does not want to lose your trust. When the hostess said that, she had tears in her eyes and I think her boyfriend must have been very excited when he told him the story, such a small thing that I had forgotten myself, the boy remembered so clearly and shared it with his girlfriend. Why? For for children, what fears most is the loss of trust and friendship. When a child is found stealing from others, it attracts disgust and isolates him from his team. But mistakes are inevitable for growing children. When a child realized that he had not only the right to uphold the truth, but also the right to make mistakes, he grew up. So when I went to encourage boys who dared to admit that they had taken something from their parents when they were little, I showed an attitude, made mistakes, made mistakes, was trustworthy and did not cast shadows on the children. So if you want the child to trust you, you have to make sure that your child is treated with dignity. When they make mistakes, they can be trusted and the child can reach full trust with his or her parents.

Today we have three suggestions on how to make children trust:

One is to make the child trust you. You have to say what you want.

The second is that you have to make the child trust you. You have to respect the child’s privacy and allow the child to have secrets. No secret kids grow up.

The third is that you make the child trust you and forgive the child’s fault and let him know that Mom still believes you. No child wants to lose the trust of others, especially parents.

Today I’m talking to you about what parents care about between a child and a face.

This is a very special topic. What should parents care about between a child and a face? Many parents say that I care about the children’s scores for their sake. But do you ever think that the way you give your kids is probably more important than me? If you don’t believe me, let’s see the same diary of the fourth grader. I’d like to say to you, Mom and Dad, it’s not easy to be a child, but I’d like to say to you that adults are the most jealous or carefree. Children are always children in the minds of adults and do not understand things. For example, when adults speak, children cannot interrupt and when they speak, they say, “Go, do your homework”.

We’ve got high scores at school, and every time we finish writing the homework that the teacher left behind, there’s an irrefutable task, which is all kinds of work that Mom and Dad left behind. You’re talking about the score, I think it’s your baby. Our children have millions of words in their hearts to tell their parents, but they are afraid to tell them the true truth and dare to tell them. If they are wrong, who knows what rain will rain? Maybe it’s a rain, maybe it’s a rain, and the worst is the storm. I’d like to conclude by saying that I don’t want to run with the scores, and Mom and Dad please give us a free space.

“Segregation is the child of the parents.” How sharp is that? I think the child can say this in his mouth. We should really think about it as parents. Who do we love for half a day? Is it love, or is it a child? What’s the score? It’s a child’s growth record, not necessarily a very scientific one. But when it’s done, it’s the spring wind, and when it’s not, it’s rain, it’s storm. The way you look at your mother, the way you look at her, the way you look at her, the way you look at her. In fact, many parents have the same experience, which is a matter of face. Our generation has a lot of brothers and sisters, and when we get together for spring, we start to tell you how many scores your kids take and what college your kids go to. How can a child’s grades be balanced between scores and faces when he thinks he’s not worthy of it? In fact, the problem of face is the problem of mentality. I have two comments on this issue.

1. Parents must have a peaceful mind, and so on.

You are the backbone of the child, and if the parents are not calm in the face of the score, the child cannot see success or failure correctly. An anxious mother wrote to her sister that my son was in the fifth grade of primary school this year and that, although it was only a year before he was in the first grade, the atmosphere of tension was clearly strong. When many friends meet, it’s the children who talk most about their studies, and my children’s grades are not so prominent as to seem to have had only luck. The child ‘ s father did not care much, and he felt that the child could go to a normal school and suffer more if he could not follow his studies in a good school. But I’ve seen so many friends in my friends’ circles every day, either winning first prizes or taking the first few exams, and I can’t really calm down. I told myself I could not impose my vanity on my son, but I couldn’t help but be anxious. What should I do? I wrote to her that every child is different, that some go faster, some go slower, some grow earlier and others may be later. There is a pattern of growth, and parents need to look at the growth of their children in a serene and serene manner. Speaking of Qing, I can share a small thing with you. Many jade orchids are planted in the courtyard below our house, and each time they arrive in the spring, they bloom. However, the timing and intensity of the sun exposure to these jade orchids vary slightly due to the location of the planting. I found that the purple jade under my building was always the lateest, and when all the other jade were open, it was just a bouquet of bouquet that seemed so lonely. After a few days, however, the blooming white jade ran away, and the purple jade waited for its own uniqueness, and a purple jade flower spread its petals and was amazing. The people who used to pass it, lifted up their cell phones and cameras and kept filming it. It’s a very small thing, but I’m very impressed. I think this jade orchid is very late, but the longest. There is a regularity in the growth of all things, and there are children who start without eyes, but who are resilient and likely to be the farthest away. So it is most important that parents do not compare, calm down, see more of the child’s strengths and give the child time and space to complete his or her own development. Dragons have nine children, different children, different children, the patience of the parents, in return for the child’s growing up, and a healthy and happy child. What was my second feeling?

In order for parents to pass on their good mind to the child, changing the mood changes the child.

Some children learn very well, but once they take the test, they are out of order. Because of their overloading of results, they serve as a space for parents to see more of the child ‘ s efforts and progress and to analyse the child ‘ s problems, making them less visible. One of the boys ran away and came to me in Beijing. When I learned, I personally returned him to Shanghai and had a long conversation with his father. His father then figured out that he had a problem with his own method of education, and he changed his mind to see the children, and suddenly his eyes were bright. After a while I went to Shanghai, I went to see the kid, and I found out that the kid had changed completely. Then I knew because his dad changed. How did his father change? His father began to think that my child was already like this, that the base was so bad, that I could change my mind. One day, the kid took the last of the class and came back and told Dad that I took the last of the class today. His dad said, “That’s great. You’ve got the last one, and there’s no burden. Son is so strange. Say, Dad, are you sick? His father says I’m not sick, I’m sick, I’m sick, I can’t see you anymore. It’s your business to learn. I’m in no hurry. Your last exam today starts at zero. Dad’s really happy for you. As soon as the kid thinks, my dad’s happy for me. I can’t afford it. Second exam, 15th in class. His dad said, “That’s great. The last one is now 15, and you’re fantastic. Dad can’t make it as fast as you do. Kids think, it’s nothing. In his third exam, he got fifth in the class, and his father said that I admired you so much, that you were moving too fast. As a result, the child was first in the class. You see how much the kids change. The real change is a change of heart, the kid relaxes, and then he goes up. To be honest, the kids were all very potential, but after Dad’s scolding, he gave up on himself and broke the jar, but when Dad encouraged him, he did. Then I found that what really changed was the mind of the father, and that there was no burden on the child to see the light from his face and to move forward.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what really determines the success of the kid’s exam? The same child, the same basis of study, when he goes to the exam, under what circumstances can he win? What circumstances would he lose? Ultimately, the mentality determines success or failure. You can look at the athletes of the Olympic Games, and that excitement is not stress, not guilt, but a sense of pride for the nation. When Liu Shang won the championship, he ran in China’s flag and said, “I won.” That feeling is an excitement in which people use their particular skills, and people must feel great fear in stress and excessive stress. Life is like long journeys, and everyone walks on their own path. It doesn’t matter that a single test failed, simply tripped by a little stone on the road. The road ahead is long, and there are many opportunities behind it, and it is important that you learn and feel the view during your journey. A man can grow up without pride, without defeat, never give up, never to go forward, because of the infinity of the wind. We lost vanity. We traded for the children’s confidence.

Today we discussed a special topic, children and faces. What should parents value? I think we have this consensus:

The first is the point of treating the child, where the parents have a peaceful mind, and when the flowers bloom, they lose their faces and give the child space to grow up;

The second is that parents have to pass on a good mind to their children and change their moods. And when the mountains are full of flowers, it laughs in the midst of them. And how can I put it? It should be said that your efforts have not been wasted, and that if you have a will, you will.

Today we talk about how to deal with the rebellion of adolescent children.

There have been many changes in the way children enter adolescence, with some children being distant from their parents, some having even gone through the cold war and others having had good grades and suddenly not going to school. These problems cause anxiety among many parents. All right, let’s get closer to them today and see what problems they encounter and how to solve them.

I. How are biological changes in adolescent children viewed?

Adolescence is an important stage in the child ‘ s development, at which the girl has a sharp curve and the boy has a beard and a throat. In the face of these physical changes, children are also shown to have a sexual orientation. For example, when you’re beginning to love beauty, you care about other people’s eyes, especially those of the opposite sex, how can you face it as a parent? One of the mothers asked if her daughter had been able to perform well this year when she was in middle school. After junior high school, the grades went down straight, speaking, making little moves, not listening, at home, starting to get emotional when she was talking about studying and doing homework, and recently became particularly fond of dressing, holding a cell phone and talking to us all over the weekend, and it was getting impatient to talk to us, and I couldn’t figure out how to steer her through adolescence. I told her adolescent girls like to dress. It’s perfectly normal. She began to look at her image and have a look at and appreciation of herself, while also hoping to give a good impression to others. So the mother does not have to object to the child’s dressing, but gives the child the right guidance to discuss with the child, like friends, how to dress better for herself. Similarly, chatting is a characteristic of age, and it’s a good conversation between people of the opposite sex and same sex. It’s much healthier to be chatting, to have friends, and to be open-minded. If you want to know about the child’s life, you can add the child as a friend or join her group of QQs, join the child and become part of her circle. When you walk into a kid’s social circle, you know her life better, you know her thoughts.

But it’s not easy to go in, you don’t have the full trust of the child, and it’s hard for you to walk into her circle. As for the decline in academic achievement, it was linked to her distraction. Many children do less well than they do when they go to lower secondary school and then start to lose their focus. As a parent, she would have to be more motivated to blame and to encourage the child, so that she would have a sense of achievement in her studies. It is also important to respect the independence of the child and to believe that the child is capable of managing his or her studies and life. The child’s work was emotional because she considered it to be something else and felt that she was studying for her parents or teachers, thus creating a space for the child to be relatively free and independent. If she can manage her own affairs, she will take charge of her own part-time activities. If this is not possible, the advice of parents and teachers is followed.

Adolescent children have a strong sense of self. They do not like to be treated as children. Instead of teaching them how to do it hand-in-hand, their parents have to establish rules with the children to give them the right to enforce, to make them feel respected and to take responsibility for their actions.

II. How do you view the psychological changes of adolescent children?

As a result of the physical changes, there have been many changes in the mental health of adolescent children, who do not want to be treated as children anymore, so they are more powerful and have greater self-esteem. And they’re not really mature, so they’re low and sensitive. At this stage, communication problems arise when parents also use the child-minding method. One of the mothers asked me to be an ordinary mother, but she had a very good daughter, and she now attended a focused secondary school. In primary school, I was in harmony with my daughter, and sometimes I could talk like a friend or go out. But now it seems that the daughter has a small world of her own, and there’s a growing gap between us, and I’ve never heard of her idols. Some of the books she likes to read are English. I can’t even read the book. And many of her fellow scientists are better off, and her parents are better off, and I can’t match her dad. There are now fewer and fewer languages in common and sometimes contradictions. I said she had a lot of reasons to wait for me, and I felt less and less weight in my daughter. What do you think I should do? I told her that my daughter is in adolescence, that it is easier for children at this stage to open their hearts to their peers and idols, but not to stick to their mothers as they were when they were little. This is the psychological process that every child is going through, and that children can only grow up when they are less and less psychologically dependent on their parents. So it’s the same for ordinary parents and good parents. It is a matter of pride to be a parent, whose feelings cannot be measured in terms of money, education or social status, and to be able to raise children better than themselves. As a mother, you don’t need to be humbled.

Of course, the mind of the child has changed and the way parents are educated has changed. In the case of adolescent children, parents need to move from child-minding to child-minding, so that the child is not taught to listen, but to use the child to help you. It is the viewers who are most in need of good children and the people who need to learn to care for others. A few days ago, a friend transmitted to me an article entitled ” A letter from a mother ” . The single mother in the article also had a good daughter, who paid her everything to develop her talents and sent her abroad. Instead of being grateful to the mother, the daughter who has settled abroad has established a family but has instead taken the mother as her nanny, with the mother of the child, with the leftover mother of the family, without taking the mother on vacation and leaving her to work alone. Never asked, Mom. What do you want to eat? What they buy, Mom has to eat. The mother was in great pain, and she wondered why a good daughter was so ruthless to herself. The mother did not know what she had done for her child, but did not teach her how to give for others and care for the people around her. Times are advancing, knowledge is constantly being updated, and sooner or later children ‘ s knowledge and skills will surpass their parents. As parents, it is always possible to educate children about how to be human.

III. How to face conflict between parents?

Many parents feel the worst about their children ‘ s adolescence, and many families are in conflict with it, with irretrievable cracks in filiation. How do we deal with filiation at this stage, as parents? A burning mother said that I had a 14-year-old kid who had been at the top of his class, but we reprimanded him six months ago for doing something wrong, and that he had been reluctant to go home, either in his fellow scientists or in his relatives’ homes, and that the phone was either off or off, and sometimes texted us where he was, or not to take our calls. Then I spoke to him through text messages, and then I talked face-to-face, and admitted that our educational methods were incorrect and that the old laughs were restored at home. But I didn’t think he had to go home last night for no reason, and his cell phone was turned off, and we looked for most of the night, and it wasn’t until morning that we found him wandering around. When we returned home, we asked him why he seemed to be incompetent and never said why he was not coming home. I’m in a hurry, Sensei. Can you give me a hand? I told her what happened in your house reminded me of another family. A single mother, with a beautiful daughter, who became an abnormally negative girl at puberty, then left home at night. Mom looked everywhere for her. On one occasion, she was found on a bike and was hit and wounded on the road. The mother wrote about her anxiety and expectations of her daughter. Finally, the door is always open for you and the light is always on for you, son. The mother placed the letter on the table and she knew that her daughter would sneak home while she was away. The daughter did see this letter, very moved. One night, my daughter wandered in front of her house, saw a dark light on her house, her eyes filled with tears, ran back to her house, saw her mother sitting in front of her bed, and her mother hugged her and said, “I know you’ll come back, I’ve been waiting for you for a long time. Mother’s love touched her daughter, who then worked hard to study and finally took a very good university. On a television show, I brought this mother and daughter to a TV show, and I asked her why she came home. The girl cried and said Mom didn’t give up on me. It’s a never-ending love that gives the child a reason to go home.

Your child is now in a state of depression, and it is no evil for him to go to his kinsman’s house, and do not rush, and wait patiently, when he has passed the night and awaits the bright morning.

Thus, in the face of adolescent children, the best gift parents can give is understanding and company. Like friends, respect children, listen to them, and spend enough patience with them to walk through the most contradictory of times. If he was also treated as a child, he would only provoke strong resistance from the child. So parents who are adolescent children also need to be prepared to change their roles.

Today we have three questions about adolescence:

One, how to cope with a child’s biological changes?

Two, how to cope with the psychological change of the child?

Three, how do we deal with teenage filiation?

Adolescence is an essential way for children to grow up, and many problems occur as a result of the child ‘ s physical and psychological changes, which are not pathological or abnormal. Parents no longer feel anxious about their child ‘ s adolescence if they can look at the problem in another way and communicate in another way.

Today we talk about how to treat teenage boys and girls who have heterosexual relationships?

Heterosexuality is the first step in children’s engagement with the world. In the end, a child has to walk out of the house and go to society, and if he fears having a heterosexual relationship, he can only hide at home and not go out alone. If he had never had a heterosexual relationship before he was married, there would be a fear that he would neither know how to have a heterosexual relationship nor protect himself. But the most unacceptable thing for parents today is that the child has sexual relations with a heterosexual person, and if they find out, such as the enemy, the repression, criticism and even the scolding, the result of which is the opposite of the wish, which hinders the child ‘ s growth and destroys the parent-child relationship.

So what do we do with teenage boys and girls who have sex with each other? I think parents should lead their children to the door of three relationships.

To look at the opposite sex of boys and girls in the right way, and to help the children easily open the first door to interpersonal interaction.

One morning, a mother came to my office in a hurry, panicking and saying that my daughter was in love. My daughter’s in fifth grade. This is over. Your daughter’s in fifth grade. How can she be in love? I found a love letter in her bag yesterday. Who wrote the love letter? How? I asked. Her mother said it was written by one of the worst boys in their class. It says, “Don’t look at me as the last in the class. Wait, I’ll be number one. I love you.” Mom was so worried when she said that, and I laughed and wrote so well that your daughter was so charming that she could turn a boy from the worst of his studies to the best of his students, and he didn’t have so much energy to learn for his country. My daughter smiled and said, “Mom, if all the classmates don’t like your daughter, you’re happy.” I said that your daughter was great and funny, and I encouraged the mother to say that she was willing to communicate with you, which was the first step towards success.

If you say that my daughter can get a boy to work, it’s amazing, and that’s the way to communicate. My daughter would think that she’s so understanding, so she’d be more friendly, and she’d talk to her mother later. The girl, who was very young and mature, could only force her to close the door to the heart if her parents used to look at her in a secular way and guess her with a narrow mind. The repression and repression of heterosexual relations by parents can distort the child ‘ s perception of good feelings. In the minds of children of emotional understanding, who feel good about opposite sex, the attitude of parents leads them to believe that they are good in their hearts, even in exchange for their lives, and that they are dirty, ugly, derisive and cursed things that lead to emotional error that affects the child ‘ s trust in love in heterosexual feelings when he reaches the age of majority, or even in his entire marriage and family life.

II. The emotional problems of rationality towards boys and girls and the rational opening of the second door to interpersonal interaction.

To Dan, a well-known journalist, told me that she had had a parents ‘ meeting for her daughter, and the teacher had told me not to let the child fall in love. Go home, she says to her daughter, don’t fall in love with her. She said I was shocked. Since then, I’ve never said the word “early love” in the media. It’s a very wise mother, and we adolescent boys and girls, especially need their parents to take care of their children at this time. In particular, adolescent boys need father advice in these areas. I knew a father who was very wise when he dealt with heterosexual relations with his son. The father was the head of education in a county and the son was a secondary school student. One day, my son told my father, “Dad, I saw a girl who was beautiful, smart and good at school. Father said, “Can you see her? Did she see you?” The son was proud to say that she was into me. Good. You’ve been seen by a girl. You’re amazing. You can see a girl, which means your eyes are wide open. If you want to develop in the county in the future, you continue to interact with her; if you want to develop in the city, you should solve the problem in the city in the future; if you want to develop in the province, you should solve the problem in the province; if you want to develop in Beijing, you should go to Beijing; if you want to develop abroad, you should go abroad to solve the problem. I’ll talk to you later. The wise father, in a humorous language, gave advice to his son for an important life.

So how does the mother deal with the emotional problems of the boy, the son goes to high school and one day I go to a parent’s meeting. The young, beautiful schoolgirl smiled and said to me that your son had a great eye for a girl at work, that she studied well and beautifully, but that she didn’t like him, that your son was upset. I’m upset to hear that. I think my son’s so good that she doesn’t like it, and the other son’s so upset that he won’t tell me, and I’m a little disappointed. What do we do? Asking his son directly, he must have thought that the teacher had betrayed him, undermined his trust in him, ignored him and found it not interesting. To go, I wrote a note on his computer, three words; a country is strong, and other countries will make friends with you; one is strong, others will be friendly with you; a man is strong, and many women will come to you. We haven’t talked about this since, and I’ve found my son more obstinate and more tolerant. It is natural for a child who is about to grow up, to insist on his rights. Parents should remind themselves that children are changing and that children are growing up, and that friendly friends are more effective than the opposition of elders. I’ve been telling my parents not to rush, to wait patiently, to grow up is a process, to be 18 years old, and the child will change qualitatively! Rather than sealing up the child and controlling his/her dealings, it would be better to open the door and allow the child to learn to communicate with people in a wide range of relationships. Some experts have long suggested that the term “early love” should be changed to “early practice”, that is, “love” to “work”. I think it’s a good way to do it, like a big water treatment, better than a block, if you take the opportunity to tell a boy to be strong. So what’s the third door?

3. To teach the child self-esteem and self-protection, so that the child can safely open the third door to interpersonal interaction.

Parents should be honest with their children about their emotional problems, not fearing that the children will feel old, or that they will not be able to bear them, but be careful to hide their views, control their emotions and not accuse them of their behaviour. If parents were able to communicate with their children at will, it would be more helpful for the children, either to express their views or to tell them about their youth. The kid thinks you trust him and respect him, and he’s willing to be your friend.

Remember once when I went to Guangxi to pick up a phone call from a sixth-grade girl who said I liked a boy in class. I can’t. I’ll answer that. She said, can I meet you at your place? I said, okay. Twenty minutes later, she came and sat across my bed and asked why? I said, people change. Let me ask you first. What do you like about him? The girl says he’s good at learning, he’s tall, he’s white and clean, and we girls like him. I said yes, I told her about two boys I once knew, one in primary school and the other in the early days of work. Both boys have changed significantly since they grew up, and young boys who were white and tall have grown short and dark. And the 20-year-old boy, who wasn’t white enough to grow up to be 30, was a good man. In particular, there are differences in personality, the first male is less developed than the first male, and the second male is a very good job. I said, “Look, they’ve changed. Men change a lot before they mature.” And I was very specific, and then the girl listened, and she said, “Then we are going to graduate. Can I tell him that I love him?” I said, “No, you tell him he’s scared away because he’s not old enough to keep it in his heart and keep in touch with him. At the age of marriage, you think you still like him, and you can tell him I love you.” After hearing that, she cried. She said, “I wish my mother was as conscious as you. My mother, ever since she found out I liked him, was firmly opposed and called me a disgrace. I’m sad and I’m angry. I think I have to be nice to him. I see what you can do to me. Sister, I heard you. Don’t worry, I’ll do what you say and be a great girl.” Next, I told her that a girl learns to protect herself in her heterosexual relationships, and most importantly not to interact with a boy on a regular basis alone, with four “learnings”:

Youth is a beautiful memory, and the beauty of that memory stems from our respect for him. We have to trust our children and believe in their personality. Only if their personality is respected will they not cross the moral threshold to do what we fear. Children who are respected as human beings will greatly value their purity and purity. They believe that they are human beings of affection, and leave their children with a pure age to remember in their youth and old age. Boys and girls, boys and girls, men and women, this is a necessary process for people to grow up, and no one can avoid it. Awareness of the opposite sex is a compulsory subject of development, and parents should be involved with their children at this point in their education on adolescent sexuality, especially with parents and children.

I’ve told you this lesson, on the way to the opposite sex of boys and girls, parents open three doors for their children:

(f) Normalizing heterosexual relations between boys and girls, so that children can easily open up interpersonal relationships;

Reasonable emotional problems with boys and girls, so that children can rationally open up relationships;

(b) To teach the child self-esteem and self-preservation, so that the child can safely open up his/her personal contacts.

Today we tell you how to give the children a warm home.

What do children want most? According to the National Survey of Family Education in 2018, a warm home is the most important thing for a child, with a much higher percentage of the population than the rich, socially active and entitled. Harvard University in the United States did an investigation. What kind of person can win a life? The survey followed 76 years and 268 19-year-old Harvard students, with the result that love, warmth and intimacy are the most important beginnings of a good life. Two surveys have validated an important issue, and warm home and close relationships are the first building blocks of a happy life.

Children long to grow up with warm feelings from their parents and to live in a loving and harmonious family. If parents argue, divorce or shout, they create a sense of insecurity from an early age and become extremely vulnerable to crime in adolescence. Most of the juvenile offenders are children who are separated from their families or their parents, so it is essential to create a harmonious family environment that is essential for their healthy development. So how do parents give their children a warm home? And here’s a good word for you to say, “Great.” Change of mood changes the world. Among family members, if everyone can look at themselves with a “very good” mentality and face others, the laughter will fill your house. To give the child a warm home, four relationships between family members must be addressed.

1. Benevolentness and tolerance are of paramount importance between spouses.

Have a good life. First, we have to get married. How can men treat women well between husband and wife and women well? Women like to smile and praise. There are men who are strange and laugh at other women, but who struggle with their own faces. A lady told me that her husband could do a week’s work with a good word, but she couldn’t hear a good word. It was just a complaint. She said that she had bought a dress for her husband, who said that you should not buy me clothes. For the second time, she bought her husband another dress, and he told me to go back. For the third time, she looked so good, she bought it. She didn’t dare give it to her husband. And this man says I love wearing the clothes you bought. And I said to many men, “Do not think that your daughter-in-law will marry you to your house forever. The seed of love needs to be poured out. Without a smile and praise, the seed of love will soon be flattened.” Gentlemen, come home from work, and don’t knock on the door, relax your facial muscles, and when your wife and children come to open the door, you smile and say, “Great, I’m back alive”. Don’t bring the garbage home. It’s not your dump, and it’s not yours.

How can women be nice to men? Men value their careers, and successful men want to be encouraged from their wives. Losing men want comfort from their wives. Men don’t like complaining. Women complain. Why are you so stupid? Why can’t you be an officer? Why can’t you make a lot of money? It’s bad luck marrying you. A man can’t be confident when he hears it. I went out and met a young, beautiful lady, “Mrs. Boss, you’re too good to me,” and he felt so good. No, what he lacks is confidence. So wise women always say to their husbands, you’re the best! Men like beauty, all women are beautiful, but women get dressed when they go out, and they get to the right, and they become pretty. First thing you do when you go home, put all your beautiful clothes on, put on one of the worst-looking trunks in the kitchen. Your husband feels like she’s pretty all over the street. Actually open your closet and there’s two-thirds of them all your clothes. Men love soft voices, women’s voices are the best, but many women now have big voices. A female police officer was a good man, but she was very nice to her husband, she spoke with her husband, and her husband was very thoughtful and careless.

On one occasion, she received the title of the country ‘ s 38 Red Flags, came to Beijing for the award, met with Huang Chiu, the First Secretary of the All-China Women ‘ s Federation, and spoke to her and was very excited to feel less like a woman. That night, she called her husband, “Honey.” Who are you? I’m sorry, I’m too good for you. When my husband got excited and came to Beijing the next day, it was 4:00 p.m., and the lady was so passionate: you wash your face, you brush your teeth, you drink water, I’ll make you tea. The gentleman was flattered, and the next day he told the leader of the FMC that last night I felt from slaves to generals. So it’s no big deal fighting between two people, and changing the mood changes the world.

Between parents and children, the most important thing is to think and be associated.

In my son’s fifth grade chorus, I saw a title called Hope. Mom’s been on a business trip for two weeks. I’m so looking forward to Mom coming back. Can Mom come back today? I went to the station after school and I thought about it. When I woke up, the car was coming home, and I was confident that Mom would come back. When I get out of the car, I’ll say, “Mom, come back!” The closer I get to my door, the more sweat I sweat, the more I look up at my window, the less the light comes on, and my heart gets cold. But then I thought maybe Mom was too tired to sleep at home and I went upstairs softly. When I got to the door, I almost stopped breathing, and my heart was groaning, and I opened the door, and I saw the kitchen light on, and I thought Dad was back at 6:00 a.m., but it’s only 5:00. It’s my mom. I ran into the kitchen and I was so glad I didn’t know what to say. When I saw my son this week, I was six years old, but I couldn’t help but shed tears. That moment I understood my son. When my son goes to school, I often travel, sometimes leave my children alone, and I can’t imagine how much he wants his mother to come home early, and in an 11-year-old emotional world, I’ve learned to think about my loved ones! It is often said that the mother is worried that the thoughts and ties between her children are born and cannot be cut off.

Remember, in 1993, when my 87-year-old father arrived, he couldn’t speak until he died, but he kept pointing his hand at the sky, and my sister was by his side and didn’t understand what he meant. Looking at what my father was looking forward to, I suddenly realized that my father was asking you why your brother’s plane had not arrived. My brother traveled to the United States for years, returning home every two years, having just returned from the first year and not again this year. I was lying in Daddy’s ear whispering, “Dad, big brother can’t come back.” The father had the paper and the pen on his right finger by the window, and I handed them to him, and he had written four words in vague pen: “I miss him”. A few hours later, he closes his eyes forever. The following year, when he came home from across the ocean to visit his family, he heard this and cried, which was his father ‘ s attachment to his son.

It is of paramount importance to listen and to know.

I don’t think so. It is not difficult for two women who have grown up in different ages to integrate into a family. Just listen and understand each other, and know each other. In order for the daughter-in-law to truly treat the mother-in-law as the daughter-in-law, she needs a process of listening and getting along. The elderly are the ones who can read and understand the book in order to respect them. My mother-in-law lives in a county in the northeast, and she’s over 90 years old, raising nine children in her life, and now she’s full of children and grandchildren, with a family of 30 or 40, and children and grandchildren who respect the elderly. In New Year’s, the house was filled with people, some called their mothers, some called their grandmothers, some called their grandmothers, some called their milk, and some called their grandmothers. People answer, their faces are filled with happiness. One day I interviewed her and learned how hard her life had been, how hard it had been for her to raise nine children in hardship, and I always wanted to do something for her. Listening to a story from a mother-in-law is like reading history, an old man with 80 years of bitterness and struggle. After hearing the story of my mother-in-law, the small old man became so tall that I was filled with respect. I suddenly received a new revelation that an old man would not only give her money, buy her clothes, work for her, and, above all, listen to her and understand that her most precious asset left to her children was her own life. This book, written in life, will never be finished. The first day, I gave my mother-in-law $10,000 and she cried, and she took my hand and said, “I’m sorry for you. Grandma apologized and said I didn’t bring you your child. I’m very moved that you’ve raised my son. It’s my responsibility to bring my grandson. My mother-in-law said, “How can I have such a good daughter-in-law?” Thirty years ago, she always said the county couldn’t find such a good daughter-in-law! More than 20 years ago, the mother-in-law said she could not find such a good daughter-in-law in the province. It doesn’t matter what the old lady says, I’ve mobilized all my motivations, and I think it’s my happiness. Ten years ago, on spring break, she was in poor health, and I bought her a thousand feathers, and I gave her 15,000 dollars in a big red bag, which I gave her. My mother-in-law told me how to give me so much money, where I spend it, how hard it is for you to get up early and make some money. Everyone laughed, my sister told me that my sister-in-law had raised her salary, and I told her to jump from the province to the world. Now I give her 30,000 dollars a year. Since the parents were gone, there is a sense of achievement and well-being that has been felt since the festival, and that it is good to have a mother and to spend money on her after a few New Years. The old, the old, and the old; the young, and the young, Meng’s words are great, so do they, and any intergenerational relationship can be handled.

4. Between sons-in-law, use and praise is of paramount importance.

The father-in-law is the mother-in-law, and the elderly often say so, meaning that the mother-in-law and the uncle are the best in the relationship compared to the daughter-in-law. One of the great things is that my aunt loves to work for her mother-in-law and her mother-in-law likes to exaggerate. My mom’s an expert on this. My mother has four uncles. Every uncle is very nice to my mother. My brother worked in the United States and once went home to visit my mother and bought her a nice, fat nightgown. I put on my mother’s. My mother said it was my son’s. My husband saw it, and when he came back from the Japanese visit, he bought my mother a sweater of the kind. My mom likes it, wears it, says my uncle bought it from Japan. One day, I looked carefully at it and said, “Chinese made.” On my mother’s birthday, the four uncles went shopping. My brother-in-law is a teacher, he’s very serious, he’s big and he’s very careful, and my mother says he buys big, sweet and delicious peaches, and my brother-in-law always buys peaches. My husband buys chickens. My mother says he buys chickens that are big and tender, and he can’t bite. My husband buys chickens every time he comes. My brother-in-law cooks, and my mom says he cooks better than at the restaurant. My brother-in-law comes down to the kitchen to cook. My mother had six children, six uncles and daughters-in-law, and the family was happy. If the old people pick up on the problems of the children, the children, the uncles and the daughter-in-law do not do well, they naturally become visitors and guests, and the elderly themselves are the ones who suffer.

Those who are optimistic always see the bright side of things and are ready to turn the tide and move towards success. So people with a sense of humor are always welcome everywhere, not only for themselves, but also for their families. For one person, a happy and open nature is priceless, opening up “good” windows, allowing the sun to come in and everyone around him to see what he looks like. Such a mentality is a blessing not only for its own happiness but also for others. So the people who bring joy are the lucky ones.

Well, I’m talking about building a nice home for my kids today, and I need to deal with four big relationships:

The first is to manage the couple ‘ s relationship, which is most important in terms of kindness and inclusion;

Second, dealing with filiation and childhood is of paramount importance;

Third is to deal with in-laws, listening and understanding;

Fourth is to deal with in-laws, use and praise most important.

Today we are told how to make children self-sufficient and capable of living independently.

The most important task of parents is to educate their children as self-sufficient adults so that they can earn a living on their own, regardless of the corner of the world. This is an internationally recognized expert in business management, who has made a fundamental point. How do you make a child independent? I have three points to share with you today.

1. To replace a child is to harm the child.

When they are young, they are forced to leave their children to suffer. The mother of the child Wei Yongkang forgot that, so she killed her favorite son. Two-year-old Wei Yongkang, two-year-old, four-year-olds, completed their basic studies at the lower secondary level, eight-year-olds entered a prefectural high school, 13-year-olds into the physics department of Hunan University, 17-year-olds into the Institute of High Energy Physics of the Secondary School, and they went on to study. However, in July 2003, Wei Yongkang was discouraged from receiving his master’s degree. At the time, he had been studying with his mother, who had fed him at the high school, pointing at the building in the middle school, asking his son to jump off the building and pointing at the street next to his car, which had run over him. What caused the harm now? Let’s look at this divine life. There are journalists who describe his life in this way, and nothing in the family is allowed to interfere with him except to study, and every morning even the toothpaste is squeezed, his son is given clothes, meals, bathing his face, and in high school, in order for his son to eat without having to read, Wei mother fed him. In July 2000, Wei Yongkang was admitted to the Institute of High Energy Physics of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, where he lost control after leaving his mother. In winter, he was unaware of his clothes, his clothes, his slippers, and even of his way to take the examination and write his dissertation. The underlying reason for this tragedy is that Wei Mother did not see his son as a human being, an ordinary person who wanted to survive in the world, but rather as a machine to study the examinations, with a vision of the Sons, the Sons, the Sons, the Sons, the Sons, and the Insects. The last mother of Wei, who worked for his son, confessed that I had killed him.

The fundamental task of parents is to teach their children to be human. Children come to the world with their parents ‘ bodies, and it is their duty to teach them to be people, to do things and to learn basic life skills. The child’s survival began with family education, and Wei Yongkang worked from elementary school to university, all of her mother’s life, believing that her son would grow up and leave me. I don’t know if my son’s getting used to it. There’s more than one mother like Wei. The phenomenon of educational runaways is quite serious, with kindergartens studying elementary school, primary school classes, and university-level teachings. For example, food and clothing, behavioral habits, personality development, labour skills, as a kindergarten teacher had said, some children aged 5 or 6 who faced difficulties could only call their mothers, and others could only drink milk when they were five. If you make a mistake, parents say you criticize me, don’t say children. Look at these kids and parents, I’m really speechless. Parents who ignore their children ‘ s independence and are unable to let them suffer, and who have nothing to do with it, make them mentally retarded, clumsy and unable to walk away from their parents, a practice completely contrary to the aims of family education. Fostering the independence of the child and enabling the child to live from primary school is the greatest love for the child, and it is the child that hurts.

II. Lists of jobs to be given to children to enable them to live from primary school.

The great educator knew long ago that life is education. The aim of our education is to adapt our children to the social circumstances in which they live, to meet the challenges and opportunities that they must face in the future, and to shoulder the historic responsibility of making China strong. Harvard University scholars have done a survey that leads to an alarming conclusion: children who love domestic work and children who don’t like domestic work have an employment rate of 15:1, a crime rate of 1:10, a low divorce rate for children who love domestic work, and a low rate of mental illness. Here’s a list of American children’s household chores that we can use. 9 to 24 months for the baby to dump a dirty diaper in a garbage bin; 2 to 3 years for the child to drop the garbage in a garbage can, under the guidance of the parents, to help the mother to pick up something, brush her teeth, water the flowers, clean up his toys; 3 to 4 years for the child to better use the toilet, wash his hands, brush his teeth more carefully, carefully prepare the flowers, clean up his/her own toys, prepare her bed, get a pillow, get a blanket, then feed herself into the kitchen pool, help the mother to put clean clothes back in her closet, put her own dirty clothes back in the dirty closet, tie her own shoes; 4 to 5 years of age, not only to master the tasks required in the previous stages, but also to teach the child to collect clothes from the hanger, fold different clothes and prepare her/his clothes for the next day, to prepare her/his own for the kindergarten, to pack up the rest of her/his room, and to pick up the dirty things back to her/his place; 6 to 7 years of age, not only a few before them, but also to clean his/her own place. 7 until the age of 13 can make simple meals, wipe the ground, clean the toilet, wash the leaves, and use the washing machine. Over 13 years of age, they can fix light bulbs, wipe glass, clean refrigerators, cook, list what they want to buy, wash clothes. The most valuable list is science and fun. These labour skills are not only age-appropriate, but also child-friendly and learn what they want. For example, when a three-year-old likes to water her flowers, he can’t stand it over and over and over again. Six-year-olds like to come down to the kitchen and tell her to wash the dishes without breaking them. If he’s over this age, he’ll change his interest, then he won’t learn! This interesting early labour training enables children to learn what they can and to learn to work with their children, to the benefit of their life.

There were also family classes in Japanese primary schools, and some mothers were often helpless to keep cleaning their children ‘ s rooms, and they went crazy when they saw them throwing things. Family classes are specially designed to provide children with three important abilities by packing. First, the ability to choose; secondly, the ability to handle things immediately; and thirdly, the ability to concentrate and insist. These work skills are useful to people throughout their lives. I am grateful to my mother for having let us do housework, cleaning tables, cleaning floors, cleaning glass, cleaning houses, dressing closets, washing clothes, cooking, cooking, washing dishes, dragging land, and teaching the same thing. Six children have jobs, and everyone does their job, and people do their job, and no one is free to enjoy their work. So each and every one of us has a strong ability to survive, whether in the countryside or abroad, to adapt to whatever circumstances.

Third, let go.

Experience is the best wealth in life. Some parents say that my kids have never worked since they were kids. I told them that there was no need to rush, and that it was a very good way to develop the child’s ability to survive when the child was eight years old to participate independently in summer camp winter camps. It is timely to identify problems and can solve them. One year I took my primary school students to the steppes of Inner Mongolia for the summer camp of the brave young emissaries of the steppe. On the first day, we lived in a hotel with two children in one room, in very good conditions, for two days, and none of them said the hotel was good. Another child told me the next day that I didn’t find the covers last night, but they were in the closet, and he didn’t find them, because they were usually laid by their mothers. I asked him, what do you do? It’s cold at night. He said I put my clothes on my stomach. Are you cold? No, no, no. I’m glad to say you’re very good at protecting yourself. Later, at the plenary meeting, I commended him on the fact that for the first time a boy had left his parents without a blanket, but he was smart enough to cover the most important place in the world, the belly. Don’t look at the belly. It’s important. The belly is cold and the stomach is thin. I’m not critical of why he didn’t ask because the teacher lived next door. I forgive him. Because I found out that the current child’s ability to ask questions has deteriorated, because he doesn’t have to ask. On the third night, we lived in the Mongol bag in the prairie, and eight children lived in a room, and they were excited. When I got up in the morning to train, a kid came up and told me that the Mongolian bag was cold and I was cold all night. I said, “What about you?” We had to give all the covers and close the gaps in the Mongolian bag. What are you building? It’s funny that eight of us are in a crowd. The boy said that the other boy came over and whispered to me that the hotel was better. When I gathered, I said to all the people, “The warmth of the sun is known to those who pass through the desert, the sweetness of water to those who travel through the desert, and the beauty of the hotel to those who have lived in Mongolian bags.” Two days in a hotel, I don’t know, I think it’s a good home, but today someone said that the hotel is fine, because someone was frozen last night, and I’m sure that the night of the Mongolian bag will never forget you. Indeed, in the closed camp, the children said that they had the greatest harvest in the night of the Mongolian bag. A rich kid stood up and said I lived with my mom and dad in a fancy Mongol bag. It wasn’t fun. For children who have never lived in the wild, living in Mongolia has become an important experience. Even under the best conditions, the children won’t feel comfortable at home. Some kids don’t have life experience, and I told them to lock the door in the Mongol bag because there’s light and bugs fly in.

But some kids are still open, and at 2 p.m. they haven’t slept, and they’ve been fighting moths. The next day I went to see them, a bottle full of moths, and the kids told me with excitement that they slept with the bugs last night. Before I left, I promised the children that I would say, “Great, whatever happens”, so they said, “Great, I spent the night with moths yesterday”. I went to see a little girl who cried in my arms because she wanted to. I think she’s about to cry. I said, “Cry it. She opened her eyes immediately. Really? I said go, put on thick clothes and come with me. On a dark night, I took some girls to the grassland, to a place without light, and looked at the sky, full of stars, and the eyes were shining. They’re all moon children. Have you seen the moon? No, the kids said. I said to the little girl who cried, “Mom didn’t come out of the moon, but she let out the stars, you saw the stars, you were a baby, you were a little star, so your mom didn’t come out to see you.” What star are you? The little girl pointed at the smallest dark star in the world and said, “I am that one.” I told you, you see a bright star next to a little star, and that’s me, because I’m with you, so my mom made you come out. Mom doesn’t worry about the stars. After saying that I was with her, she never cried. The last day she fell in my ear and said, “I’m the star of tears.” The next summer camp, the girl again. The Dragon’s Rehearsal wrote in the Witness: “The mother and father of a father” means only that your fate and that of him means that you and him are constantly seeing him back and forth in this life.” You stand at the end of the road, watching him disappear at the turn of the road, and he whispers to you in his background, without having to pursue. That paragraph is so good that it is our life today. There were two big separations in life, the first one when we came out of Mom’s body and cut the umbilical cord. The second is to live independently when parents are not present. Education is not limited to school education, but lifelong education. Entering nature gives children an infinite imagination, giving them the best opportunity to be more open-minded and brave. I’ve had that experience. The children will have the courage to travel on their own.

Today we talk about how to make a child self-sufficient and independent.

First, it’s a child-in-law;

II. List of jobs for children;

Third: Let go. Let go.

Today we talk about how to foster a sense of responsibility for boys.

General Secretary Xi said that the young generation had ideals, abilities and responsibilities, that the country had a future and that the nation had hope. How can the younger generation be held accountable? So it’s a child’s responsibility to grow up. And how do parents develop a sense of responsibility? Today we talk about this.

1. Fostering a sense of responsibility for boys and giving them a positive attitude from an early age.

I told a lot of boys’ mothers, what’s a son? The son is a man. How does the word “man” sound? A man should be a man, a man with a voice and a voice. Such a kind of boy would certainly be able to perform his or her duties and would be admired and pursued by girls. However, there are now boys who have no choice but to be timid, many whose names are very different from those of the past. In the past, there were steel, iron, mountains, rivers, rivers, seas, tavern, peng, Wei, Cheng, the army, and so forth, now using sheep, goats, babes and Dodos, which shows that times have changed and that the expectations of families for boys have changed. Boys were seen in the past as the roots of the family and the pillars of the future family. Now there is only one child in each family and the only boy is treated as a pet and no longer a heavy job. On the face of it, love has been distorted. Some parents take the girl ‘ s name from a young age to a weak boy, wear the girl ‘ s clothes, abuse the naughty boy and rarely identify and encourage him. Some mothers also often tell people in front of their sons that my son is afraid of the dark, like a girl who does nothing and is stupid. For a long time, she had shaped the boy who was weak and incompetent. What’s love? Love is a feeling. A person can feel his or her worth when he or she is needed by others. When a boy is needed by adults, he can feel how important his young life is, and thus sense a deep love and a strong sense of responsibility.

For a boy, if you want him to be responsible to his country and to the people in the future, from an early age you must prepare him to be responsible to the family, to the parents and to yourself. This noble sense of responsibility needs to be motivated by the needs of parents.

To develop a sense of responsibility for boys, it is necessary to use the child.

Swords don’t have to be rusty, people don’t have to be lazy. A boy can feel his worth when he is needed and used by others. The parents used the boy, and I gave you a wonderful phrase: “Enjoy your son, and say to him that having a son is different without a son”. I said to many parents, “Don’t waste your son. You have to learn to use your son.” A mother ‘ s affirmation of a son is the best way to stimulate the son ‘ s potential. In order to surprise the mother, the son can make a miracle, a dynamic that makes a weak boy a brave man. So parents need to enjoy their sons. Especially Mom, how do you learn to use a son? I feel like a man’s sense to shape a boy. I was also the mother of a boy, and my son was three years old, and once I took him to the bus, and my legs were so soft that I almost fell on the side of the road. What’s wrong with you? I seriously told my son that my mother broke her knee when she was in the country, that she couldn’t get in the car with her son, and that he jumped to the ground with his little hands. I’m glad to say, having a son is different. My son is so proud that he won’t let me hug him again. My son went to the summer of the second grade, and one day I came back from work and he made a cup of tea. The tea is cold, I have a bad stomach, I can’t drink it, but I drink it, and I say, “Great, I’m thirsty. It’s not like having a son is better if the tea is warmer.” The next day I enjoyed a hot cup of tea for my son. One day when my son was in his senior year, he was on a business trip, and I was happy, and I said, “You’re happy, I’m sorry. I have to get home from work and cook for you, sometimes on time.” Who knows if my son beats his chest and says he’s not here and I’m here. A little grown-up. I immediately realized, yes, and you, too. The next day, after school, he came home early, made two dishes and put a bowl on the plate. As soon as I get home, my son says, “Mom, go wash your hands and I’ll give you dinner.” I washed my hands and sat at the table, and my son came with rice, and I ate. My son looked at me and asked me how it tasted. It tasted great. What about the food my dad made? Better than your dad’s cooking. I was exaggerating. Actually, he’s not very good at it. He’s a lot worse than his father, but I ate them all. Soon the son will be the best at cooking. My son went to college, he was as big as a mountain, and every time I went out with me to buy something, I walked in front, and my son followed me with a bag in the back, and I felt like I was showing people that you were different. One year ago, he took me and my husband to the Dragon Lake Temple, and then we had to eat this, and then we had to drink that, and he bought me and his dad a lot of games, and I got a lot of fun and toys, and I was so moved to see my son watching us happy. I was so happy when I thought my son was a little boy. Then he replaced us with a big LCD TV, and my lover said, “Don’t spend your son’s money, I say flowers, nothing, nothing, nothing.” The boy has a man’s sense of responsibility, and he looks at your officers and he comes over and says, “Go ahead, I’ll do it.” In his eyes, you look like a child. The use gives the boy a sense of responsibility and feels like a mountain. It’s good to be on the other side, so the man is called reliable.

III. Fostering a sense of responsibility for boys and learning to be weak.

Mom needs to be a little weak in front of her son and give her a chance to love you and help you. If you’re too strong, your son is afraid. After hearing my report, one of my girlfriends learned to use his son. We met again a few months later, and she was so excited to say to me that when my son was three years old, my husband had gone abroad to study, and I was so afraid that someone upstairs had a big dog, and every time I went upstairs and asked for a dog, I was scared. My husband used to be in the front, I followed him back, and I said to my son, “It’s a mess. Your dad left, I couldn’t even go up the stairs! My son’s on his chest and says, “Don’t be afraid, I’m here. So every time he went upstairs, his son walked in front, and I followed him, and the big dog screamed, and the son ran into me, and said, “Don’t be afraid, I’m coming with me.” And every time I get there, I’m very impressed that having a son is different. One winter night, it was dark, and the grandma was going to take out the garbage, and the son shouted, “Grandmother, don’t move, look at me.” The only way out is for the son to take a small bench, walk to the dark side of the building, put on the bench and turn on the hall light, shout at the grandmother and now come out.

Grandmother almost shed tears and kept saying that it was different to have a man at home. When his son was four years old, he had a fever, and I took him to the needle, and he just stuck it in his ass, and he cried, and I cried. My son didn’t cry right away. Ask me, why are you crying? I said Mom was scared to see you cry. I’m not going in there. Then the next day he went to the nurse alone and said, “Stand, I am a policeman.” After hearing his story, I will laugh before him. You see, a timid son met a mother who was weaker than him, and that man was born with courage. You use men’s standards to shape boys, and boys become brave men. So you’re gonna make mountains, you’re gonna make kids weeds, you’re gonna make kids weeds, you’re gonna make kids weeds, you’re gonna make kids chickens, you’re gonna be chickens, you’re gonna make grasses, you’re gonna make kids weeds, you’re gonna grow mountains, you’re gonna make chicks, you’re gonna make kids an umbrella, you’re gonna get kids up there. That’s the way to raise boys.

4. Fostering a sense of responsibility on the part of the boy, which the mother must not only use but also exaggerate.

Mothers not only love children, but also boast about them. If you grow old and accuse the child, you will lose the child. Boys in particular need to be told that he is important and that he finds his own value. So you run out of kids, don’t forget, having a son is different. One time I went to Wenzhou to lecture, a local council secretary came with a nine-year-old son to listen to my story. The next day the secretary told me that my son was nine years old and had never done anything for me. Yesterday, when the meeting broke down, my son carried my bag and kept looking at me. I told you what you looked at me for. You see that it is not the son who does not want to do things for his parents, but the son who has never been recognized and encouraged by his parents and who has never experienced the pleasure of helping them. A person can only generate momentum and real happiness when needed by others. Sang-suyun is a juvenile judge of the People ‘ s Court of the Haidian District of Beijing, and all juvenile offenders kindly call her judge ‘ s mother. One day I told her the story above, and she lamented that, although I had encouraged many juvenile offenders, I had never praised her son. My son is very kind to me. He’s grown up to work in Shanghai, and he buys most of the electrical appliances. One night, Sang-su-yun called and told me that one day, my son came back from Shanghai, and I couldn’t help but say that having a son is different. It’s good to have a son when I use the washing machine, when I open the refrigerator. I didn’t expect my son to hear that, to shine his eyes and say to me, Ma, you say that again. I said again, my son immediately said, “Mom, wait, I’ll bring you another appliance.” We’re both laughing on the phone, and we’re sure of the boy, he’s good, he’s good, he’s good, he’s good, we’re happy, because it’s a man-specific force. Once, when I made this point on TV, a boy in the middle of the show said to me, “My mother listened to you and cried out to me every day. It was different to have a son. I asked him, “Do you like that?” He said he loved it, and I listened to it, and I was happy. He’s very flattered.

As you see, the greatness of the mother’s desire to be recognized by her mother, who needs her, is not so much the possibility of having her son attend a brand-name university and study abroad, but the desire to give him a sense of accomplishment, to find confidence, to find himself, to find parents and to see what society needs him. When he found that need, he found a responsibility, a happiness.

Today we share the sense of responsibility of parents for how to nurture boys. If there’s one thing you should never forget. Your boy used to say to him, “It’s different to have a son.” There are four important points to remember:

i. Treating the boy as a man and not as a man;

ii. To love a child by using the child to give the son a sense of accomplishment;

The mother shall show weakness in front of her son and create an opportunity for him to help him;

Fourthly, you must not only exaggerate but also exaggerate and express your love for your son.

Hello, I’m Lucien, your sister.

Today we say how to nurture the sense of responsibility of girls.

A sense of responsibility is also important for girls, who are responsible for themselves, for taking care of and protecting themselves; for being responsible and kind to others; and for being responsible and proud of their country. How should parents develop a sense of responsibility for girls? I want to foster a sense of responsibility for girls, and I have a wonderful word to enjoy your daughter and say to her, “It’s good to have a daughter.” When I was a kid, whenever I did something for my parents, they always said, “It’s nice to have a daughter.” That makes me think that my parents need me most, that they appreciate me most, that in fact, six kids are good in their eyes. Growing up, I used to go out for interviews, I didn’t have time to spend with my parents, and I felt very guilty, so I bought them lots and lots of good food every time I went out. My mother said it was nice to have a daughter, who sat at home and ate good food all over the country, so I became more motivated to buy. I always wanted to bring happiness to my parents, to give them a happy old age, and I felt a sense of psychological satisfaction in the parents’ admiration for having a daughter. “It’s good to have a daughter.” It’s a parent’s appreciation of her daughter, and it’s a big incentive for her. It allows daughters to see their own worth, to be optimistic and confident, to learn to be kind and caring. Then what’s the word for it? There are three words. Don’t forget.

First, the daughter is a father’s exaggeration, and the father’s appreciation is the light in her heart.

For the girl, the father was the first person he ever met, and the father’s love gave her a lifetime knowledge of the opposite sex. Girls are said to be lovers of the father’s last life and, to a large extent, the criteria for the choice of a daughter’s spouse after growing up are often linked to the memory of the father. A girl’s access to father’s care from an early age helps to develop her good personality, her open mind and her ability to interact. On the contrary, if a girl loses her father’s love from childhood, it is easy to choose a father-like boyfriend when choosing a spouse, or to always hate men. A daughter loved by a father is happy and a father loved by a daughter is happy. Fathers who love their daughters learn to enjoy their daughters and often say to them that it is good to have a daughter. A young father told me that one day, my wife was not home and I was sick and lying alone in bed. My five-year-old daughter came back from kindergarten, came gently to the bed, touched my head with her hand, whispered, “You have a fever, don’t cry, I’ll get you medicine.” She ran into her room, took two VCs for children, poured a glass of cold water, said, “Be good, take medicine, not bitter, delicious.” And We took the medicine, and We shed our tears while we were not aware of it, and there was a feeling of happiness in my heart. “It’s nice to have a daughter,” I said. Then my daughter took more care of me, and when the father and daughter said that, they said it softly, softly, not rudely, “It’s good to have a daughter” and made the child think you’re stupid. When a father regularly uses his daughter and relies on her daughter, the father becomes the bond of her daughter’s heart, and she will think of you at all times and miss you.

The daughter of Wang Yif, the world shooting champion, was a student in a primary school in Zongwen District, Beijing. One time, Wang Yife was going to a major international competition, and Wang Yife’s daughter was not at school for the last few days, and she kept thinking about what would happen to Dad. When she left school at noon, she ran to a mall, saw a lot of people watching television, and she squeezed over, and suddenly heard that Wang Yif had a copper medal. My daughter ran home crying. What happened to her? It’s fine, fine. After that, he ran to his room and wrote a diary that said, “Dad is the best without the gold medal”. Wang Yif told me that when I saw the words written by my daughter, I shed my tears and my daughter was the gold in my heart. I feel very powerful when I think about my daughter every time I race. I really think, “It’s nice to have a daughter.” If the mother is the earth, then the father is the blue sky, and if the earth is the creation of life, then the blue sky should embrace the world, and the heavens and the earth are the same, so that everything can grow in harmony and health. This is the rule of natural development, in which all fathers of the world take their daughters with their big hearts, appreciate their daughters and accompany them on the path of life. “It’s good to have a daughter” is a Chinese-style, emotional compliment, and if you can be used by your parents more often, your daughter will change wonderfully, and you will become a girl forever. Daughters are born to love, so they’re cute.

Secondly, a good daughter is used by her mother, and the cotton is warm only when she wears it.

They say that the daughter is a little tampons, but the tampons are hot only when they are on their bodies, and it’s so cool when they’re thrown in the snow. Many mothers now care too much about their daughters, and they don’t let their children do anything but study, which turns them into selfish, lazy, lazy and incapable of love. Such girls are socially unwelcome. If you want to develop a sense of responsibility for a girl, the mother must change the way she loves, and love and enjoy the love that her daughter has given you.

In this regard, a woman journalist from a newspaper has a personal feeling. One summer, she went to our summer camp with her daughter in primary school, but I was surprised that at one event, the daughter had taken a terrible public attitude towards her mother and had no regard for her face. When I spoke to this journalist friend afterwards, she said, sadly, that as parents, we do not have to listen to the gratitude of our daughters, but does she look the other way when they work every day? Then I asked what happened to your daughter at home? She said that she came home every day after school and sat on the couch watching TV, and that dinner would be in front of her. Every time I drag the floor and wipe it under her feet, she naturally lifts her feet, and if nothing happens, she buys good food every time, sure she needs it, and she eats it. It was only fair for her to enjoy herself, and not just for my children, to talk to the people around and feel that today’s children have this disease, that it doesn’t matter, that it seems indifferent. I told her that you took too much care of the children’s lives and gave her too little sense of responsibility, which was called “mothers, daughters lazy”. So I introduced her to her, to enjoy her son’s experience, and said to her, “I have never been a strong man in front of a child, and I have not created everything. Let him enjoy it in front of him, and the son always stands above me.” Sometimes he slaps me on the shoulder and learns from Prime Minister Zhou. I promised to thank the Chief for his concern. Only if he helps you. She thinks it’s a good move, and she decides to try and turn the chatter into an appreciation. One day after the summer camp, the female journalist took her daughter out with her and had a lot of luggage, and she had the intention of showing up on the ground and feeling uncomfortable. The daughter saw, said nothing and took over more than half. Look at this child, with his shoulder on his back, my mother kept telling herself not to be soft, and she kept going. I’m sure my daughter helped my mother, and with her sense of achievement, she came to the spirit, on the way, took care of her mother, and said, “You sleep well, you don’t mind me at night.” Come and ask me later. Do you drink water? Are you okay? Mom said it’s nice to have a daughter! The daughter was so strong, she came to her destination, she was like a grown-up, running around in front of the bus, she grew up a lot. Returning home, women journalists have not hesitated to continue to consolidate their performance. After work, instead of playing a full-hearted mother as before, it seems never to fall. My daughter also noticed these minor changes, knowing that Mom worked hard and often came to the kitchen to ask, “Mom, what can I do?” At this point, the mother must find a job for her daughter, so she can feel that she needs her help to make this meal.

Sometimes my mother lays on the couch, and it’s rarely in the eyes of her daughter, and she immediately comes in, comes in and massages her mother, and orders to keep her under the ground, to rest, to relax her eyes, to relax her ears, to relax her face, to work hard and to sweat! My mother, with tears in her eyes, said to herself, “It’s good to have a daughter”, saying that the changes in her daughter, and the extraordinary excitement of the female journalist, said that now I really feel good to have a daughter in my heart. I didn’t teach the child much before, but because of the reason, it turned into chatter, which eventually led to the child’s inversion. The more you say, the more she doesn’t do, the more she does, the more you want to say, the more you slowly refine her daughter.

In fact, the daughter is not indifferent to us, and sometimes she wants to say something to us, but we keep talking to her, and perhaps it is we who make the child so cold. I therefore believe that, when it comes to developing a child’s feelings, it turns the order into an appreciation, and it turns the endless chatter into a passionate phrase, “It’s so good to have a daughter”, and things change magically. Look, this woman is so good at expressing her feelings, I believe it’s true.

Thirdly, the girl’s talent comes from the letter.

To your daughter, everything depends on you. It all depends on you, in a simple sentence that says that parents have a high level of trust in their children, and imagine that when we adults win the trust of others, we will be able to use the potential of our work, not to mention a minor child.

Remember once when I went to Chongqing to set up a phone call, the Minister of Youth of the Chongqing City Committee took her 4-year-old daughter with me on a tour of the landscape? I pretended I’d never been here, and if I got lost, I’d never find a home. The little girl grabbed my hand and said, “It’s okay, I’m here.” Well, I’ll be glad to have you. It’s the first time I’ve ever been in a cable car, and I’ve been a little scared to say, “No, I’m afraid I’ll fall.” Don’t be afraid, there’s me. The little girl took me to the cable car, leaned close to me and smiled and said, “What do you say?” With me, you can rest assured. I’m touched by this lovely girl, and I feel so loved and cared for by children, and I’m quick to say it’s all up to you. She asked me, “Have you had fun?” I crouched down and looked at her beautiful eyes and said that thanks to you today, I was so happy and not afraid. The girl honestly said that the next time you came, please call me and I’ll be with you. The next day, her mother told me that her daughter was very excited when she came home, and she said to Dad that she was a very important person and that if she had not, she would have been a bad sister. For adults, it is happiness to accept the love of children. But to give love to others, to understand, to accept, to understand, to be happier and happier than to accept love from adults.

I told you this lesson, how should parents nurture a sense of responsibility? There are three main points:

Okay, I’ll see you tomorrow.

What kind of great wisdom should parents of the new age have today for this last lesson?

What is wisdom? It’s smart, smart, stupid. Know what’s smart, know what’s smart. It’s stupid what’s impossible. Learn the wisdom of love, you have to get out of the wrong zone of love. There are five major areas of error in family education today.

High expectations lead to hopelessness.

Others learn what their children do; others have what they have, and they have what they want. They fear nothing more than others. They fear losing on the line.

Such parents have never thought about the need, suitability or interest of their children, but are they only interested in giving them a head start, studying for schools, universities, studies abroad and study abroad? Lonely depression, high psychological stress, severe mental illness among children and suicide. Either way, you’re the kid’s starting line.

Excessive protection leads to incompetence of children.

Many parents can afford their children. From childhood, children are raised, fed, worn, bought a car, looked after, married and raised children, looked after grandchildren, taken over and delivered, spent their whole lives working for their children, never actually lived on their own, but what was the result? Children are ruthless, have no filial heart, and some are tragic because their parents are too restrained and have too little room for free choice. At the International Forum of University Rectors, one of the principals of a secondary school spoke about this. One of the new college students, his mother, had his clothes numbered at home, which one of them was written very clearly. One day, it suddenly became cold, and the student was still dressed according to her mother ‘ s number, wearing only one thin dress, and had a cold cold. He was very unhappy and called his mother and asked why I wore this today. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I didn’t know it was going to happen today.

iii. Excessive indoctrination brings the cruelty of children.

There are two basic needs in life: material and spiritual. Many parents are able to satisfy their children ‘ s material needs indefinitely, but they are indifferent to their spiritual needs, resulting not only in emotional suffering and suffering, but also in the desolation of the child ‘ s spiritual world and even in a human deficit. When you get to society, you’re alien to the surroundings, and some are even negative.

4. Excessive interference leads to childlessness.

The worst thing in the world is the heart of a child. Times have changed, environments have changed, children have changed, we’ve changed. Knowing the child’s heart is a very difficult thing for parents today. Today ‘ s children yearn to be read by adults, and their family income has reached a small level in the material world. But in the spiritual world, their hearts are hungry. They need to be understood, trusted and recognized. What they lack is not education, but care; what they need is not material enjoyment, but the ability to heal the wounds of their hearts.

5. Too many accusations give rise to children ‘ s uncertainty.

Every day, we get calls from many parents, some even come to me for interviews, some of them are anxious, some of them are crying, and, despite their different performances, all for one purpose, not for the children. My son doesn’t go to school, he doesn’t listen, he does small moves; my daughter’s homework is slowly swallowing, she’s dying; my child has a problem with larceny; my child has little guts; my son is fighting again; I’ve never seen such a stupid son. In a questionnaire, there was a question: What was your first sentence to children when they made a mistake? Fifty-three percent of the parents who accepted the questionnaire said, “You look at someone, and I’ll be happy if you have half of him.” What’s wrong with you? From this, we can see that some parents are unable to properly evaluate their children, and the key is that evaluation criteria are problematic. They often think that their children are geniuses and their own children are stupid; others are gold and their own children are sand. They always think that reminding the child to see someone else’s performance can inspire the child to move forward, but it turns out to be counterproductive.

Last year, a boy in the second grade of junior high school in Shandong, who had been second in his class, could not get first in the class, had been the first to be mutilated, had been stabbed with more than a dozen knives, on the grounds that I was the first to be killed. What a terrible thing this is. None of this is what we want. Because of our stupidity, our children and ourselves.

Today it is imperative to promote intelligent parenthood. How should parents love their children? I summed up the wisdom of the six kinds of love and shared it with you today:

I. Wisdom love, knowing to use children; stupid love, always looking after children.

Swords don’t sharpen, children don’t get lazy. Stupid parents are willing to be babysitting their children, to work for them, to dress and even feed their children at home, and to carry the pot of water out of the house for the children’s backpacks and drawing boards, which are for the children’s own good.

The child simply doesn’t look at the hard work of his parents, and he thinks that you should serve me and who gave birth to me. It is difficult for such children to adapt to society when they grow up and become ruthless and irresponsible. Parents carry everything for their children as children, and how can they be expected to carry the world in the future?

Wisdom parents will use their children so cleverly, they will be given a heavy role from an early age, and they will support the children in doing whatever they can; and they will accept whatever children do for their parents, even if they bring a glass of water, and they will honestly say to their sons that having a son is different. Children feel useful when they listen to it and work for their parents. When they grow up, such children are often responsible and able to cope.

Wisdom love likes to inspire children; stupid love always blames children.

Choo-choo-choo-choo-choo-choo-choo-choo-choo-choo-choo. You see, this is a lot of parents’ rhetoric. As a result, children growing up in denial are extremely vulnerable to hostility and self-abuse. “Good, boy, you’re better than yesterday! “It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter. Success is behind failure.” Children can be confident when they see their progress. Children growing up in tolerance will be extremely patient. Severe parents can’t allow children to make mistakes and verbal abuse of children when they make mistakes is forcing children to lie. As a result, the children learned to escape and to avoid responsibility. Children who grow up to blame will be easy to blame. Smart parents understand that any child’s experience of growing up is a process of making mistakes, of knowing mistakes, of recognizing mistakes, of changing mistakes, and that not allowing children to make mistakes is harm to the child, so they patiently help the child to understand mistakes and let him feel the consequences of his or her behaviour, which we often say is self-pity and that the child learns to be responsible for his or her actions.

Wisdom love, be careful to share it with the child; stupid love, only for the child.

Imbecile parents give their children good food, good food and good food, and they enjoy it and fear that they will lose their children. Alone is like a demon that makes children greedy. Children who grow up in their own lives are selfish and indifferent, have no one else, have no parents in their hearts and have no friends with them. When a child grows up, parents do not feel a little happiness from the child.

Wisdom parents grow up in sharing, a source of happiness. When a person is happy in sharing, his inner world becomes big, and he takes the hearts of others into his own heart, and he takes their feelings into account. So he learned to care, to love, to have better relationships in society. When he was a child, he gave his own strength, thus creating a sense of achievement and value, and when he grew up to be a person of benefit to the people. He understood that it was not because he had it, but because he had it.

iv. Wisdom love, believing in children; stupid love, always doubting children.

Parents in doubt always look at their children with a suspicious eye, do not believe that a child who steals money from his family will do good, do not believe that a child who steals money from his family will be better, and do not think that a child is a liar or that they always talk about a child lying in front of everyone. In the eyes of your doubt, the child will choose to continue lying, and when he grows up he will become a man of no faith, even a thief.

Wisdom parents have always believed in their children, looking at them with trust, and they believe that their children are good, even if they are guilty. They often look at the bright spots of their children in the eyes of discovering the new continent, and they feel the power of trust in the unique eyes of their parents, “Mother believes in you,” so they try to be positive and fear losing it. Children who grow up in identity will be in control of their goals, and lovers will love themselves, understanding people’s feelings, and becoming wonderful. Parents believe in children, they believe in themselves and trust awakens sleeping giants.

Wisdom love is good at discipline, and foolish love only indulges in children.

Stupid parents think that loving a child is everything that the child wants, whatever it may be unreasonable, and that the child does whatever it wants, whether it should or not. The children were thus left untouched from childhood, deprived of law and order, or even in violation of the law, thus ruining their lives. The parents do not understand the truth: if you want to make the child a tragedy, you have to give him everything.

Wisdom parents believe that the child needs to be managed, that the rules need to be learned, that letting go is not lax, and that love is not love. It is responsible for the child ‘ s life to help her/his child develop good behaviour from childhood. Loves a child requires wisdom, and wise parents care not only what the child has received today, but also what the child can use tomorrow; not only what the child has packed today, but also what the child should throw away, leaving the mind as free as the room’s school bag, always to accept new things.

vi. Wisdom love values the process, and foolish love values only the results.

The greatest wealth of life is experience, which is important for children to experience success and failure. Stupid parents value the results and tell their children to succeed and not fail. One parent even asked the child to take the first test, not the second, and not to go home before the first. As a result, the daughter was 0:05 and jumped to suicide without first passing. One year, on 2 September, the eldest son of a famous man died of depression as a result of injuries sustained in a bicycle race, jumping from his home and dying. The bitter lessons tell us that fame is something outside and that it is the experience that is for us. As long as the parents of the result, they end up with a child who does everything by his means, who does everything in his power and who is eager to achieve it.

Wisdom parents look at the process and think that children grow up and leave their parents sooner or later, and break out of the world themselves instead of making them angry and helpless when they fail, falling and beating from a young age, experiencing failure and suffering and bumping into the courage and ability to face life. The smart parents are concerned not with running a hundred metres, but with getting up in dignity when they fall; with the blood on their knees, how to clean up the wounds and how to wrap them up; with the children participating in the show, the smart parents are concerned not with the children getting a few applauses, but with whether they did their best to get rid of them. The Queen of the League has a poem that says, “Don’t exaggerate, just keep your breath clean.”

The wisdom of parents is, in essence, to be calm and always to be optimistic and positive. As parents, do you want to make your kids happy? Do you want a happy life for a child? So let’s be brave, let’s put the child down, walk into the child’s world in a wise way, give the child a loving childhood, and build a close and warm relationship with the child.

“Luqin’s son and son: No yelling, no raising a good child.”

I don’t know.

Keep your eyes on the road.