As we move forward with our relationship, we need to keep an eye on these two errors:
1. Comfortableness is the basis for ignoring the relationship between men and women
2. Make love.
Most of them are in love, from acquaintances to ordinary friends, and then slowly become familiar and warmer to the couple stage.
Today, I’m drawing this “the bottom logic of warming up” into a “Four Circles Forward” map, which will make it easier for you to understand the process of love and to learn how to move the relationship forward through chat.
It’s all dry.
First: Comfort. It’s the basis for moving forward.
Why do you like to play with someone because they bring you happiness and comfort, or you won’t talk to each other.
People have the right to avoid harm and gain.
Seeing good comes close, leaving away the perverse nature of exclusion.
When many boys and girls fall in love, girls always say:
1) I really don’t feel for you.
I don’t want to be in love right now.
We should be friends.
You’re nice, but we don’t fit.
But in fact, all these words are telling you, “I don’t like you, leave me alone!”
It seems to be unattractive, but the bottom line is because you don’t feel comfortable with her.
So, it’s so strange to say, “comfort” as a highly subjective adjective, how can it be quantified?
In fact, the simplest sense of comfort is:
a. Mutual understanding of speeches
b. Caring for each other ‘ s emotions in advancing relationships
c. No awkwardness when dating
d. Giving each other equal in love
But when many people get together, they care more about their feelings, ignore each other’s emotions, and when the balance of feelings is uneven, relations naturally break.
And the second: moving love.
Many boys, when they pursue girls, always give themselves to “psychological efforts” and try to impress them and make them like themselves.
Even when they don’t like themselves for it, they feel anger.
The mistake of this is that once you want to “get” your feelings with “pay,” it’s essentially to turn love into a trade.
So it’s probably hard to understand. We’ll take this step out:
You give a gift to meet a girl’s needs.
Is the process familiar? Is this the way we do business?
But love is not a trade, love is a emotional, trade is rational.
When you pay for it in the eyes of a girl, you get a means to her, your heart ceases to be sincere, but instead you do something. Your good looks to you as love and affection, but a girl as a means to pursue herself.
So don’t go after someone with a self-momentation. You don’t have to be mean. It’s about the tension that comes with the comfort of two people.
That’s why the idea of a man being in love turns into this:
A girl likes the comfort of being with her when she’s a friend.
I. Quadripartite Key Advances
In line with the above, the relationship between boys and girls has advanced, and can be divided into four steps:
Strange friends, intimacy.
Each stage, as a ring, moves from being a friend to being an intimate couple, to leaping from a friend phase to a obscurity phase and, finally, an intimate phase.
Focus! Keyword here — step by step (not able to jump).
The right and healthy love is: the four rings leap out of intimacy.
A step-by-step approach is required to complete one thing or goal, especially if there is a warmer relationship in the relationship between the two parties, and it is only when they have at each stage a sufficient sense of comfort and comfort, and then you slowly try to lift the relationship to the next stage.
How can we talk if we want to move on?
Let’s give you a simple formula:
The topic, you and me, the relationship.
It means that the topic you’re talking about is consciously moving in the direction of relations and feelings. Only then will you advance your relationship, not just on the matter.
Note: This formula is not needed at the friend-to-friend phase of a strange phase, and you just need to talk to each other, and when you exchange information, it’s appropriate to become friends.
Specifically:
It’s a beautiful day!
– Well, it’s a nice day for us to go shopping.
“Them: Weather. You and me: us. Relationship extension: going shopping together.”
If at this point both sides have an intention to move on to the obscurity stage, we can add more details: well, the weather is good and it’s good for us to join hands.
To give another example:
Man: How old are you?
Female: XX years
Man: This is the best age for love.
“The topic: Age. You and I: Love implies relationships. The relationship extends: the age of love — the emotional migration.”
The advantage of doing so — you are no longer just talking about the topic, but you are trying to move the relationship forward, so that you can get the topic up and moving forward.
PS: Many people have been in love for a long time without making progress because they have not been able to move forward in a timely manner, have been talking to each other at the level of the topic, have not helped in their feelings, and have been wandering at a friend’s stage.
This explains why we all like each other, but friends have been friends for years and they haven’t been lovers.
I understand this little formula, and this is the most important part of this article, and the most difficult, most important part of emotional advancement — the way friends talk about incoherent relationships.
I call it “4 Plank ax” chat to warm up.
ii. “4 Plank axe” chat
In the course of these contacts, many people struggled with the “friend phase” and did not have the courage or know how to get a relationship up.
In general, in a relationship, if one of the parties takes the initiative to promote a relationship, the other party has to give its consent, even if it wants to have a relationship with you.
And the key to the success of the pull-up is that the other side is interested in you, and it’s good.
Only at this point in time are you the most likely to be successful in pulling up a relationship.
The key word at this time is “test and pull.”
At a time when you’ve been friends, you’ve reached a certain point in your relationship, and you can try to say a little bit of ambiguity, and you can move on even further if you don’t, and if you don’t, you can go back to being friends.
(Note that this level is very important and should not be used in an easy manner when the other party is not in a very good mood.
We can change by name, test and pull up:
For example:
Man: Honey, it’s early tomorrow.
Woman: Mm-hmm. Okay.
— Default consent to continue to try to lift deeper
And for example:
Honey, get up early tomorrow.
Who do you call dear?
— Exclusion doesn’t like it, back to continue to be friendly and attractive.
It’s all about emotional mobilization, love comes from emotions.
First hatchet: If you want to raise an axe first
We see a roller coaster or something that turns us on, but most people can’t help but try, because it makes you addictive.
It’s the same thing when you talk, and if you keep talking, the other side may find you boring, and your relationship with you is getting less and less, and when you talk funny, the other side probably likes to talk to you.
Whether it’s to advance or to say, “You’re interesting to her because she can’t guess you through the changes in words that drive each other’s emotions.”
For example:
Woman: I’m starving.
“I’ll give you something to eat” — it’s so boring, like a movie that you can easily guess.
Response mode:
Do you want to eat?
Woman: Yes.
Man: I won’t give it to you.
Woman:
Man: I’m kidding. I’ll make you a big meal.
You can see that when the subject becomes inconvenient, it’s fun to talk. By contrast, the conversational approach to solving the problem would seem rather flat.
(Of course, this article is mainly about talking methods, what to do, what to do, and what to do, remember, it’s to make you warm and points, not to promote language instead of action.
And when you make each other feel interesting, her affection for you rises, and it’s easy for you to try to pull up the relationship.
Second panel: unexpected.
It means that you have to feel like you’re talking to her.
Still, you’re not interested in a movie that’s being blown out of your mind, and you’re attracted to it when it’s a good story.
Formula: Half-word + reasonable transition
Specific approaches:
First, you cut off what you want to say and only say half, and then you make it reasonable to say what she would expect.
For example:
Woman: How’s this new dress I bought?
Man: You look so beautiful.
Woman: Ha ha, really.
Man: Seriously, I’m tired of lying.
Woman: Don’t stop me, I’ll hammer you!
Let’s just say half the point, and let the girls think you’re directing to A, and you’re probably saying “A,” but suddenly you turn to B, and it’s kind of unexpected.
The advantage of doing so is to draw attention to each other, to make the topic more comfortable and to make relationships easier.
PS: This process is to be said naturally, not to be embarrassed about using formulas, which is against the nature of our conversation.
A third ax: provoking love ax
It’s to get each other to love you from the friend stage, so you can naturally pull it up.
This technique is called “reverse pursuit.”
Formula 1: Do you want xx me XXX?
Formula 2: Without my XXX bad, with my XXX good
Both formulas can be used at all costs, with the same effect: they make her like you.
Formula 1, for example:
Woman: I’m hungry.
Man: Want me to cook for you?
Woman: Yes.
Formula 2: Examples:
Woman: I’m hungry.
Man: I can’t even eat without you. If I were here, I wouldn’t let you starve.
The effect is to give a girl a feeling that she would be better off with you.
PS: The premise of this technique must be to make sure that the other party is interested in you, and it would be strange to say that.
4x: Image implanted with an axe
In the end, romantic love scenes are embedded in the conversation to create the fantasy of love.
Specific formula: Romantic profile + vision of future
For example:
“Implanting Couples: After you cook, I wash dishes. So let’s just say you’ll eat one before you eat.
“Inflection of body contact: When you cook, I hold you from behind, hoping to set the time. I’m sorry.
“Inflicted Incognito: Don’t look at me like that, it makes me want to kiss you.” I’m sorry.
These romantic scenes can be seen in iconic plays, love novels, love movies, which require your usual accumulation and learning to express.
It’s easy to be shy when you’re in love, when you’re in love and your relationship’s getting warmer.
IV. At the end of the day, the warming relationship orientation – dating
Never mind how good it is to talk. The end result of a warmer relationship is — dating, actually.
How do we know if we’ve succeeded in raising our relationship?
Three methods:
Change of name or intimate conversation
Some special names can be given to each other.
Like, honey, baby, little jerk, little baby.
Or say something intimate.
Like, I dreamt of you last night. Did you miss me?
When you say that, if the other party does not reject it or even likes it, it means that your relationship has advanced to a obscurity, and dating and being a couple is a natural development.
Realistic invitation
Talking to the end, it’s all about dating and getting along.
When you feel like you’re doing well with each other, you can just throw out the offer:
Like, come out sometime.
If you like it, you’ll be happy to say yes, and then you’ll be on a date.
PS: Don’t use all kinds of techniques for chatting, all of them to help you go too far to date.
Remember, it’s a good way to talk to people who actually get along and develop feelings. Record number: YX11YEYEAEWK
I don’t know.
Keep your eyes on the road.
